mixwell Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 (edited) I generally like to consider that I have a good perspective on males and females interactions but like many others find myself getting emotionally involved.. I will try to make this short and simple (if possible) Basically I was with my ex 7 years (from age 14-21) and I moved, we broke up and she started seeinging someone else (who she is currently with) Anyways my friend found her profile and facebook and now her and I are in contact and her b/f is in a place where he will most likely never be released (if you know what im getting at) Anyways her and I hang out often and talk about everyday @ work via email, a phone call etc.. We have fun when we see each other and it has been 5-6 years since we had talked since our new contact with each other.. I doubt this matters but like last weekend we hung out friday and went for drinks, i drank to much to drive so crashed at her apartment and the next day we hung out most the day and we texted after and I said "ok im sure you had enough of me for the weekend" and she said "no but ok".. Anyways she calls me the next day (Sunday) and asks if i wana come over for memorial day for a BBQ with just her and her mom so i was free and said sure.. (damn this is over reading and turning into something longer than i thought) okay her and her mom were having a yard sale this weekend and I txt her if she would be free sat night (tonight) she says "no" but to my surprise she calls me and we talk and told her I was chaning the thermostat on my truck but it was too hot and later in the convo she said "isn't your truck cool by now" and I kinda took it as hint as she possibly wanted to hang out but i am over looking it I know.. what i find difficult to read is that ya she does have a b/f but in the situation he's in maybe she's possibly looking for other options (i don't know) I find myself getting a little too addicted to seeing her and talking to her and I am VERY interested in her and I always felt like (when we were together) she was the one for me. At times I just feel like asking her straight up about how i feel about her and how she feels about me but I think that's a bad idea.. Okay I will try to sum this essay up by saying.. There is a female co-worker that I take lunch with that she knows about and she always jokes and claims we hook up etc or whatever and i tell her that we're just friends but even once she was saying "you know you want Marcie" and was trying to tickle or something, we sometimes make body contact (and generally body contact means someone is into you) but it is very hard to read her since she has a b/f and with our past of being together 7 years.. I know this turned out long and there is soo much I want to explain in detail but ANY insight would be HIGHLY appreciated.. Thanks in advance.. MixweLL Edited June 6, 2010 by mixwell
fallinlove Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I find myself getting a little too addicted to seeing her and talking to her and I am VERY interested in her and I always felt like (when we were together) she was the one for me. At times I just feel like asking her straight up about how i feel about her and how she feels about me but I think that's a bad idea.. I think you should tell her. The situation you're all in is unfair to her boyfriend and to you too since you do not know where you stand. The sooner you talk about it, the sooner you'll resolve the problem.
Author mixwell Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 I don't mind telling her but I don't want to come off as creepy and say "hey i think i still love you" and I assume she knows that I do have interest in her the thing is that it's soo hard to read her knowing she technically isn't single and nowing that we had a history and we joke around. I don't know if it is flirty or just being buddy buddy type. I do still find it odd that she has more than once tried to keep telling me that I love my co-worker and my co-worker wants me.. It almost appears kinda jealous sort of ? Any ideas on bluntly asking without sound creepy? I've thought about just saying I still feel interested in you as a g/f but don't want to make things odd since your "status" but then I would be laying it on the table.. I guess my mentality with dating is to keep a woman guessing and being a challenge etc but I feel this scenario is different and I would be totally just exposing myself.. Maybe that is what I need to do under this condition ??
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