How to plan an exposure

[I simply may be evil]

Hello All,

 

I'm new here so forgive me if I don't abbreviate like I should.

I am an ******* - let's get that out of the way now.

I need to vent and I think you will find my situation scary and interesting at the same time.

I am 45, a single "other man" to a 40 yr old woman who is married 14 years and has 2 kids 8 and 13.

I have been having an affair for 3 and a half years. The first 2 and a half years were great - sexually, emotionally, etc.

We fell deeply in love and talked many times of future plans together.

I agreed to remain discreet until her kids were in or just about out of High School. She (MW) told me several times there was a mutual agreement with her husband that they are only staying together for the kids, which I respected (until now of course). They were in a loveless relationship their entire marriage, she got married because she thought that was what she was supposed to do at 25 - lemmings!

She had never experienced great sex or achieved an orgasm before or felt the warmth of mutual love.

We met, and I seduced her on a plane ride to an island that we were going to as friends, the rush of feeling her body under a blanket she was covering up with was a feeling I'll never forget. It was on from there, I took her to Mexico, Puerto Rico, trips throughout the U.S. We fell in love, using my work as an excuse to go on trips and overnights.

Well, long story longer, I am on the verge of exposing her big time - secret email accounts, emails, texts, IM sessions, pics, sex audio and video.

Wow, you must think I'm crazy? I'm sure I am at this point - but rest assured I am not nor have I ever been physically abusive in any relationships I have been in, I'm a methodical planner.

You see, she can be a loud mouthed cold hearted woman most of the time, I'm sure I found that attractive at one time. I realistically, am sensitive, caring and always put her needs first. For what it's worth she is a true Gemini and I'm a Taurus.

I can pinpoint the conversation the day the switch turned on and I decided to plan my evil plot.

I believe she was talking about ever being caught by her husband and she used the words "Deny, Deny, Deny" - I laugh everytime I think of her saying that. I guess around that time I was growing tired of her cockiness and how I was feeling less important as well as discovering her still flirting with men online. One day, she was checking her secret email account she had setup for US and I saw an email from a guy she went to high school with in the inbox.

She laughed it off and said it was dirty jokes he sent and she gave him that email address so the kids wouldn't see it - yeah right.

I truly believe she never had physical relationship with this HS friend, but it was later exposed he did try to seduce her - He is married with a newborn and owned a restaurant - lots to lose if you know what I mean.

So I bust HIM on his intentions and threatened to call him out - he apologized and said he didn't know we were an item - fair enough, be gone and all is forgiven - he did run knowing he could lose big time!

That triggered my insecurities, which triggered my detective abilities and found more flirting in forums and facebook, Facebook is the REAL devil folks! So that was the beginning of the end. I know she sounds like a slut, but I believe to this day she never slept with other guys, she just liked the attention.

Let's backup and mention she had an abusive father - validation issues.

So of course, me being a guy and capable of being an ******* myself, I caused many arguments and drawn out fights over her being "herself".

I always brought up that I didn't care if she had 3000 guy friends, as long as after her kids and home-life she made me and US feel important, well she was not capable of doing this, she just never knew how to make a guy feel loved because she never knew what love was before.

I know my first mistake was falling in love with a married woman, of course I thought "oh I'll be different, I can wait it out" - NOT A CHANCE.

Her mistake? - getting involved with a man who had much less to lose than her. To any women who are contemplating having an affair - remember that rule! So since the "Deny" day and said disputes over online flirting, I have always had it in the back of my mind that one day it will be over and she'll think she can "Deny, Deny, Deny" and go back to her life- wrong!

I saved EVERYTHING and videotaped us having sex a handful of times just to be sure in case emails and texts could be explained away. Yes, I know I suck! As my screen name reads - I simply may be evil.

But I'm writing it here, hoping others may learn from what is about to become a very ugly and messy exposure.

We have been fighting more and more lately, she knows I have all the evidence I need to wreck her. Yes, it's abusive and I'm sure I'll get help sooner or later. Honestly, I really feel once this hell is over I will move on go back to being "normal" whatever that was, but it certainly wasn't what I've lived that last year or so. I have searched the internet on best revenge stories - not much inspiration there. I have been plotting the best way to unleash what will go down as the "shock and awe" of exposures!

