Kiley12 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 So I ran into an old flame last night! He is the guy that my mind always wanders back to..my Mr. Bigs. We met through school and I did some volunteer work for his company for a few months. We lost touch after I finished my work with him, but we bumped into each other a year later. He asked me out and we went on an all day date which was amazing but after the date he was out of town for weeks without contact. He came back and we hung out sporadically over the next few months..casual, fun, nothing serious, just making out. On a drunk night out with some of his friends, he made out with another girl that was hanging out with our group that night. This was the same night he told me he thought I was beautiful, amazing but that we would never work. I was hurt but appreciated him being upfront and agree that it would be hard for us to be a couple. We hung out as friends couple of times after his confession. We lost touch after Sept 09. During our run in last night he told me I looked good, invited me out with his friends to the bar they were going to (i declined), and said we should hang out soon. Given our history, should I text him to hang out since we are friends and I would love to catch up with him or should I just leave it to him?
OceanTropic Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Given that what you guys have is nothing serious, and you are "flings" every time he is in town, I don't see the harm in texting him to have a little fun.
Serenitynow Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Given our history, should I text him to hang out since we are friends and I would love to catch up with him or should I just leave it to him? Depends on what you are willing to sacrifice. Is he going to try to makeout with you ? Has he changed his mind on the just friends situation ? Are you willing to stand firm with the friends situation no matter what he comes at you with, or are you up for a change ?
Author Kiley12 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Depends on what you are willing to sacrifice. Is he going to try to makeout with you ? Has he changed his mind on the just friends situation ? Are you willing to stand firm with the friends situation no matter what he comes at you with, or are you up for a change ? I just got out of a 3 month thing with this guy that I thought I was on the path to becoming exclusive with and prior to him I was in a similar situation so right now I'm taking time off from the dating scene until I'm ready again. I'm def up for a change this time around, not looking for anything serious and definitely not putting all my eggs in one basket like I normally do.
esdn84 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 trust me huni it'll be a never ending cycle. if you're ok with being a random chick or a fwb then call him up. I spent 7 years going off and on with my ex. at this point he's one of my best friends and we still do the what if thing.
Author Kiley12 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Just to clarify, we've only just made out and held hands, nothing physical so it was never a FWB situation. There's a mutual respect between the two of us because we work together so well. I think it'll be nice to catch up with him over coffee or lunch. I just don't want to initiate the get-together because he was the one that said 'let's get together soon' during our run-in and because when we left it back in Sept last year, it was obvious that I had more feelings for him. Regardless, maybe that's all irrelevant since we are just friends.
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