Serenitynow Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Why do so many women give in to persistent almost stalker-ish guys ? Years ago, many of my guy friends were single. We would be out somewhere, restaurant, store, bar, etc. They would hit on a women (usually an employee) and they'd get shot down. They would continually try over and over for weeks maybe months. I would see the women without the pesky friend with me, and they would say how annoying the guy was, or how disrespectful he was, etc. But after a certain period of time, the women would give in and go on a date (I've heard many women say "I went out with him so he'd quite bothering me at work") What goes in in the female psyche that they despise the guy, than after awhile, they seem to think its flattering that a guy practically stalks them into submission ? All of these couples are still married, been for 10 + years most of them, with multiple children both great jobs. ( so you cant use the excuse the women were low self esteem bar fly's) Why do women give in to that ? If the guy took no for an answer he never would have got with her. Does it make any sense ?
SarahRose Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Why do so many women give in to persistent almost stalker-ish guys ? Years ago, many of my guy friends were single. We would be out somewhere, restaurant, store, bar, etc. They would hit on a women (usually an employee) and they'd get shot down. They would continually try over and over for weeks maybe months. I would see the women without the pesky friend with me, and they would say how annoying the guy was, or how disrespectful he was, etc. But after a certain period of time, the women would give in and go on a date (I've heard many women say "I went out with him so he'd quite bothering me at work") What goes in in the female psyche that they despise the guy, than after awhile, they seem to think its flattering that a guy practically stalks them into submission ? All of these couples are still married, been for 10 + years most of them, with multiple children both great jobs. ( so you cant use the excuse the women were low self esteem bar fly's) Why do women give in to that ? If the guy took no for an answer he never would have got with her. Does it make any sense ? Pity maybe? I don't know. I find the more a guy pesters me, the more I am turned off but that is just me. Just because someone is married, has children and a good job, doesn't mean they are happy and have good self esteem I think low confidence and poor boundaries have more to do with it. It is like all the women who do all the painful freakish sex things to make a guy happy.
Author Serenitynow Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Just because someone is married, has children and a good job, doesn't mean they are happy and have good self esteem True. But I am around them enough and you can tell when people are gaga over each other, compared to just dealing with the situation.
hats Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 (edited) A lot of times you'll get rejected by a woman because she just wasn't in the mood to say yes, for any number of reasons. You never know what's going on in her life at the moment. Maybe that day she happened to be feeling particularly lonely, or maybe particularly frisky for a new experience, or just bored. Also, being able to face rejection gracefully is an attractive quality in itself. Most girls are afraid of hurting people's feelings, and when they see you're emotionally resilient it makes them feel more comfortable around you. Persistence with a positive attitude is pretty much one of the best ways to get anyone to do anything. If anyone's ever gotten you to do something you weren't really sure you wanted to do, then you can see why this works. Edited June 5, 2010 by hats
SarahRose Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 True. But I am around them enough and you can tell when people are gaga over each other, compared to just dealing with the situation. Why do you think they give in?
Author Serenitynow Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Persistence with a positive attitude is pretty much one of the best ways to get anyone to do anything These situations had nothing to do with being positive the guys were practically pigish with the way they acted to the women. The women gets pissed the guy keeps trying week after week, and somehow after a period of time she decides to go out with him. Why do you think they give in? I have absolutely no idea.
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