I purchased keystroke recording software a year ago, so you can imagine what info i have from her use of my computer - I also gave her an iPhone which was on my wireless plan which recorded every phone number she called or text. So know I have every contact she has, every Facebook friend name and the evidence to destroy her.

Mind you, I have no desire to physically harm her, set fire to her house, etc.

That would be too easy and frankly I have no interest.

I do realize, it will wreck her home and affect her kids.

I guess I figure I come from a broken home and survived so will they.

Pretty messed up, right?

Well at least I feel better writing this much for now, I'll keep y'all posted of what goes down the next 6 weeks.

Funny thing is, I videotaped us and never even watch it, it was strictly for evidence.

Oh another thing that makes me laugh, is how she thinks she is going to explain us as a "mistake" - ha!

Newsflash - a one night stand IS a mistake - 3 and a half years is... well I don't even know what to call it other than a long love affair.

I don't even care if I get arrested, I will finish this and move on, honestly -no contact, I can even move to another state, I have never had to beg someone to be with me in my life, I'm not going to beg her while she plays a game.

Please don't be alarmed, I do not own a gun or any weapons and never plan to.

I just want to be creative exposing her, I know I only get one day to sync all this up, because if i only use one tactic the cops will probably warn me or arrest me and then any subsequent exposing will suck for me.

So I'm making a list and checking it twice if you know what I mean.

Any suggestions or revenge stories would be appreciated.

Good luck to anyone who is going through anything remotely to what I am.

[BB07]

I understand why you are pissed, you have every right to be, but........revenge is not going to make you feel better or be satisfied.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to walk away, disappear from her life with nary a word. You need to move past your craziness, and yes that is clearly what it is and if you carry out the plan you have laid down, you are going to regret it.

[Woman In Blue]

Go for it then. Her husband should know who he's really married to anyway, as he goes along in ignorant bliss while she's disrespecting their marriage every single day.

 

You sound like you've got some serious sour grapes issues. I couldn't read your entire post because my eyes were bleeding 3/4 of the way through it (paragraphs are our friend!), but I got the jist of it. You screwed around with a married woman and got burned, long story short. That's what usually happens when you get involved with married people and everything is based on lies and deceit. It's the nature of the game and you lost. The odds were never in your favor.

 

Go ahead and expose her. I find it comical that when it was your d*ck getting the attention on an airplane at 30,000 feet in the air, you had no problem with her "deny deny deny" standard. It wasn't until you found out that she's not quite as "pure" as you thought she was. Geez, screwing around with you on an airplane after just having met you not long before wasn't your FIRST clue that just maybe this woman wasn't quite the study in morality you thought she was? LOL. You knew exactly what she was the minute she dropped her drawers for you on the airplane - but as long as she was doing it with you, it was acceptable. Now that she's sneaking around with old boyfriends and what not, she's suddenly a bad person, is that it?

 

Bottom line - screw around with someone who isn't in a position to be screwing around, and you're going to get burned. Big surprise, you got burned. It ain't brain surgery, it's pretty simple logic that the odds are against you. I honestly couldn't care less if you expose her or not. I won't lose any sleep if you do. She bought this mess, she owns this mess, and it's her mess to deal with.

 

Next time you meet a woman you're interested in, don't think with your d*ck and use your big head, instead.

[BB07]

One more point........your callousness concerning her children is really cruel and nasty and it clearly shows how unhinged your revenge plan is. If you can't see your way to not do this for any other reasons, then you need to reconsider for their sake. Oh and by the way.......you gambled, and you lost, so be a adult and take your losses like a man.

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

I broke up with a MM once and never thought of doing those things (I respected his decision to stay with his family).

 

You have anger issues and sound like a sour loser.

[SarahRose]

And they say women are the bunny boilers. Go read the bunny boiler thread to see how off the wall insane you are being.

[jthorne]

This thread is pretty funny too. I find it totally hilarious how you were perfectly happy playing hide the weenie with a woman you KNEW was married, then when you got your ego hurt, you have a crisis of conscience all of the sudden.

 

That was funny, the OTHER other man stepping aside because he didn't know you were an "item"! You were never an item! You were a single man stupid enough to start banging someone else's wife!

 

Well, good luck with your revenge. I hope it's worth it. But only on that goofy show The A-Team, does a plan really come together. If you really think you'll get the reaction you want, and you really think it'll make you feel better, that's hilarious too.

