torranceshipman Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 OP, if you're real, here's some observations from someone who boiled the MW bunny years ago. She lies. She f*cks other guys. It's not just 'attention' she wants. She's already exposed. You just don't know it yet. All that said, it sounds like you had a pretty good affair. Got your noodle wet regularly and got some good ego stroking too. Call it fair and done and move on. That's my advice. In the future, pick a different caliber of people to associate with. Good luck This is a brilliant post - listen to it!! And vent all you like here but whatever you do, don't follow through with your plan. You will hate yourself as you will have really trashed a woman you (may hate but still) love...and the fall out will be insane - you will be thrown under a bus...bad things will happen and you will really wish you didn't do it. Jail might also be beckoning for you as I am sure taping someone having sex without their permission carries some kind of bad penalty. As the poster quoted above says...you had fun, you knew she was a married woman with pretty weak morals when you met her...the inevitable happened so move on and consider it a lesson learned.
MizzBlue72 Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Wow - well if this is a troll - all I can say is REVENGE CRABS (google it) ..... LMAO ....... If not a troll - don't stoop to exposing this. Just walk away. She is obviously giving it out to anyone and everyone ... but - if you DO plan on the revenge crabs - then her H will find out FOR SURE!!! LOL
Fieldsofgold Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 (edited) You are a class act FoG! I would have loved to have been watching that scene!!! Thanks, FO. I would love to have had a video. The expressions on both their faces were priceless - as well as everyone else there. There was still complete silence as we left. As for me, I shocked even myself - and I enjoyed it a little too much. Edited June 6, 2010 by Fieldsofgold
White Flower Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Hello All, I'm new here so forgive me if I don't abbreviate like I should. I am an ******* - let's get that out of the way now. I need to vent and I think you will find my situation scary and interesting at the same time. I am 45, a single "other man" to a 40 yr old woman who is married 14 years and has 2 kids 8 and 13. I have been having an affair for 3 and a half years. The first 2 and a half years were great - sexually, emotionally, etc. We fell deeply in love and talked many times of future plans together. I agreed to remain discreet until her kids were in or just about out of High School. She (MW) told me several times there was a mutual agreement with her husband that they are only staying together for the kids, which I respected (until now of course). They were in a loveless relationship their entire marriage, she got married because she thought that was what she was supposed to do at 25 - lemmings! She had never experienced great sex or achieved an orgasm before or felt the warmth of mutual love. We met, and I seduced her on a plane ride to an island that we were going to as friends, the rush of feeling her body under a blanket she was covering up with was a feeling I'll never forget. It was on from there, I took her to Mexico, Puerto Rico, trips throughout the U.S. We fell in love, using my work as an excuse to go on trips and overnights. Well, long story longer, I am on the verge of exposing her big time - secret email accounts, emails, texts, IM sessions, pics, sex audio and video. Wow, you must think I'm crazy? I'm sure I am at this point - but rest assured I am not nor have I ever been physically abusive in any relationships I have been in, I'm a methodical planner. You see, she can be a loud mouthed cold hearted woman most of the time, I'm sure I found that attractive at one time. I realistically, am sensitive, caring and always put her needs first. For what it's worth she is a true Gemini and I'm a Taurus. I can pinpoint the conversation the day the switch turned on and I decided to plan my evil plot. I believe she was talking about ever being caught by her husband and she used the words "Deny, Deny, Deny" - I laugh everytime I think of her saying that. I guess around that time I was growing tired of her cockiness and how I was feeling less important as well as discovering her still flirting with men online. One day, she was checking her secret email account she had setup for US and I saw an email from a guy she went to high school with in the inbox. She laughed it off and said it was dirty jokes he sent and she gave him that email address so the kids wouldn't see it - yeah right. I truly believe she never had physical relationship with this HS friend, but it was later exposed he did try to seduce her - He is married with a newborn and owned a restaurant - lots to lose if you know what I mean. So I bust HIM on his intentions and threatened to call him out - he apologized and said he didn't know we were an item - fair enough, be gone and all is forgiven - he did run knowing he could lose big time! That