trza3 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Hey everyone I'll start with a little background info: We've been dating for 9 and a half years(high school sweethearts). I'm planning on proposing very soon, and up until recently things were completely wonderful in almost every aspect of our relationship. Here is my current problem: She is a school teacher and during the summers she works at a summer day "camp". The other "teacher" that works in her room is a guy. This is the second summer that they've worked together in the same classroom. I don't think that there is any type of physical cheating or anything going on, however I can't help but be worried about this other person. I don't know if I'm just being irrationally jealous and need to figure out some way to get over it, or what. I'm not sure if the other guy is interested in her or not, and she has said she isn't sure if he is or not either. She's insisted to me that there is absolutely no attraction on her part and that I'm crazy to think she'd ever cheat on me or hurt me.(which I really want to believe). The only things that have happened are that he has told her that there is someone at the camp he is interested in(didn't say who) and asked her if she thought he should ask this person out. He also asked her out to breakfast before they were to meet to work on planning activities, decorating the room. When this happened she promptly suggested they invite some of the other teachers also(which he agreed too). Yesterday they carpooled together from the school to the restaurant(just the two of them), she said it was uncomfortable and she would have avoided it if possible. The big that bothers me though is that several times last year she said that the kids asked them if they were dating, or said they should date or whatever(they're in the 11-13 year old range). She chalked this up to kids just being kids, and I could believe that. However today a new teacher asked them if they were dating, and this makes me wonder if they're acting like more than just coworkers at work. Should I be worried? Should I stop being so paranoid(if so, how??? I can't get this out of my head while I'm at work.) Any advice would be much appreciated Sorry for the choppy post, just kind of let everything pour out of my head at once
Feelin Frisky Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 If you meant to marry and expect the loyaties that are commensurate with the institution, what the heck has 9 plus years without popping the qustion. It would make it all very simple as to who is who and what is what. But now it seems you're driving yourself a little crazy because you want control and perhaps there's some guilt in there because woman, some more than others, have a biological clock even if it doesn't center on children. I don't really get what you expect.
Author trza3 Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 If you meant to marry and expect the loyaties that are commensurate with the institution, what the heck has 9 plus years without popping the qustion. It would make it all very simple as to who is who and what is what. But now it seems you're driving yourself a little crazy because you want control and perhaps there's some guilt in there because woman, some more than others, have a biological clock even if it doesn't center on children. I don't really get what you expect. about the 9 years, like i said in the original post, we were high school sweethearts. We've only been out of college(and I'm still going to school part time) for a year
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