AmeliaApple Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 (edited) If you are like everyone else, you probably have that little bitch of a voice in your head constantly nagging you to look at your f-ing smart phone for some notification from your ex. First things first...make your desire to be contacted go away by eliminating the ability to contact you. If you cannot change your phone number, download call blocking software. Blacklist/Whitelist is great for that: http://www.i-softwarelabs.com/products/bwlist.jsp *And don't forget to change your ring and notification tones. Lest we forget the lessons learned from Pavlov (dogs salivating at the sound of a bell). For those with a smart phone that forwards email, put them on your "blocked" list in your email. This will automatically delete any email they send you. Don't add them to you your spam folder, the message will still be there. You don't want to see it. Write them an email if necessary, but never send it. If you need to send it, send it to one of your other accounts. It will help you realize how you would truly feel if you sent it to them. Get rid of any and all photos of them and avoid them like the plague. Unless there is a shared child involved, there really is no need to any pictures of those *******s. Read "No Foolin" 's advice: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ Let's be honest, they don't deserve the power of pain that we give to them. Cut your losses. Move on. Good luck! Edited June 6, 2010 by AmeliaApple
Author AmeliaApple Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Also...I just found this nifty feature on my phone that allows me to block SMS and MMS texts...you may have one as well. It was under "settings > security > firewall". Use it!
Author AmeliaApple Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 Another tip...count the days since you broke contact. After the 3rd day, it gets much easier (like giving up smoking). Shoot for a day without contact, a week without contact, two weeks, then a month, then two months, three months, and soon you'll be home free. Award yourself when you hit your mark. If you contact them, you are back to day 1. If they contact you (which...if you read above, should be somewhat difficult), you aren't back at stage one unless you give in to the contact (i.e. IM or emailing them back). Cut your losses. If you were as important to them as you had hoped, then they wouldn't have put you through so much pain. Accept that you are not and move on.
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