triggered my insecurities, which triggered my detective abilities and found more flirting in forums and facebook, Facebook is the REAL devil folks! So that was the beginning of the end. I know she sounds like a slut, but I believe to this day she never slept with other guys, she just liked the attention. Let's backup and mention she had an abusive father - validation issues. So of course, me being a guy and capable of being an ******* myself, I caused many arguments and drawn out fights over her being "herself". I always brought up that I didn't care if she had 3000 guy friends, as long as after her kids and home-life she made me and US feel important, well she was not capable of doing this, she just never knew how to make a guy feel loved because she never knew what love was before. I know my first mistake was falling in love with a married woman, of course I thought "oh I'll be different, I can wait it out" - NOT A CHANCE. Her mistake? - getting involved with a man who had much less to lose than her. To any women who are contemplating having an affair - remember that rule! So since the "Deny" day and said disputes over online flirting, I have always had it in the back of my mind that one day it will be over and she'll think she can "Deny, Deny, Deny" and go back to her life- wrong! I saved EVERYTHING and videotaped us having sex a handful of times just to be sure in case emails and texts could be explained away. Yes, I know I suck! As my screen name reads - I simply may be evil. But I'm writing it here, hoping others may learn from what is about to become a very ugly and messy exposure. We have been fighting more and more lately, she knows I have all the evidence I need to wreck her. Yes, it's abusive and I'm sure I'll get help sooner or later. Honestly, I really feel once this hell is over I will move on go back to being "normal" whatever that was, but it certainly wasn't what I've lived that last year or so. I have searched the internet on best revenge stories - not much inspiration there. I have been plotting the best way to unleash what will go down as the "shock and awe" of exposures! I purchased keystroke recording software a year ago, so you can imagine what info i have from her use of my computer - I also gave her an iPhone which was on my wireless plan which recorded every phone number she called or text. So know I have every contact she has, every Facebook friend name and the evidence to destroy her. Mind you, I have no desire to physically harm her, set fire to her house, etc. That would be too easy and frankly I have no interest. I do realize, it will wreck her home and affect her kids. I guess I figure I come from a broken home and survived so will they. Pretty messed up, right? Well at least I feel better writing this much for now, I'll keep y'all posted of what goes down the next 6 weeks. Funny thing is, I videotaped us and never even watch it, it was strictly for evidence. Oh another thing that makes me laugh, is how she thinks she is going to explain us as a "mistake" - ha! Newsflash - a one night stand IS a mistake - 3 and a half years is... well I don't even know what to call it other than a long love affair. I don't even care if I get arrested, I will finish this and move on, honestly -no contact, I can even move to another state, I have never had to beg someone to be with me in my life, I'm not going to beg her while she plays a game. Please don't be alarmed, I do not own a gun or any weapons and never plan to. I just want to be creative exposing her, I know I only get one day to sync all this up, because if i only use one tactic the cops will probably warn me or arrest me and then any subsequent exposing will suck for me. So I'm making a list and checking it twice if you know what I mean. Any suggestions or revenge stories would be appreciated. Good luck to anyone who is going through anything remotely to what I am. Hi and welcome to LS. I have just as much stuff on my guy as you do and pretty much going through what you are. The only difference is I actually love my guy and wouldn't hurt a hair on his head because love is not only selfish (desire) but it is giving (altruistic). You knew the possibilities when you signed up for this and you signed up anyway. Why punish her when you knew she was M? Further, why punish someone you loved? I don't think you love her. I think you're obsessed with her and since you can't have your way you're going to make her suffer and everyone else in her life. Worse, your hobby is revenge. You enjoy it. Good luck finding those who will help you obtain it. I wouldn't trust those friends either.
seren Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 I sure hope he's a troll. If this happened to me you can bet your bum that me and H would close ranks to protect our family. If he isn't a troll, sure is a nasty piece of work, sounds like a third rate scary film to me. He also sounds like he has an ego the size of the planet and the common sense of a lugworm. I know he also sounds hurt, but the amount of planning and information, evidence gathering would trump the most vengeful BS. Get help for God's sake!!