 

Its funny that you think you're so innocent in this, and none of it can come back to harm you or your career... You don't think her husband can't forward all your evidence to your employer of proof of how "productive" you've been on the company dime?

Please come back and update us when it all blows up in your face.

Edited June 5, 2010 by jthorne

[SavannahSmiles]

This thread is pretty funny too. I find it totally hilarious how you were perfectly happy playing hide the weenie with a woman you KNEW was married, then when you got your ego hurt, you have a crisis of conscience all of the sudden.

 

That was funny, the OTHER other man stepping aside because he didn't know you were an "item"! You were never an item! You were a single man stupid enough to start banging someone else's wife!

 

Well, good luck with your revenge. I hope it's worth it. But only on that goofy show The A-Team, does a plan really come together. If you really think you'll get the reaction you want, and you really think it'll make you feel better, that's hilarious too.

 

Its funny that you think you're so innocent in this, and none of it can come back to harm you or your career... You don't think her husband can't forward all your evidence to your employer of proof of how "productive" you've been on the company dime?

Please come back and update us when it all blows up in your face.

 

 

My thoughts exactly when I read OP's post. Flying around the world and having sex in airplanes. Evil, you sound like a kid. I think you need to grow up and just leave the situation. Like everyone else said, what did you expect? She cheated on her H for you. Are you naive enough to believe she wouldn't cheat on you? Bunny boiler for sure.

[Fight4Me]

I could see the appeal in plotting revenge in your head, and hopefully putting it down on a public forum helped to purge a lot of the desire to actually go through with it. If not, it would serve you well to listen to those who've said this isn't likely to have the outcome you've fantasized about. One thing you aren't factoring in is a husband and father's instinct to protect his family, and if it is obvious that you are bent on revenge, you might be in for a little shock and awe yourself.

 

Personally, I think the best revenge would be to totally walk away, letting her sweat for years knowing you have the goods on her. I can pretty much guarantee there would be no peace to be had for her, but you might actually be able to find it for yourself.

[Spark1111]

You are speaking like a betrayed spouse on DDay.

 

How many of us, in addition to discovering the affair, found flirty texts and emails to old boyfriends and girlfriends? Trawling the waters....for a new rush of adrenaline and ego-boosting?

 

Sad, common and true too often, unfortunately.

 

But evil, you are not the spouse, and your exposure implicates you in a deceptive illicit relationship as much as she. Sure you want to go there?

 

Because it could backfire. You wouldn't be at her and her husband's kitchen table when she makes you out to be the pursuer, the big bad wolf in the scenario; when they possibly circle their wagons against you.

 

You did learn she had the capacity for deception when she entered into an affair with you, didn't you?

 

Did you honestly believe the cheater's script of no love and passion at home? Well now you have learned that your love and passion still isn't ENOUGH TO FILL this huge void of ego-gratification she needs and uses others to fill.

 

I think, as painful as this realization may be, you have learned an invaluable lesson regarding this woman.

 

Just walk away.

[bentnotbroken]

There is a hint of troll cologne in the air. Just a hint.....but definitely there.

[jthorne]

There is a hint of troll cologne in the air. Just a hint.....but definitely there.

The wicked stench of L'eau de Troll?!? Say it ain't so!

I thought so too, that's why my response wasn't so nice.

[silktricks]

There is a hint of troll cologne in the air. Just a hint.....but definitely there.

 

I was wondering if anyone else thought they detected something green and stinking...

[bittersweet memories]

And they say women are the bunny boilers. Go read the bunny boiler thread to see how off the wall insane you are being.

 

Woman are NOT the only bunny boilers obviously... This guy takes the cake so far.

[califnan]

He sure is long winded for a troll.. I only got through half the post.

[carhill]

OP, if you're real, here's some observations from someone who boiled the MW bunny years ago.

 

She lies.

 

She f*cks other guys. It's not just 'attention' she wants.

 

She's already exposed. You just don't know it yet.

 

All that said, it sounds like you had a pretty good affair. Got your noodle wet regularly and got some good ego stroking too. Call it fair and done and move on. That's my advice. In the future, pick a different caliber of people to associate with.

