skt2020 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Hi everyone, this is my first post, so please forgive me if i don't have the correct format or something. I'm sorry, this is long. Please read!!!!!!*** I am at a complete crossroads in my relationship and i am in some serious need of second opinions. Please help! Here's whats going on: My bf and i have been together for 3 1/2 years. We are both in college, and we have pretty much grown up together and we have been through some very tough times. My senior year of high school things were crazy at home with my parents battling divorce,so they decided to send me away to boarding school. I had no idea it was coming and my boyfriend and i could only contact each other by letters for an entire year. I was able to see him maybe 5 times when i got to go home. So, we stuck together and our relationship was as strong as it could be, it was actually amazing. I got home right before my freshman year of college and i was a little shell shocked being in the real world again, and so him and i spent soooo much time together. ( i missed him!) well we decided that our sophomore year of college we would both move out to a different area and go to the same community college, but living with roommates separately. This is when everything fell downhill. We started fighting horribly, not communicating and i would chase after him but he would shut down and be burned out. He ended up breaking up with me this last november and i spent from november to march of this yr (2010) trying to win him back. He wanted to be free, see what life was like single and wanted no more fighting (which i dont blame him for) but i finally gaave him an ultimatum in march that if he wanted to be with me he had to commit (no more casual dating between us) and he committed. So things have been really good from what i have understood. We both have been really happy there has been alot of great memories and chemistry between us. But...heres where my decision comes in. His sister is a celebrity ( I cant say the name) but they went to the finale screening together last tuesday and i was home sick. Apparently he met a girl there who was filming an interview of them together and he thought she was cute, and proceeded to tell his sister, who gave him her contact information so they could talk and meet up. She does NOT like me, (i'm not sure why, i've only met her 3 times) and he told her that he didn't think we were going to last, and he wished he had talked to that girl more at the finale. ( i found all this in an email that went back and forth from him to her after he let me go through his email) He told me that he wants to impress his sister, and so he talked a game about this other chick and its because he is insecure. He said he only wants to be with me and he was never going to persue this girl. so i decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, since he has never ever ever done anything like this. It is very out of character for him but i cant tell if hes just holding on to me for the sake of it and wanting other girls or if he just talked a game. I am like so torn up, cant stop crying, i'm trying to move past this but i don't want to eventually get cheated on and waste any more time of my life with someone who will keep letting me down. Anyone have any advice?
asharpe Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 I think you need to be careful. You might be setting yourself up for a broken heart. I know you are doing everything to make your relationship work, but eventually, one might take advantage of this. And... you will have your heart broken. Make sure you communicate and make sure you listen very carefully. If you sense that he's looking for another relationship, get out of it. Its better to say "enough is enough" then stand back and let him hurt you. It already sounds like you are pretty hurt.
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