mlchris2 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 It's been a long time since I posted here. I found some good advice a few years back and need some more. I will keep it short, so here's just a glimpse of what I need help with. Been dating my GF for two years now. For the first year, I didnt take it serious as I was lying, cheating and just treated her like crap. After several breakups, I came clean to her about everything. We made the move to live together, but it was decided that I move out and we see a counselor. Our counselor ended up being a perv and we stopped going. Since I came clean, I've been doing the right thing, but things just arent getting better. We love each other very much and want to make it work. Our relationship is up and down all the time. One minute she is crazy in love with me and shows it and the next minute she hates me and tells me to leave her alone. She is unable to move forward and keeps bringing up the past. That's it in a nut shell. There's more issues/details, but you get the idea. I'm to the point where I cant handle it anymore and very confused and stressed. I love her and it pains me to think about ending our relationship, but I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this. I seek advice, ideas, or recommendations from outsiders who have been through this sort of thing. Any books that might help us out? I am open to all opinions/advice/suggestions. MC
mixwell Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I think you guys need to REALLY sit down and talk out your differences and I really am a believer that in an argument etc you should try to never bring up the past.. You guys need to sit and legitimately tell each other what exactly is on your mind and if you end up breaking up then it should be a sign that you 2 aren't meant to be together.. I know feelings are strong but you REALLY need to try to put yourselves outside the emotional circle and look at the situation from an outside perspective which I know personally damn near impossible at times..
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