 

Good luck

[LucreziaBorgia]

A woman who is an accomplished liar and cheat will have no problem turning this on you, and seeing that you suffer legal repercussions. Her husband will want to believe her, will believe her if she says she is a "sex addict" and needs help getting away from an "insane/dangerous" enabler.

 

Tread carefully, a lot of the time a bomb ends up injuring only the person whose face it blows up in.

[StoptheDrama]

There is a hint of troll cologne in the air. Just a hint.....but definitely there.

 

I'd say more than a hint, Bent. It's rather pungent.

Come to think of it, this sounds like the basis for a Lifetime movie

[silktricks]

He sure is long winded for a troll.. I only got through half the post.

 

If he's real, he's headed for bad trouble. If he's not, he sounds like someone who was badly hurt and wants to "warn" OW/OM that they can get hurt back...

 

I really hope he's not real, because if he is he could be unleashing a real tiger.

[You'reasian]

Hello All,

 

I'm new here so forgive me if I don't abbreviate like I should.

I am an ******* - let's get that out of the way now.

I need to vent and I think you will find my situation scary and interesting at the same time.

I am 45, a single "other man" to a 40 yr old woman who is married 14 years and has 2 kids 8 and 13.

I have been having an affair for 3 and a half years. The first 2 and a half years were great - sexually, emotionally, etc.

We fell deeply in love and talked many times of future plans together.

I agreed to remain discreet until her kids were in or just about out of High School. She (MW) told me several times there was a mutual agreement with her husband that they are only staying together for the kids, which I respected (until now of course). They were in a loveless relationship their entire marriage, she got married because she thought that was what she was supposed to do at 25 - lemmings!

She had never experienced great sex or achieved an orgasm before or felt the warmth of mutual love.

We met, and I seduced her on a plane ride to an island that we were going to as friends, the rush of feeling her body under a blanket she was covering up with was a feeling I'll never forget. It was on from there, I took her to Mexico, Puerto Rico, trips throughout the U.S. We fell in love, using my work as an excuse to go on trips and overnights.

Well, long story longer, I am on the verge of exposing her big time - secret email accounts, emails, texts, IM sessions, pics, sex audio and video.

Wow, you must think I'm crazy? I'm sure I am at this point - but rest assured I am not nor have I ever been physically abusive in any relationships I have been in, I'm a methodical planner.

You see, she can be a loud mouthed cold hearted woman most of the time, I'm sure I found that attractive at one time. I realistically, am sensitive, caring and always put her needs first. For what it's worth she is a true Gemini and I'm a Taurus.

I can pinpoint the conversation the day the switch turned on and I decided to plan my evil plot.

I believe she was talking about ever being caught by her husband and she used the words "Deny, Deny, Deny" - I laugh everytime I think of her saying that. I guess around that time I was growing tired of her cockiness and how I was feeling less important as well as discovering her still flirting with men online. One day, she was checking her secret email account she had setup for US and I saw an email from a guy she went to high school with in the inbox.

She laughed it off and said it was dirty jokes he sent and she gave him that email address so the kids wouldn't see it - yeah right.

I truly believe she never had physical relationship with this HS friend, but it was later exposed he did try to seduce her - He is married with a newborn and owned a restaurant - lots to lose if you know what I mean.

So I bust HIM on his intentions and threatened to call him out - he apologized and said he didn't know we were an item - fair enough, be gone and all is forgiven - he did run knowing he could lose big time!

That triggered my insecurities, which triggered my detective abilities and found more flirting in forums and facebook, Facebook is the REAL devil folks! So that was the beginning of the end. I know she sounds like a slut, but I believe to this day she never slept with other guys, she just liked the attention.

Let's backup and mention she had an abusive father - validation issues.

So of course, me being a guy and capable of being an ******* myself, I caused many arguments and drawn out fights over her being "herself".

I always brought up that I didn't care if she had 3000 guy friends, as long as after her kids and home-life she made me and US feel important, well she was not capable of doing this, she just never knew how to make a guy feel loved because she never knew what love was before.

I know my first mistake was falling in love with a married woman, of course I thought "oh I'll be different, I can wait it out" - NOT A CHANCE.

Her mistake? - getting involved with a man who had much less to lose than her. To any women who are contemplating having an affair - remember that rule! So since the "Deny" day and said disputes over online flirting, I have always had it in the back of my mind that one day it will be over and she'll think she can "Deny, Deny, Deny" and go back to her life- wrong!

