edwards99 Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 So over the last 6-8 wks my finacee and I have broken up...I was very upset and posted a few times here.. So in an effort to get past this all and move on I called up this girl I uased to know...we really hit it off a long time ago.. But it wasn't in the cards for us then..so yesterday..it was amazing..we went to a hug swap meet..walked for hrs.she held my arm and we kissed a few times.. My finacee when she broke up with me made it crystal clear we will never get back together.. But I felt like I was cheating yesterday..I was looking for someone that may no mem.in fear they would tell my ex.. Why did I feel that way.. I feeel like I want to move on..I still kinda feel bad..and I could have had a better time yestersday if I wasn't feeling like I was doing something wrong?
S.Tee Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 So over the last 6-8 wks my finacee and I have broken up...I was very upset and posted a few times here.. So in an effort to get past this all and move on I called up this girl I uased to know...we really hit it off a long time ago.. But it wasn't in the cards for us then..so yesterday..it was amazing..we went to a hug swap meet..walked for hrs.she held my arm and we kissed a few times.. My finacee when she broke up with me made it crystal clear we will never get back together.. But I felt like I was cheating yesterday..I was looking for someone that may no mem.in fear they would tell my ex.. Why did I feel that way.. I feeel like I want to move on..I still kinda feel bad..and I could have had a better time yestersday if I wasn't feeling like I was doing something wrong? Cheating has various definitions, if you have an affair with someone whom is not your current fiance/spouse, then that is cheating. But your ex had made it crystal clear not a chance to get back....then you have the right to go on with our life. But honestly, 6-8 wks after break-up is not that long. Maybe your ex might your feelings still with your ex and your ex has similar as well. So, maybe ask yourself. Is your relationship with "ex" fiance totally over? Do not catch 2 fishes with both hands coz it will not be fair to the new girl if suddenly you are back with your ex. It is still very new, analyze it and then find out if your previous relationship can be improved.
processing Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I cried the first time I had sex with another partner after an ex from awhile ago. It was about two months or so. I felt like I was cheating. Looking back on it now it's amusing to me that I cried lol poor fella. Anyways... it's perfectly normal and I think it just means you aren't ready to date. Take your time... seriously. Let her know you're just out of a relationship and just can't do it right now. And then heal on your own. Good luck.
S.Tee Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I agree with Processing, take things slowly. Do not commit at this point of time coz probably your ex just might be back (unless you already decide NOT to accept your ex back). Good luck!
Ilovecake Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 You feel guilty because you don't want to hurt your ex fiance's feelings. You probably also feel guilty because you're on a rebound date when you still have feelings for your ex. These are all very normal feelings. Even though you're doing the right thing by trying to move on it might be too soon to start dating.
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