SouthernGal Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Something very strange happened. At around 130 a.m. I was awaken by my phone ringing, and it was my bf. I answered the phone, but wasn't getting a response. He didn't realize that his phone dialed my phone. Then I heard him having a phone conversation with a woman, with whom he was on the phone with for well over an hour. I caught some parts of the conversation, and several times during the conversation he referred to her as "honey." I feel "honey" should be reserved for those who are in intimate relationships. Could he be cheating? Should I ask him about it?
Jersey Shortie Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 ask him about it honestly and directly and play close attention to how he reacts.
ADF Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Wait a minute. You BF made a phone call to someone else, and that somehow caused your phone to ring. How can that happen? Plus, you only caught bits of the conversation, yet you know the conversation lasted an hour. How can you know that if you didn't listen to the whole thing? Am I just not tech-savvy enough to understand this, or does something not make sense here?
Author SouthernGal Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Wait a minute. You BF made a phone call to someone else, and that somehow caused your phone to ring. How can that happen? Plus, you only caught bits of the conversation, yet you know the conversation lasted an hour. How can you know that if you didn't listen to the whole thing? Am I just not tech-savvy enough to understand this, or does something not make sense here? I'm pretty sure you are tech-savvy , he has that phone service where you can make calls over the computer, forgot what it's called. Does it make sense now?
Author SouthernGal Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 ask him about it honestly and directly and play close attention to how he reacts. Yes, I will definitely ask him!
ADF Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I'm pretty sure you are tech-savvy , he has that phone service where you can make calls over the computer, forgot what it's called. Does it make sense now? Not quite, but never mind. My point was that maybe you were actively spying rather than accidently stumbling on a conversation. People do that a lot, but often don't want to admit it. It is significant because if you were at the point where you spying on him, then clearly something happened along the way to make you suspicious. Anyway, JersieShorties' advice is correct. Confront him about it.
Author SouthernGal Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Not quite, but never mind. My point was that maybe you were actively spying rather than accidently stumbling on a conversation. People do that a lot, but often don't want to admit it. It is significant because if you were at the point where you spying on him, then clearly something happened along the way to make you suspicious. Anyway, JersieShorties' advice is correct. Confront him about it. No, I wasn't actively spying on him, I really did stumble in on the conversation. But I will ask him about it.
jackson30 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I thought "honey" was standard for the south, I think every waitress over 40 has called me "honey" everytime I've been anywhere in the south.
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 1:30 am phonecall from another woman and he calls her honey.. I would be suspicious. Talk to him and let him know that this has upset you. See how he reacts and if he down plays it, ask him how HE would feel if you got a call from another man at 1am!! I bet he'd be wondering...
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 During an hour long phone conversation, there must have been some other clues as to what's going on besides the word "honey."
Woman In Blue Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 For the love of Pete - your boyfriend's phone accidentally calls you at 1:00 am (which CAN happen if your cell phone is in your pocket or on your hip and a button is accidentally pushed, etc.) and now you're accused in this thread of "possibly actively spying but not wanting to admit it?" Are you KIDDING me?? Give me a freakin' break. Project much, ADF? Jesus. Anyway OP, I get what you're saying. Simply put, your boyfriend's cell phone accidentally called you while he was busy at 1:00 in the morning chatting away to some woman on Skype (or whatever computer/phone program he has), calling her "honey." Certain "spying" conspiracies aside <insert eye roll here>, I'd say you have plenty to be suspicious about. My boyfriend doesn't make computer calls (or cell phone calls - doesn't matter) to women at 1:00 in the morning for hour-long conversations, calling them "honey." And if he did, he'd have a hell of alot of explaining to do.
phineas Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 I've butt dialed people before accidently. Usually the last contact that I talked to on the phone. It always confounds me how my phone can get unlocked & randomly dial one of my contacts. But most often they usually hear my radio in my car or me working on the house.
stace79 Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 For the love of Pete - your boyfriend's phone accidentally calls you at 1:00 am (which CAN happen if your cell phone is in your pocket or on your hip and a button is accidentally pushed, etc.) and now you're accused in this thread of "possibly actively spying but not wanting to admit it?" Are you KIDDING me?? Give me a freakin' break. Project much, ADF? Jesus. I didn't catch on at first either. The OP didn't explain it well. I first thought the same thing though -- how can he be on the phone with one person for an hour and also "accidentally" call his girl? But then it occurred to me that maybe he was on the land line or on the computer. Anyway, yes, you should just talk to him about it. And definitely watch body language and vocal tones, not just his words. I read an article just today that said you should only take his actual words for 7% of communication. The rest is body language and vocal tone.
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