I saved EVERYTHING and videotaped us having sex a handful of times just to be sure in case emails and texts could be explained away. Yes, I know I suck! As my screen name reads - I simply may be evil.

But I'm writing it here, hoping others may learn from what is about to become a very ugly and messy exposure.

We have been fighting more and more lately, she knows I have all the evidence I need to wreck her. Yes, it's abusive and I'm sure I'll get help sooner or later. Honestly, I really feel once this hell is over I will move on go back to being "normal" whatever that was, but it certainly wasn't what I've lived that last year or so. I have searched the internet on best revenge stories - not much inspiration there. I have been plotting the best way to unleash what will go down as the "shock and awe" of exposures!

I purchased keystroke recording software a year ago, so you can imagine what info i have from her use of my computer - I also gave her an iPhone which was on my wireless plan which recorded every phone number she called or text. So know I have every contact she has, every Facebook friend name and the evidence to destroy her.

Mind you, I have no desire to physically harm her, set fire to her house, etc.

That would be too easy and frankly I have no interest.

I do realize, it will wreck her home and affect her kids.

I guess I figure I come from a broken home and survived so will they.

Pretty messed up, right?

Well at least I feel better writing this much for now, I'll keep y'all posted of what goes down the next 6 weeks.

Funny thing is, I videotaped us and never even watch it, it was strictly for evidence.

Oh another thing that makes me laugh, is how she thinks she is going to explain us as a "mistake" - ha!

Newsflash - a one night stand IS a mistake - 3 and a half years is... well I don't even know what to call it other than a long love affair.

I don't even care if I get arrested, I will finish this and move on, honestly -no contact, I can even move to another state, I have never had to beg someone to be with me in my life, I'm not going to beg her while she plays a game.

Please don't be alarmed, I do not own a gun or any weapons and never plan to.

I just want to be creative exposing her, I know I only get one day to sync all this up, because if i only use one tactic the cops will probably warn me or arrest me and then any subsequent exposing will suck for me.

So I'm making a list and checking it twice if you know what I mean.

Any suggestions or revenge stories would be appreciated.

Good luck to anyone who is going through anything remotely to what I am.

 

I'm not anywhere near 45, but here's a younger man's opinion for what its worth..

 

I think you are way too involved with this other woman. Your best course of action is to remove yourself from this situation, live your life and find someone else.

 

No woman is worth this much time and effort. Sorry dude.

Edited June 5, 2010 by You'reasian

[HurtinginTexas]

Hello All,

 

I'm new here so forgive me if I don't abbreviate like I should.

I am an ******* - let's get that out of the way now.

I need to vent and I think you will find my situation scary and interesting at the same time.

I am 45, a single "other man" to a 40 yr old woman who is married 14 years and has 2 kids 8 and 13.

I have been having an affair for 3 and a half years. The first 2 and a half years were great - sexually, emotionally, etc.

We fell deeply in love and talked many times of future plans together.

I agreed to remain discreet until her kids were in or just about out of High School. She (MW) told me several times there was a mutual agreement with her husband that they are only staying together for the kids, which I respected (until now of course). They were in a loveless relationship their entire marriage, she got married because she thought that was what she was supposed to do at 25 - lemmings!

She had never experienced great sex or achieved an orgasm before or felt the warmth of mutual love.

We met, and I seduced her on a plane ride to an island that we were going to as friends, the rush of feeling her body under a blanket she was covering up with was a feeling I'll never forget. It was on from there, I took her to Mexico, Puerto Rico, trips throughout the U.S. We fell in love, using my work as an excuse to go on trips and overnights.

Well, long story longer, I am on the verge of exposing her big time - secret email accounts, emails, texts, IM sessions, pics, sex audio and video.

Wow, you must think I'm crazy? I'm sure I am at this point - but rest assured I am not nor have I ever been physically abusive in any relationships I have been in, I'm a methodical planner.

You see, she can be a loud mouthed cold hearted woman most of the time, I'm sure I found that attractive at one time. I realistically, am sensitive, caring and always put her needs first. For what it's worth she is a true Gemini and I'm a Taurus.

I can pinpoint the conversation the day the switch turned on and I decided to plan my evil plot.

