roseeee Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Hi I'm a 24year Girl,I've had sex with my boyfriend since last year and I've never had orgasm! we have tried different positions,some told me it's my mental problem,but when I'm alone and masturbate I don't have any problems! what should I do?????
Engadget Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 You might be trying too hard to do it, or feel pressure to do it and then can't. My ex never had one and it took a while to get her to finally relax and go with it, then she could all the time.
MorningCoffee Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 If your self-soothing works when alone, then why not try masturbating while your bf watches from out of your line of sight? Or sort of just kisses or snuggles with you? It can be really hot. Perhaps gradually your inhibitions when together will melt away.
Serenitynow Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I've never had orgasm! This really isnt the place to come for answers to that. I would recommend going online to actual sites that deal with this. Or consulting your doctor, or going to a book store to read up on it. There are many many females that have trouble reaching orgasm with their partner but can orgasm by themselves like breathing air. If you TRULY want to try to work at it. This forum wont really help, unless someone has a good link they can give you.
Sivok Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Alot of girls have issues with vaginal orgasms. Some good positions to try and use are Missionary with a pillow underneath the butt and legs bent backwards towards the head, as well as doggy with your upper body leaning down against the bed. Also, it really helps to manually stimulate your clit during intercourse. It's really the best way to climax if you have trouble climaxing via intercourse alone. Have him try oral and fingering too
Cinnamon Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 I have the same problem. Nothing could help me. I guess men do not do the right thing that should be done for me. Some girls fake it for the sake of relationship because 'O' is a must for many men.
Sivok Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Another thing that works is for the guy to lightly push down on the girls pelvic region with one hand during missionary - creates more friction
MisUnderstanding Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 There are many websites that will give you the breakdown of woman's orgasms. Most will only experience clitoral, only 30% will experience vaginal. Have him do to you exact same thing you do when you masturbate, relax and think how hot that is.
Author roseeee Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 I was more relaxed at first but now I'm so stressed during it and I just think of reaching the orgasm cause he says that he doesn't feel good about it (that I don't orgasm) we try the oral,I've tried to masturbate during the intercourse but non of them are working! and also I asked him to do what I do when I'm alone but that did not work too...
FoxMulder Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Hi I'm a 24year Girl,I've had sex with my boyfriend since last year and I've never had orgasm! we have tried different positions,some told me it's my mental problem,but when I'm alone and masturbate I don't have any problems! what should I do????? I do not think women can orgasm from sex with men because women do not get turned on by men, women hate sex and think it is disgusting with men.... I think most women can probably orgasm alone or with another woman(maybe you should try that).
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 This really isnt the place to come for answers to that. I would recommend going online to actual sites that deal with this. Or consulting your doctor, or going to a book store to read up on it. There are many many females that have trouble reaching orgasm with their partner but can orgasm by themselves like breathing air. If you TRULY want to try to work at it. This forum wont really help, unless someone has a good link they can give you. I do not think women can orgasm from sex with men because women do not get turned on by men, women hate sex and think it is disgusting with men.... I think most women can probably orgasm alone or with another woman(maybe you should try that). I am very disappointed with these responses. The first seems repressed/ignorant and I wonder if the second one is a joke?! I think LSers can provide a lot of informative advice regarding this subject.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Hi I'm a 24year Girl,I've had sex with my boyfriend since last year and I've never had orgasm! we have tried different positions,some told me it's my mental problem,but when I'm alone and masturbate I don't have any problems! what should I do????? You may need to reorient your mind somewhat. It is a common mistake that people, especially women, expect a man to give her an orgasm. It's not his to give. It is yours to take. Therefore you either have to train your guy to do things that you really like the way you like them or rely on your own mind to imagine what gets you hot. My first sex partner was 10 years older than me and divorced. She never had an orgasm with her husband, me or any guy between. I didn't understand what I know now but the real dynamic of sex is not one of making someone cum, but accommodating their needs and helping them achieve fulfilling orgasms. Don't be afraid the question yourself and speak up to your significant other.