LakesideDream Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Why would you want to hurt someone you love?... or loved?... It's time for the OP to grow a pair. Be a man and move on.
1Angel Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Get counseling for your anger. Vent all you want but carrying through with your plan will do no good. The best revenge is living well AND showing the person who wronged you just how much you don't care about them anymore.
Author I simply may be evil Posted June 7, 2010 Author Posted June 7, 2010 Thanks all for the thoughts and advice. I am still lining up my ducks in regards to my planned exposure. I'm thinking right after the 4th of July holiday weekend. I'm in the entertainment business - self employed. That also provides an answer if she could mess up my business. The business I'm in wouldn't bat an eyelash if anyone were to tell them I had an affair with a MW - in fact it's almost accepted behavior. HER friends, family, past employers (she's a student now) and entire neighborhood might feel differently about her having an A. I've always believed time reveals all, her H suspects we are together, H has accused her of having an "emotional" A with me, H said "I know you're not sleeping with him, but you have a deep emotional relationship with him". She agreed to that statement, to save her a*s at the time more than a year ago. More than 15 of MW's friends know we're having an A. I pressured MW to start telling her "close" friends so we could act more like a couple around them. This was part of my plan a year ago when I had enough of her sh*t. MW is aware also, that I told about 10 of my close friends -and no I don't care if they tell anyone - I was hoping they would spread it around. I can understand how some of you say "move on". Sexually, I have moved on with other partners once I knew MW didn't have the common ability to reciprocate sensitivity or show love while proclaiming to love me and wanting to be with me after her kids were out of high school. MW has no clue of this to this day. So as of today it's been 5 days with NC, MW knows I have every proof I mentioned other than video, I'm sure her heart rate goes up every day her husband comes home from work wondering if "this is the day". I've noticed she hasn't used the iPhone I pay for to call or text her H for a couple days, she could easily explain that off I'm sure. She has no money, so knowing she had or will soon have to get another cell phone is some instant satisfaction. If I see no use on the iPhone by tomorrow I will disconnect the phone - no sense paying for it any longer. She was stupid enough to port her old phone number over to my cell plan over a year ago when I offered the iPhone to her to use. She may want that back - maybe not. If I want to be add to my evil ways, I could transfer her number to another phone I have and receive calls or texts, as well as make calls from her number. Of course I've thought that through and may pass since my other plans are less traceable, and I'd like to keep my phone service in the long run. I hope this is helping an women who are considering or new to having an A? Love can make us crazy, I know I am. I probably wasn't the sanest of the bunch to begin with, this is just gasoline to the fire I guess. Not to justify or rationalize, but the MW is that woman in your neighborhood that has to have her nose in everyone else's sh*t, often befriending many to reveal their skeletons, while acting like she has it together. It will be great once everyone knows how stupid and selfish she was to mess up. Again true Gemini. I promised myself once I expose her to get professional help, I know I may not have a choice if I get arrested. Deep down I feel I could turn off the switch of anything to do with her - I wouldn't stalk her, I have no desire to harm her or her kids physically. I guess I'm an ass**le being creative in an exposure. I am fully aware that it could backfire in the form of her H or his friends coming after me, but knowing the H, he will cry and then leave her a*s, AND leave her with the kids too! About a year ago H had the nads to tell his own wife (MW) that he never wanted to have kids - can you f**ckin' believe that?? Who says that? So after 4th of July, I plan to first inform the H of the 3 and a half year A. Then, wait a week or two or three and then let MW's WORLD know - every place she frequents, every contact she has. I know I'll only get one day to contact everyone, if I only tell only a couple people on one day, the police will arrest me, or have a restraining order and then i'll have to stop and not be able to finish with the plan. I'm taking this month to coordinate how to expose the most in one day. Thanks again for letting me vent and any comments.
