Squirrelly Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Basic backstory: Meet girl through a few friends, and occasionally saw her out at parties and whatnot. Finally hit it off, got her number, and occasionally texted. Recently, she we've been talking quite a bit but haven't been able to hang out. Thursday night comes around, we spontaneously meet up at the boat docks to just relax together. We end up staying nearly all night , talking, watching the sun rise, playfully teasing and kissing. I honestly felt a decent amount of attraction from both of us... a damn good connection, "sparks" if you will. Fast forward to today, she has flaked out on a date yesterday and I haven't heard back from her since we saw each other last. Normally I'm able to simply accept it, and move on, but this is one fish I'd like to pursue and see what happens. She made me know from the get go that she'll make me work for it, and frankly I'm down for proving myself, but I'm a bit confused... how is it we could have a great night together yet here she is, practically avoiding me. My logic is she is building up a wall to see if I care enough to knock it down and prove my worth, not merely building one to push me away, but I thought I'd look for second thoughts and advice. Much appreciated!
eric82 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Some people might argue that she's playing hard to get, but I've found that when a girl gives mixed signals like this, it's because her interest in you has dropped and is low. Even when a girl tries to play hard to get, when her interest is high, she can't help but consistently show that she's into you. From the sound of things, this girl isn't very into you. When she told you that she will make you work for it, she was testing you. She wanted to see how you would react and whether you'd put up with her treating you that way. I hope you manned up, laughed at how ridiculous her comment was, and told her "good luck with that." Also I hope you didn't tell her, "I'm down with proving myself." That's not attractive at all. Being beautiful, she can have just about any guy do that for her. Don't be that guy. Ok, so she flaked once. I say, since you like her so much, you can give it another shot, but if she doesn't at least meet you half-way (if she flakes again or cancels without making a counter offer), consider it over. No amount of proving yourself or tracking her down is going to make her be into you. That's just wuss mentality.
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