MrNate Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I've always been curious. It seems (through observing many threads) that most of you have absolutely no problem attracting/keeping men. I find this to be evident by the fact I see frequent posts from women who often mention how they have no problem attracting men, or getting approached by men several times a day. So I have to ask, what drives you to a site like this?
kdark Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Before any girls answer, I would put my money on not attracting the right kind kind of guys. They are holding out for a hero.
Author MrNate Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Before any girls answer, I would put my money on not attracting the right kind kind of guys. They are holding out for a hero. Think so? Or maybe it's just to socialize? Either way, I'm genuinely curious. This has been on my mind for a while.
alphamale Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 It seems (through observing many threads) that most of you have absolutely no problem attracting/keeping men. I find this to be evident by the fact I see frequent posts from women who often mention how they have no problem attracting men, or getting approached by men several times a day. dude thats not true
allina Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I came to LS during a breakup 6 years ago and it became a habit/a way to spend time and relax, sort of like tv or video games.
SilentVoice Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I came to LS because I am pretty new to the dating world.Was dating this guy and it ended badly. After realizing what went wrong from reading from others experiences on LS. I stay for the extra knowledge. I personally have no problems meeting guys...many women don't.And I don't mean not meeting that prince charming because you attract what you put out,anyway. But like I said I am pretty new and very clueless so I stay for pointers. I am not looking to date right now...but I like the crowd and reading and I seem to learn new stuff about myself ever so often.
kiss_andmakeup Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I came to LS during a breakup 6 years ago and it became a habit/a way to spend time and relax, sort of like tv or video games. Similar to my story, except my breakup was 2 and a half years ago, and I've since changed user names because my ex located (and proceeded to stalk) my old one. Even though I consider myself to be in a happy long term relationship, I still have questions now and then, and this is a nice place to turn when you're looking for different perspectives.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I've always been curious. It seems (through observing many threads) that most of you have absolutely no problem attracting/keeping men. I find this to be evident by the fact I see frequent posts from women who often mention how they have no problem attracting men, or getting approached by men several times a day. So I have to ask, what drives you to a site like this? Yes but what kind of men? that may be the isssue that brings some here. I came here while in a abusive relashionship every one has their own reasons for being here really just cause you can attract some one dosent mean your always luckey in love!
SarahRose Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I suppose I first came here due to issues with my relationship and now it is a social thing like playing a game, tv, or a virtual get together. I like reading what people have to say.
tigressA Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I first came here last year looking for advice on an issue I was having with a guy friend of mine, and have stuck around ever since. I like being on this site; it's helped me a lot. Like kiss_andmakeup said, it's really nice to have other perspectives. I've received a lot of tough love from some members here, things that I wouldn't have wanted to hear under other circumstances, and it's improved my dating life dramatically.
Stung Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I see some female posters who have no trouble meeting men, and many others who do. I see a lot of female posters who have trouble meeting men who are not married, or who are not bad for them in some other way. Are these women not deserving of support? Trying to find a man whom you click with emotionally who is good for and to you is by no means automatically equivalent to 'holding out for a hero'. I myself came to LS with a few questions for the Getting Married and Marriage/Partnerships forums when I was getting engaged to my longterm partner and now-husband. I got some good advice and had a place to vent, and I stuck around for the social aspects and for the clarity and psychological insight some posters regularly offer. I was also actively dating for almost twenty years before I married in my 30s so the Dating arena is one I have a lot of experience in and some insight into, so I haunt this board as well as a couple others. Lately, though, the drama on this board is often so over-the-top it's growing tedious and negative. The bitterness is like a toxic sewage pool, and some posters are determined to drown themselves in it and take as many with them as they can.
hats Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Is it really that strange? Every woman I know loves talking about relationships.
Author MrNate Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Hm, I guess I can understand the social reasons, as well as gathering different perspectives. I was wondering about the latter, especially considering the fact that these threads are ascending to new heights of anger/craziness.
spookie Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I came to LS during a breakup 6 years ago and it became a habit/a way to spend time and relax, sort of like tv or video games. I came when I first started having problems in an R about 5 years ago.
txsilkysmoothe Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I attract men but I don't feel compatible with most of them. When I do really like a man, I admit I have trouble establishing and maintaining a relationship. About 13 years ago, I recognized I was bad at relationships. At that time, I didn't know why. I stopped dating for 11.5 years. I started dating about 18 months ago. I thought it would be easy, but I've had some disappointing experiences. I'm a genuine person and thought most others were too. I have had to learn some hard lessons about the way people behave in the dating world. I found LS when I was looking for answers, trying to figure out if a man was being straight with me. I'm still looking for answers. I don't want to make the same mistakes. I want to be one of those women who recognize a good man when I meet one. I want to attract the kind of man who will genuinely care for me, one who is capable of making a life long commitment. I think I can learn from LS members and their experiences.
jthorne Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I've always been curious. It seems (through observing many threads) that most of you have absolutely no problem attracting/keeping men. I find this to be evident by the fact I see frequent posts from women who often mention how they have no problem attracting men, or getting approached by men several times a day. So I have to ask, what drives you to a site like this?Cuz I'm bossy and like telling other people what I think and what they should do. KIDDING! I came for a specific problem, received a lot of help from a lot of great people. I stay to try to pay it back and because I enjoy many of the people here and I learn from other's experiences.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I'm fascinated by interpersonal relationships of all kinds ... especially those involving love and sex.
brainygirl Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Found the site when I was looking for relationship help, liked it and the insight I get, even if I don't like what is said. I am bad at dating. I always mess it up or attract/am attracted to the wrong sort of guy. I guess reading and talking about relationships makes up for the fact I can't find a satisfying one. Incidentally, guy I'm seeing is both not good for me, and less attracted too/into me than I am to him. I can't win.
Mrs.Smith Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I just joined the other day... kinda of looking for a little relationship insight. I'm also curious to dig a little into the male brain... my husband can be so hard to read at times, I have tons of questions....
sweetjasmine Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I signed up for the LDR forum and found some of the rest of the board interesting.
Stung Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Is it really that strange? Every woman I know loves talking about relationships. ...And there's that.
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