jthorne Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 (edited) If you're really gonna do it, why wait? What's so magical about 4th of July weekend? Why not do it right now? I think you're giving her time to miss you, because you hope she will come back to you. Good luck! Do let us know what happened. Since you're in the entertainment industry, maybe you could film it and give us a YouTube link... Edited June 7, 2010 by jthorne
Author I simply may be evil Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 If you're really gonna do it, why wait? What's so magical about 4th of July weekend? Why not do it right now? I think you're giving her time to miss you, because you hope she will come back to you. Good luck! Do let us know what happened. Since you're in the entertainment industry, maybe you could film it and give us a YouTube link... Timing is due to scheduled appearances I have between now and July 3rd, some are in MW's area and wouldn't want pissed hubby showing up at them, and also a trip to another island, don't want to miss that if I'm arrested - lol. The 5th or 6th works out because MW's H will be back at work which is a key part of exposure and I have some time off in case I'm arrested. Also, appearances the rest of the year are out of state. I do expect to have sex with her again - before July 5th of course. Just to be the evil f**k that I am. I am hoping to sell the rights to my story after it is done - I know I would watch this if it were made into a movie
Fieldsofgold Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 (edited) I hope this is helping an women who are considering or new to having an A? I hope so, too! Certainly something to keep in mind beforehand. Love can make us crazy, I know I am. I probably wasn't the sanest of the bunch to begin with, this is just gasoline to the fire I guess. I am not at all sure that your "fire" is being stoked by the pain of scorned love. In fact, I might question whether you know what love is. (something you might want to take up in counseling - if you make it that far.) I promised myself once I expose her to get professional help, I know I may not have a choice if I get arrested. In addition to contemplating what love is, you and your therapist could also look into how to avoid crappy women, as well as how to develop worthwhile character in yourself. Deep down I feel I could turn off the switch of anything to do with her - I wouldn't stalk her, I have no desire to harm her or her kids physically. This is good. You do have some redeeming qualities. Yay! About a year ago H had the nads to tell his own wife (MW) that he never wanted to have kids - can you f**ckin' believe that?? Who says that? I have three things to say about that: 1.) how do you know that's true? Maybe she lied to you about that to manipulate you. 2.) Do I know this woman? (rhetorically speaking). I know a woman whose H said the same thing to her approx. last year! 3.) Maybe you should target hurting the H, and leave MW alone. Maybe your MW has already had enough pain, married to a man who would say that! Maybe your attack is mis-directed? It's something to think about. (my responses in bold) Edited June 8, 2010 by Fieldsofgold
jthorne Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Timing is due to scheduled appearances I have between now and July 3rd, some are in MW's area and wouldn't want pissed hubby showing up at them, and also a trip to another island, don't want to miss that if I'm arrested - lol. The 5th or 6th works out because MW's H will be back at work which is a key part of exposure and I have some time off in case I'm arrested. Also, appearances the rest of the year are out of state. I do expect to have sex with her again - before July 5th of course. Just to be the evil f**k that I am. I am hoping to sell the rights to my story after it is done - I know I would watch this if it were made into a movie Well shucks. Too bad you can't just do it in her house and let him walk in! What other evidence would you need? Then he could just whip your a$$ right then and there.
MorningCoffee Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I am hoping to sell the rights to my story after it is done - I know I would watch this if it were made into a movie You say you have already moved on to others, so sorry to say, but I think this whole revenge plan is sick-o. You have given it a lot of creative thought, though, so I would think it much better if you decided instead of doing it to write it all up and sell it as fiction. Then when it gets published or a film is made, you can use your own name as the author and prominently display "Based upon a true story." The meaning of that won't be missed by anyone who should know, and you won't be branded a psycho. Just sayin'.
Fieldsofgold Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 You say you have already moved on to others, so sorry to say, but I think this whole revenge plan is sick-o. You have given it a lot of creative thought, though, so I would think it much better if you decided instead of doing it to write it all up and sell it as fiction. Then when it gets published or a film is made, you can use your own name as the author and prominently display "Based upon a true story." The meaning of that won't be missed by anyone who should know, and you won't be branded a psycho. Just sayin'. That's a brilliant idea, MC!!! That way, everything could/would work out perfectly, and there would be no jail time, AND total exposure!!!
