EasyHeart Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 --- Man meets woman in bar. They hit it off immediately and end up having sex in a hotel room that night. --- The relationship moves quickly. Within a week they are exclusive and within two he is regularly spending the night with her. Both agree they have never felt this way before and think they have an excellent chance at marriage. --- Both people are adults. She is divorced mom with one child. He is divorced dad with three children from two different women. --- Within the first month, he is spending regular time with her son, including the three of them going to church together. Around one month she meets his children and shortly thereafter the children are spending time with each other on weekends as a family. --- After about a month, man loses job as is forced to sell his house. Starts looking for work, but the market is very bad. --- Around two month mark, woman meets a male friend for lunch (the two have never dated or slept together). They conversation gets very flirtatious, and the two hour lunch ends with a brief make-out session in her car. Woman has trouble concentrating at work because she keeps thinking about having sex with male friend. --- Woman and male friend spend next two weeks talking daily. Much of the talk is either flirtatious or her complaining about her boyfriend. --- Around 2.5 months, woman meets man's parents and she adores them. --- The next day, woman and man have long, serious talk in which she tells him that he is too needy and insecure. She wants to keep dating him, but tells him he needs to stop calling her constantly and stop asking her where she is and what she's doing all the time. She also complains that he is not assertive enough in the bedroom. He explains that he is just stressed because of work and financial issues, and things will change. She admits that she has a tendency to get claustrophobic in relationships and agrees that she is partially at fault, too. She has also been stressed from looking for and starting a new job. --- Both agree to focus on relationship and do their best to make it work. Will this relationship last?
Sivok Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Woman needs to stop emotionally cheating on her man with said friend. Man is suffering from insecurity, seems rightfully so. Only time will tell
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 I doubt the problem is that she "gets chlausterphobic in relationships," or that "he is too insecure and needy." The problem is that she makes out with other guys while in relationships.
RedRussian Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Women is a commitment phobe aka ( chlausterphobic in relationships ) they come on hard and fast first aka sex on first date for ex. then try to find reason to get out, cheat whatever to make other side brake up with them first for whatever reason if they can if not they will just run. Women will do this with next guy and the next, such is lifestyle of this creature.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Will this relationship last? I'm not optimistic. They moved WAAAAAAAAY too fast, and put more expectations on the new relationship than it could reasonably support. The fact that he became clingy right away is a huge problem. The fact that she made out with another guy at the two month mark is a huge problem. The fact that both have met the others kids, families, etc. so early will make the disentanglement process harder, no doubt about it. The fact that they've all been brought into the mix so soon is another problem. I predict it will end within a couple of months. Sorry to be blunt, but I call them as I see them.
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