arim17 Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a week or so ago. It has been the hardest week of my life! I cry all the time and I try not have contact with him. He used to be the kind of boy that would always care if we broke up and he was scared to loose me. Then one day after we were fighting he broke up with me. Last night I called him and poured my heart out and told him how I know I made a mistake but I think we've been through to much to just not try again. He says that he "just dosnt want a girlfriend" he says he dosn't want the responsibility he says he loves me and misses me and wants to be friends and not loose me forever but he says he " enjoys the little things in life, like watching his favorite tv shows, and playing golf, and being with his parents" He says he's happy, and I just don't get how he dosn't care at all, that he lost me and he's happy and im suffering and going through the hardest time of my life. Im very lost and Im also having trouble with friends at the moment. I just cant get through my head that I don't have him anymore and when I think of that it makes me extremely sad. Ive very depressed and ive lost a lot of weight which is bad cause im really skinny, and I just cant move on I need help. Anyone who can help please im so lost I don't know what he means and how he can just be happy that im gone after everything we've been through...
Author arim17 Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Please someone help me im so alone and my friends are annoyed of me now some dont even reply, i need help!
skydiveaddict Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 It's hard to believe , but you will make it through this. I know it feels like you are going through hell right now and you are, but you will be ok. Keep your friends and family close and lean on them, that's why you have them in your life. Stay busy and get lots of exercise. That's REALLY important. I've been through the same thing. You're not alone. you will be ok
ADF Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 It is impossible to answer your question in a helpful way because you left out all the important information. What were you fighting about? When you talk about "all you have been through," what do you mean?
secret29 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 hi arim, i really understand how you are feeling- my boyfriend of two years dumped me 16 days ago. It was very similar to your break up- he always said he would never ever leave me and then just suddenly, out of the blue told me he didn't want to be in a realtionship anymore. Like you I have been through the hardest time in my life. I honelstly thought I would die. For the first week I didn't stop crying - I just couldn't get my head round the idea that he didn't want me anymore when we had been each others world for two years. It's so important that you do stuff. Every time I was alone or had a minute to 'think' I would break down again. I'm on my 16th day as a single girl. It still hurts so much. I dreamt about him last night and woke up crying but I promise you it sarts to get easier. It will take time for you to comprehend that you two are not together anymore and it's so horrible..but there is nothing you can do but accept it. The only thing that is going to make this easier is time. I know that every second you will think of him and it will feel like every minute is an hour. Cry all the tears you need to cry, talk to people on here and read their stories. It really helped me when I saw that my reactions are normal-so many others have done the same things I did. It's so much easier if you have absolutely no contact with your ex. If you know what he is doing you start to imagine him out with his friends and enjoynig life without you and that is so destruvtive. get rid of his number, his facebook, email..everything. You are the most important person in the world right now so pamper yourself rotten :-) nurture yourself! Please feel free you write back..there are so many of us who understand your pain and are here to help xxx
Author arim17 Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Secret-Thank you so much, its been so hard and ive been through a lot. I have tried to surrounded myself with friends. But im also having a hard time with friends at the moment. But 3 guys have asked me on a date and I have went because it keeps my mind busy I know I shouldn't be dating yet and its way to soon. But it makes me not think and I don't feel that feeling I have had this whole time. And im very sorry that you're going through this same thing, its very confusing, I don't think ill ever realize how he just dosnt want me anymore when he always did. ADF-( I think that was your name I don't remember) Well what we've been through, is he took my virginity and were eachotheres first loves and I did my first EVERYTHING with him as he had done his with me.
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