I believe she was talking about ever being caught by her husband and she used the words "Deny, Deny, Deny" - I laugh everytime I think of her saying that. I guess around that time I was growing tired of her cockiness and how I was feeling less important as well as discovering her still flirting with men online. One day, she was checking her secret email account she had setup for US and I saw an email from a guy she went to high school with in the inbox.

She laughed it off and said it was dirty jokes he sent and she gave him that email address so the kids wouldn't see it - yeah right.

I truly believe she never had physical relationship with this HS friend, but it was later exposed he did try to seduce her - He is married with a newborn and owned a restaurant - lots to lose if you know what I mean.

So I bust HIM on his intentions and threatened to call him out - he apologized and said he didn't know we were an item - fair enough, be gone and all is forgiven - he did run knowing he could lose big time!

That triggered my insecurities, which triggered my detective abilities and found more flirting in forums and facebook, Facebook is the REAL devil folks! So that was the beginning of the end. I know she sounds like a slut, but I believe to this day she never slept with other guys, she just liked the attention.

Let's backup and mention she had an abusive father - validation issues.

So of course, me being a guy and capable of being an ******* myself, I caused many arguments and drawn out fights over her being "herself".

I always brought up that I didn't care if she had 3000 guy friends, as long as after her kids and home-life she made me and US feel important, well she was not capable of doing this, she just never knew how to make a guy feel loved because she never knew what love was before.

I know my first mistake was falling in love with a married woman, of course I thought "oh I'll be different, I can wait it out" - NOT A CHANCE.

Her mistake? - getting involved with a man who had much less to lose than her. To any women who are contemplating having an affair - remember that rule! So since the "Deny" day and said disputes over online flirting, I have always had it in the back of my mind that one day it will be over and she'll think she can "Deny, Deny, Deny" and go back to her life- wrong!

I saved EVERYTHING and videotaped us having sex a handful of times just to be sure in case emails and texts could be explained away. Yes, I know I suck! As my screen name reads - I simply may be evil.

But I'm writing it here, hoping others may learn from what is about to become a very ugly and messy exposure.

We have been fighting more and more lately, she knows I have all the evidence I need to wreck her. Yes, it's abusive and I'm sure I'll get help sooner or later. Honestly, I really feel once this hell is over I will move on go back to being "normal" whatever that was, but it certainly wasn't what I've lived that last year or so. I have searched the internet on best revenge stories - not much inspiration there. I have been plotting the best way to unleash what will go down as the "shock and awe" of exposures!

I purchased keystroke recording software a year ago, so you can imagine what info i have from her use of my computer - I also gave her an iPhone which was on my wireless plan which recorded every phone number she called or text. So know I have every contact she has, every Facebook friend name and the evidence to destroy her.

Mind you, I have no desire to physically harm her, set fire to her house, etc.

That would be too easy and frankly I have no interest.

I do realize, it will wreck her home and affect her kids.

I guess I figure I come from a broken home and survived so will they.

Pretty messed up, right?

Well at least I feel better writing this much for now, I'll keep y'all posted of what goes down the next 6 weeks.

Funny thing is, I videotaped us and never even watch it, it was strictly for evidence.

Oh another thing that makes me laugh, is how she thinks she is going to explain us as a "mistake" - ha!

Newsflash - a one night stand IS a mistake - 3 and a half years is... well I don't even know what to call it other than a long love affair.

I don't even care if I get arrested, I will finish this and move on, honestly -no contact, I can even move to another state, I have never had to beg someone to be with me in my life, I'm not going to beg her while she plays a game.

Please don't be alarmed, I do not own a gun or any weapons and never plan to.

I just want to be creative exposing her, I know I only get one day to sync all this up, because if i only use one tactic the cops will probably warn me or arrest me and then any subsequent exposing will suck for me.

So I'm making a list and checking it twice if you know what I mean.

Any suggestions or revenge stories would be appreciated.

Good luck to anyone who is going through anything remotely to what I am.

 

 

Read my posts. I too was left after 3.5 years a week ago that I thought all was fine. All to go back to the exW. I know EXACTLY how you feel. But theres no real point in exposing it and ruining a life. Karma will take care of her, and you just lessen yourself. Life has a funny way of coming back around

[Fieldsofgold]

Yes, life DOES have a funny way of coming back around.