Author roseeee Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 You may need to reorient your mind somewhat. It is a common mistake that people, especially women, expect a man to give her an orgasm. It's not his to give. It is yours to take. Therefore you either have to train your guy to do things that you really like the way you like them or rely on your own mind to imagine what gets you hot. My first sex partner was 10 years older than me and divorced. She never had an orgasm with her husband, me or any guy between. I didn't understand what I know now but the real dynamic of sex is not one of making someone cum, but accommodating their needs and helping them achieve fulfilling orgasms. Don't be afraid the question yourself and speak up to your significant other. I really don't expect him to give me an orgasm,cause I had the same problem with my ex,and I know it's my problem and I'm trying everything,I also asked him to do things I like... we've never done it drunk,do you think being drunk can help????
paddington bear Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex - those that do apparently have clitorisis that are nearer their vaginas (which is why some women after having children actually have better sex, getting ripped open and stiched up actually sometimes moves the clitoris lower so it gets more stimulated during penetrative sex). Suggestions: Try sitting on top. Tell your boyfriend that you are one of the majority of women who don't orgasm during sex and just masturbate and have sex at the same time, Get him to bring you to orgasm first through other means, then have sex. - this is just one of those things. I think we've all seen sex scenes in films where the woman is writhing away in ecstacy within seconds of having sex, whereas in reality it doesn't always work that way and that is perfectly normal. Try to relax, just like men losing their erection because they get stressed about not performing properly, the more stressed you are, the less likely you are to orgasm or indeed enjoy sex in anyway. As for the poster who said this is not the place to ask such questions. It is. Sex more often than not is a part of dating at some point. It's a concern of many women, so why not ask here. Anonymous forum for dating advice, it is not the place to be prudish.
Bogo123 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Try anal. I have heard of women having orgasms through it.
FoxMulder Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Try anal. I have heard of women having orgasms through it. ALL women hate sex and ESPECCIALLY anal sex.
Knittress Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Try using a vibe externally and 'get into it.' Even if you feel more silly than sexy at first, cultivating a sexy attitude is more than half the battle. And anxiety is not a sexy attitude! Relax.
Serenitynow Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 he says that he doesn't feel good about it (that I don't orgasm) You will never have a good sexual relationship with this guy as long as he continues to have that attitude. How freakn selfish is that, HE doesnt feel good about it because you dont orgasm ? Does anyone else see his comment to be degrading or am I the only one that caught that ? Thats so ignorant. Typical male response, like its a requirement that you orgasm for him, so he can beat his chest like hes made the world a better place. ONCE AGAIN amazes me how all the Azzhole guys have girlfriends and the mature , respectful ones are left single. I bet the OP doesnt even comprehend how ignorant this guy is Shes probably brainwashed into thinking its her job to "service and satisfy" her man
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 (edited) It's her duty to produce him an Orgasm of mass proportions that shake the very fabric of human sexual identity. Edited June 9, 2010 by RedRussian
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 Hi I'm a 24year Girl,I've had sex with my boyfriend since last year and I've never had orgasm! we have tried different positions,some told me it's my mental problem,but when I'm alone and masturbate I don't have any problems! what should I do????? It isn't a "mental problem"... it is NORMAL... as in "normal-for-you". "most women cannot achieve orgasm from penetration alone" Thank heaven that you already *know* that you CAN orgasm at all, because that is the big question. My guess, about you, is that you will in due time evolve to become more orgasmic during various parts of shared sexual activity, perhaps just in time for your sexual peak in your early 30's. Try to stop fretting about it, as that anxiety only postpones the day you're eagerly awaiting.
Arbitrariness Posted June 9, 2010 Posted June 9, 2010 I would suggest that you relax, talk to your bf, experiment sexually and perhaps change your approach to sex altogether, ie tantric sex. I think it is important that your bf feels involved and competent. As far as sex on drugs (ie cocain) goes i've heard some good stories, but some very bad ones too. I wouldn't recommend it.
Author roseeee Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Try anal. I have heard of women having orgasms through it. I have anal
Author roseeee Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 How freakn selfish is that, HE doesnt feel good about it because you dont orgasm ? he doesnt feel good about his self,cause he thinks he can't do it for me and that's his problem!
Author roseeee Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Try anal. I have heard of women having orgasms through it. sorry I made a typing mistake,I HATE anal.
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