Author I simply may be evil Posted June 8, 2010 Author Posted June 8, 2010 (edited) troll troll troll ... havin' fun? SS I wish I was a troll looking for attention. I think time will tell my posts have been serious and true from the heart. I am / was far from perfect in this relationship. As a previous member posted I should be happy I had weekly sex for over 3 years and move on. I was spoiled being able to see my lover many times a week even traveling with her and be able to call her anytime and talk while her H was home or in the same room as her. I'm sure many people on here would die for that much attention. I guess I'm an idiot for thinking we could make plans and they would work out in the long run (waiting for kids to be old enough to deal with a divorce better, etc.). I come from a broken home, when are kids EVER old enough to deal with a divorce, I've witnessed grown women lose their mind to find out mom and dad had an open marriage or finally get divorced in their 50's or 60's! It was a good run, I benefited during the affair and will benefit long after we're done - I haven't mentioned this part at all yet. It's a battle now, because I've had long term relationships in the past - no head games like this, I really feel like I can feel and show love. I'm that guy - roses for no reason, massages, do chores around the house, make romantic dinner and overnight plans, easily a giver in bed, than a receiver, blah, blah, blah. I know what I'm feeling now is a resentment on steroids. MW does not sleep around - she flirts online - big deal, I DO need to grow a pair and move on. I'm too sensitive and feel she misses or is just not capable of recognizing a romantic moment even if it hit her in the nose, after 2 years of that I spent the next year and a half collecting evidence, my ego wouldn't allow me or the relationship to be denied. Please know I have had many calm conversations mentioning this to MW and nothing changed, I changed into a monster, especially when she got cocky and mentioned "deny deny deny" if she / we were ever caught in the A. Then, knowing I had the goods on MW, i was drunk with power. Like whoever invented the atom bomb first would use it - right? What a mess. As messed up as it all sounds I wouldn't mind spending 30 - 120 days jail when I'm done exposing MW, However, I am concerned if MW commits suicide and I end up spending much more than that in prison. I guess I'll have to check Illinois law on that. I don't care if H comes after me, again I'm sure he won't, he'll use it to run far away from her. And yes, I believe her H DID say what he did about never wanting kids, we were already 2 years into the relationship and it wasn't like she had to badmouth the H to me ever. He's not a bad guy, they were just never in love and got married because everyone else their age was doing it. Sad. Edited June 8, 2010 by I simply may be evil
Fieldsofgold Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Yeah, it is sad, and I am sorry for the mess you are in, emotionally and otherwise. You're right about having "resentment on steroids." I know a bit what that's like. Even in the midst of it, I knew it was irrational but just couldn't control it. Fortunately, I only felt it and seethed in it. But didn't take action on it. For that I'm glad. So what do you think is MW's problem? Is she just an insensitive clod? Didn't love you like you loved her? Do you think she was playing you?
Dexter Morgan Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I just want to be creative exposing her, I know I only get one day to sync all this up, because if i only use one tactic the cops will probably warn me or arrest me and then any subsequent exposing will suck for me. So I'm making a list and checking it twice if you know what I mean. Any suggestions or revenge stories would be appreciated. I got a revenge story for ya, man messes with someone elses wife, man decides to tell husband, husband kicks wife out, and thrashes OM within every inch of his life. I'm sure that happened, but for me writing, its purely fictional. That the kind of story of revenge you are looking for? Sure, even though its stupid for you to feel jilted after sleeping with someone elses wife, sure, go ahead, expose her. But be a man about it. Knock on their door and talk to the husband face to face. You were man enough to mess around with his wife, be a man and face him. (somehow I doubt you are man enough to do so)
Dexter Morgan Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 It was a good run, I benefited during the affair and will benefit long after we're done if this were true, you wouldn't be on here all pissy and jilted wasting your time on how to be creative in exposing the MW. Just knock on the door tell the H and be done with it. I'm sure you want us to believe you are fine, but your posts indicate otherwise. the benefit you have now, as you would proclaim, is you have become a psycho stalker hell bent on getting revenge for your own stupidity.
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