 

I am not normally a vengeful person. At all. I walk away. turn the other cheek, etc. BUT . . . there was this one time . . . There was a woman with whom my husband and I worked. She posed as a "friend" of mine, and she then became "good friends" with my husband, dropping by the house often to visit, whether I was home or not. I would often come home from work to find her hanging out with him.

 

When I came home just a few weeks after the birth of my daughter, and found my husband in bed with her, I was beyond upset. I called her husband and told him. Of course, she made me out to be genuinely insane. Her husband defended her. She caused me all manner of hell and humiliation at work, nearly cost me my job.

 

It seemed there was nothing I could do. My husband and I split, and she remained married.

 

Fast forward 30 years. My daugther and I ran into them in a public place. I told my daughter who she was, and my daughter told me if I didn't do, it she would! So, to save my daughter from committing a personal evil (insert eye-roll here) I re-introduced myself to the woman. Told her where we had worked together, who my husband was. She "Just simply didn't remember" me. I noticed her husband listened with keen interest. When I turned to my daughter to introduce her to the woman, I said, "This is --------. This is one of the women your father had an affair with when we were married." The whole place went deathly quiet. You could hear a pin drop. The woman began choking, looked like she was having a heart attack on the spot. The expression on her husband's face told me he CLEARLY believed me this time, and that it was VERY relevant. I'm sure he'd had 30 years of history to reinforce it. My daughter, smiled, said, "Charmed, I'm sure." And we walked away, leaving them to their issues. I've no doubt the fall-out was far worse this time than it would have been 30 years ago.

 

If you want revenge, wait. It will be better later, after some history has passed. And you won't hurt innocent little kids.

 

And who knows, later you may realize your own responsibility in what happened, might even feel a little appropriate personal shame, and might not feel such a need for revenge. After all, the only reason you want revenge is because things didn't work out for you. Hardly righteous indignation.

Edited June 5, 2010 by Fieldsofgold

[fooled once]

Yes, life DOES have a funny way of coming back around.

 

I am not normally a vengeful person. At all. I walk away. turn the other cheek, etc. BUT . . . there was this one time . . . There was a woman with whom my husband and I worked. She posed as a "friend" of mine, and she then became "good friends" with my husband, dropping by the house often to visit, whether I was home or not. I would often come home from work to find her hanging out with him.

 

When I came home just a few weeks after the birth of my daughter, and found my husband in bed with her, I was beyond upset. I called her husband and told him. Of course, she made me out to be genuinely insane. Her husband defended her. She caused me all manner of hell and humiliation at work, nearly cost me my job.

 

It seemed there was nothing I could do. My husband and I split, and she remained married.

 

Fast forward 30 years. My daugther and I ran into them in a public place. I told my daughter who she was, and my daughter told me if I didn't do, it she would! So, to save my daughter from committing a personal evil (insert eye-roll here) I re-introduced myself to the woman. Told her where we had worked together, who my husband was. She "Just simply didn't remember" me. I noticed her husband listened with keen interest. When I turned to my daughter to introduce her to the woman, I said, "This is --------. This is one of the women your father had an affair with when we were married." The whole place went deathly quiet. You could hear a pin drop. The woman began choking, looked like she was having a heart attack on the spot. The expression on her husband's face told me he CLEARLY believed me this time, and that it was VERY relevant. I'm sure he'd had 30 years of history to reinforce it. My daughter, smiled, said, "Charmed, I'm sure." And we walked away, leaving them to their issues. I've no doubt the fall-out was far worse this time than it would have been 30 years ago.

 

If you want revenge, wait. It will be better later, after some history has passed. And you won't hurt innocent little kids.

 

And who knows, later you may realize your own responsibility in what happened, might even feel a little appropriate personal shame, and might not feel such a need for revenge. After all, the only reason you want revenge is because things didn't work out for you. Hardly righteous indignation.

 

You are a class act FoG! I would have loved to have been watching that scene!!!

[SavannahSmiles]

There is a hint of troll cologne in the air. Just a hint.....but definitely there.

 

 

While I was reading the original post, it sounded oddly like a romance novel.

[SidLyon]

While I was reading the original post, it sounded oddly like a romance novel.

 

Well certainly fiction. Not sure about the romance...