uk18m Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Hello, Basically me and my gf have been together nearly 9 weeks, there was a month or so build up to us eventually getting together. Things were going great, I was so happy, and she seemed the same. Everyday we would text/phone eachother all the usual relationship refinements. I enjoyed it. Since about 2weeks ago things went down hill, I noticed her getting snappy constantly, never replying to msgs, just being a general bitch. I put it down to Pmt and tried to keep a straight head. Shes a great girl and i really dont want to loose her....Today things took a bad turn i confronted her of a few issues. Just basicly the fact that i could do with a touch more security in the relationship, just to generdally feel wanted again. I cant remember the last time she actually complimented or did anything good towards my favour. She originally came out of a long relationship where the ex used to allow her no freedom for years. He basicly controlled her. Iv started to notice that even if i drop her a text on a night out to see if she is generally ok that id get no reply....I confronted her about this mainly today, she now has tried to make out im tryin to control her etc and basicly seen her arse. Iv asked her to meet me and chat things through shes doesnt fancy it, i tex her a long msg explainin my part, and just how much i think we could work and need to sort things out.... Till now iv still had no reply... The question is, How much space do i give her...Its going to kill me ignoring her, not being able to ring her or watever each day but if it sorts things with her then il do watever. Im going to back off and give her some space, i just dont know how long, I dont want to leave it too long then loose her totally. I cant describe how stressed i am atm with work in general, let alone this **** on to. Thanks
Kira Night Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 You're right. Give her the time. You don't need to be smoldering her with attention. Girls need time to take in what's going on and put in perspective their relationships. Since you're completely different from her ex (controlling, limited freedom) she needs to come to terms with that. I'm going through something similar where things all of a suddenly changed from a good thing. You just need to give her space. She'll come back if it was meant to be.
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