shyposey Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I met this guy on a chat site and we found out that we have a lot in common. We're both 20. We are also looking for the same things in life like a steady relationship. We've only been talking for literally two days. We've traded pics and he already wants meet me in the city that I working in this summer. He seems very sweet and nice. But he's already told me that he loves me (although I talked him out of since by explaining that we barely know each other). He waits to chat with me at the same time daily ever since we first talked. We talk about everything hobbies/interests, school, friends etc. But sometimes I just feel like he is too sweet and it's moving really fast. I mean we've only known each other for 2 days and we're already deciding to meet. I'm sorry if it seems like I'm babbling but I just want to make sure that this is normal. I've never done this cyber/online dating deal before so I'm just not sure what to expect out of it. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.
Blade Runner Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I would be very, very careful about this. First of all, he told you he loves you after meeting in a chat? And he waits to chat with you every day? That is a little off. Does the guy have a facebook you can look at? With cases like this it is useful to know who the guy hangs around, if anyone, what he does with his spare time... If you're going to meet him, make sure you webcam chat and call first, meet in a very public place like inside a cafe (one that's got people in it but not crowded), and have a friend inside the cafe (they can pretend they don't know you) with a phone standing by. A guy that says "I love you" and is eager to meet after a few chats tells me that either he's just desperate for the first girl that's near him that shows him any attention, or he's just being epicly nice, or he didn't really mean it, or who knows. Just be super careful. I've seen relationships that formed online work before, of course. They can work just as well as any other, as long as you play it safe.
Author shyposey Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Well, yeah if we ever meet I'll definitely meet up with him in public where there are plenty of people around us. I talked to him today again. He wants me to meet his parents, wants to meet my parents, and wants both our parents to meet. I just feel like we're moving at light speed since we've known each other for 3 days on a computer (never face to face). Oh I checked he says he doesn't have Facebook or a cam. I don't know, I'm getting a bad feeling about this.
D-Lish Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 How can someone you've never met claim to love you? It's ridiculous, and YES, it's a red flag. Falling in love with someone takes time- I couldn't respect someone that wasn't discerning of the process.
Blade Runner Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 That sounds extremely dodgy to me. Already talking about parents meeting after 3 days in chat? Yikes. The fact that he has no facebook or cam makes it a little too risky. Nothing wrong with not having those things generally, but he's gonna try meet someone online...then he probably should. But the main thing that gets me is the "I love you" and the parents meeting after 3 days in chat! That sounds like he's just trying to say the "right" things but way, way too early. Red flags galore!
Laugher Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Sounds like one of those 60 year old guys who lure young girls to their death chamber! ........................or is just young and naive and tells every girl he meets he loves them! Either way I would proceed with caution!
ADF Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Metting with someone is not a big deal. Just do it during the day in a public place. You should be fine.
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