slatka_sarah Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Hello all. Thanks for viewing. My husband and I have been married for over 3 yrs now, and dated for about 2+ yrs before that. We have a 1 year old son together. For the past 2 years, my husband has been going to school getting his Master's degree and is slated to graduate this upcoming December (THANK GOD). 90% of the time he spends at home is on the computer working on his essays and whatnot. Between a baby, new house and school, his stress level is out of control. He has a very good heart and is a kind person, but all of this has thrown him into this tornado of stress. I am quite the opposite. I deal with stress extremely well and tend to be the calm one, and at times that helps him deal with his own stress to see me so calm, but other times he assumes me "stress free" attitude is the equivalent of not caring at all. My problem and worry however is his stress level. It's really affecting me personal (and I'm sure him as well). He's not the same personal anymore, we don't have the same relationship we did anymore. I'm hoping this will all calm down once school is done. I try to help him with as much as I can whether it be school work or...anything really. I just can't seem to make him happy. It's like...if something is not in perfect allignmen with how he wants something to be, or if 1 thing goes wrong during the day that was not something he had planned...he gets so upset. I feel helpless because I cannot do anything. I've suggested to him that a therapist may be helpful, I've even talked to his mother and brother about it extensively. They agree with me that he gets way to stressed out over "spilled milk". I don't really know what I'm asking for here...advice I suppose. Words of wisdom...? Anything
califnan Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Tell him that life isn't perfect .. We are challenged with day to day trials - some more than others.. But that is what the devil does - he throws out roadblocks.. Tell your husband that it doesn't do any good to take it out on you - it only hurts you, and that you and the baby and your husband deserve a strong loving family unit .. And remind him that things will not get any better by acting explosive - it could make him sick .. as well as hurting you and the baby.
SarahRose Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Have him take up meditation. A daily practice really does wonders for a person's mental status.
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