jlr Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 In case you missed my last post: My ex of 5 years waited outside my band's last show (3 weeks or so ago) to tell me she's getting married, and then to argue back and forth about our past. It was the first time I'd seen her or talked to her in 6 months. I tried to avoid the whole thing, as she had been waiting outside the show most the evening, as she apparently moved with the new dude to an apartment near the venue. But she caught me at the end of the night, walking out. She also proceeded to argue/reminisce/etc. on the phone and texts for a day after this. On Friday, she left me a voicemail saying she saw I posted some picture of my dog with this old dog me and her used to have. We had to give the other dog away years ago, because she didn't do so well in the small apartment we had (she was a St. Bernard). I posted the pic to my MSN Hotmail Profile. My dog is getting old, and I've been sentimental about it, so I've been putting up old pics of him, and one of them happened to be an old one with him and the dog we used to have together. She said that she was "hurt" when she saw the picture, and that she wanted to discuss it. And that she didn't want there to be bad blood between us, or for me to hate her or whatever. And that she knew I had a show that night, so if she sees me, she'll see me. The message went on and my phone cut her off. She then sent two texts, basically saying that she wants me to let the past go, so we can all move on positively. And one that said "sorry for contacting you when you're at work." First off, why was she looking at my MSN Hotmail profile? We're not friends on FB, or Myspace or anything. I don't even know if we're connected on the MSN thing. It's just a profile though. It just says like what music and books you like, so it's not like she can see what I'm up to. Second, I can post whatever the hell I want. It was a picture of my dog with another dog. It wasn't a picture of us making out. And even if it was, she's got a new dude who she's engaged to. What the hell is she doing looking at my stuff. Third, how did she know my band is playing on a certain night? Luckily, she had it wrong by a day. So I didn't see her outside the show on Saturday, because she must've lingered outside that place on Friday, since her message said "I see you have a show tonight" when it was actually the next day. Fourth, how am I not letting the past go? I haven't called her or anything in 6 months. I've been minding my own ****ing business. She has tried contacting ME. WTF? Fifth, she doesn't understand: I don't hate her. I love her. That's why this is so hard. She wants me to just be "OK" with everything, and to be cool with her, and shoot the ****. Sorry, I can't do that. If that's what she means by let the past go, then she doesn't understand how things work. My feelings are my feelings, and I have a right to them. They don't have to allign with hers. I dunno. I'm not going to answer her this time. I've ignored it. Last time was sort of unavoidable, but I'm lucky this time I can just ignore the calls/texts. I'm sure there will be more. I think she's gone crazy. If she's so happy and all this ****, marrying some dude she's known for like 1/5 of the time I knew her, why does she keep popping up lately? And does he know she's doing this ****? Because I'd be pretty hurt if my fiance was doing this.
Heatemyheart89 Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 She obviously feels some guilt.she wants you to not hate her so she can move on.ignore her.her guilt isn't your problem.
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