Why do ex's assume the worst?

[bluz73]

I have been getting along pretty good lately. I honestly dont miss my ex and finally feel I have let go. No contact for 6 months.

PROBLEM: We live in the same town and I was driving my daughter to her friends house after school and happen to pass my ex on the street while driving. he was exiting the street I was entering which was odd. My heart sank. I felt ill and disgusted to have to see him with his new gf in the car.

So I get home and have a messgae from his new GF..telling me to stop stalking them that I drove by their apartment??

First off I had no clue they lived on that street and had no idea I'd pass him on this day.

So why do ex's assume that we are stalking them when we happen to live in the same town?

i didnt respond to the girl..but it makes me sick that he told her it was me in the SUV and they now think i stalked them

Anybody give me some advice

[Steadfast]

I don't know your history, but it's safe to assume the new gf has some security issues. Several reasons might have caused this; input and comments (true or otherwise) from your ex or the fact that she's just plain mental. Know this; unless it's true (and it isn't, right?) it's on them...or more specifically, on her. In reality, he should have texted you if there was a concern. If it had been me, I would have asked if you needed something, were OK, etc. The fact that she wrote you reeks of drama. Don't bite.

 

My advice is to return the text with this message: "I was taking my daughter to a friends house. I had no idea you lived in the area. Do not accuse me and do not message me. If there is a concern have (inset ex's name here) call or write."

 

It's just a bump. Ride it out. You must be very attractive to have her in such a twist!

 

That was free-

[bluz73]

Well thank you I must admit I am a pretty good looking woman She is a 19 yr old school girl who looks 12.

 

The weird thing about all this is in the past 6 months I havent had any contact with him...she always was writing me and harrassing me.

HE NEVER emailed me or said a peep during me and her's word battles.

Im not going to bother giving her the satisfaction of writing her back.

Im going to ignore her and she will have to get over the fact we live in the same town and know alot of the same people.

Atleast I found one thing out that he lives in a run down apartment complex with his new teeny bopper.lol

I just dont get why he even bothered mentioning that was my vehichle to her??

[whichwayisup]

Ignore her, ignore him. Who cares what they think... You know you're not stalking them! He isn't in your life anymore. You have no control over how he/she reacts anytime they see you in the car, out shopping or run into them at a movie theatre.

 

Life goes on, so the best way to handle this is, don't react at all.

 

PS His gf is jealous or something and is insecure, feels the need to lash out at you. It isn't anything you've done, she is the one who has issues.

[sugarmomma]

He is a total drama king! Be glad that he is now her problem.

 

Good Luck!

[ADF]

It is not at all clear from your post that your ex told this woman you were stalking them. She may well have gotten that idea on her own.

[bluz73]

It is not at all clear from your post that your ex told this woman you were stalking them. She may well have gotten that idea on her own.

Thats true he may not have said that but he had to mention it was my vehichle that drove past his on the street he lives on. He didnt have to say "hey there goes blank" to her cause she doesnt know what I drive. Why he even said it makes me wonder.

Im just tired of living on eggshells living in this town cause if I accidently pass them on the street I am accused of stalking them. Which leads to this broad spreading rumors all over town that I am and I MOST definately am not.

I have no feelings left for this man, not even hate. I feel nothing now. I made it thru a horrible heartbreak and things like this bring up feelings I dont want to revisit