Serenitynow Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 You are dating someone, you arent sure how the person feels about somthing. So instead of communicating with the person you come on here asking strangers to decide what you should do. How is that fair to the other person in the relationship ? Especially when most of the time you already have your mind made up once you see them again. I just cant beleive how many people come on here and ask the most generalized questions about their date/partner and expect people to steer them in the right direction. NONE of us know how much of the story from the OP is even bent/twisted/made-up just so the OP can psychologically lean the replies to their side and then use that to make a decision. I just hope people are intelligent enough not to base all the speculation from here on their decision. .
Cracker Jack Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 A funny one I remember from a good while back was "Should I cheat on my boyfriend?" But yeah, I hear you. Certain things are fine to ask for, but most things need to be straight-up discussed with their partner.
USMCHokie Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 You make some good points here. People often come to LS with questions because they just want affirmation of what they are thinking, and yes, they often will spin the story in a light most favorable to their position. But I know plenty of LS'ers who are experienced and intelligent and will see right through all that bullsh*t. One particular situation that comes to mind is the 18 year old girl who asked about moving in with his 31 year old boyfriend who was a drug user. She spun the story seventeen ways to Saturday in hopes that someone would tell her that things would work out. But seriously...a lot of us are not idiots... On the other hand, people often cannot make rational and smart decisions on matters of love because they are not thinking clearly...emotions tend to cloud our judgment and make us see things (and also not see things) that are readily apparent to the unbiased and uninterested third party...and in that respect, opinions and speculation from "strangers" is often the best advice these posters could receive... Finally, I've been here long enough to know the members with a good head on their shoulders, who have lived through enough crap in their lives and made their share of mistakes to know right from wrong, good from bad...I trust them... But like you said, it's also a matter of the posters using their own intelligence to make their own decision.
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