SinTzu Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I need some advice on how to handle this situation. Here's the basics of it. I visited my ex once in the middle of 09 before we broke up and it was fantastic. We feel in love so to speak. We both play games online so it's our main form of interaction. Well one of the people we played with started doing manipulative things behind my back. I went to visit her in January and things hit the fan. I found out she no longer was sure how she felt about me and that she may love the manipulator. I went home early, but we had sex and she was crying after I left, she basically wasn't over me like she had thought she was. So then for the next few months we were on again off again. Then about 2 months ago we started getting more consistent, we were doing all the things we had done when we dated flirting, talking until 4 am, the works. Eventually I cave in a agree to fly up to see her. Now after a blunder by me, (I got jealous when she went to play with another guy over me.) she started to be really hesitant to speak with me or play games. Then her account got hacked and since only me and her brother now the password I'm getting the blame. It's been about a week since I had an actual conversation with her. She ignores 99% of the messages I send her. The only ones she typically answer are the ones asking if she wants to play a game. To which she says no, i dont want to. Today I asked if we're still friends and she said yes, then went back to ignoring me. So, since I now have a non-refundable ticket and don't have $ for a hotel, (I was supposed to stay at her place for 2 1/2 weeks) what do I do? I can't see anyway to make her trust me again in just 13 days, much less get us back how we were. But I also don't want to have wasted all the money on the ticket, much less lose her as I obviously still have feelings for her.
skydiveaddict Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I would just not go. Why go if she's not interested in you anymore?
carhill Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Most non-refundable airline tickets can be applied towards another flight to anywhere in the airlines service area within a year of original travel. Some have 'change fees'; others do not. Be sure to cancel the reservation by the day of outbound travel. I wouldn't go. No need. Only caveat would be if the destination was one where one might meet a lot of single ladies, like a resort/vacation destination. Then I might go on a single vacation, if affordable.
Author SinTzu Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 Argh that's frustrating, I'll give it another week then if things between us haven't drastically changed I'll change it to Las Vegas for later this year. I'll probably post any updates here if things start changing.
Author SinTzu Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Well we're back to talking and laughing with each other but she won't do anything with me one on one outside of msn. Which basically means she's stonewalling me. I'm done with the games. Tickets getting changed on monday. I may not be perfect but I don't deserve this.
stace79 Posted June 7, 2010 Posted June 7, 2010 Argh that's frustrating, I'll give it another week then if things between us haven't drastically changed I'll change it to Las Vegas for later this year. I'll probably post any updates here if things start changing. Why don't you pick up a phone and call her? I hate how young people always want to do everything online. Call her up and tell her how you feel. THEN decide what to do. But I agree, I wouldn't bother going if she has no interest in you.
Author SinTzu Posted June 15, 2010 Author Posted June 15, 2010 Well I don't call because our phone conversations are generally less productive than our ones via other media. Be it msn/yahoo, e-mail, voice chat, video chat, we're both more comfortable and relaxed on other methods. Wish me luck as I'm supposed to talk to her tomorrow to see if she still wants me to go up. At this point it's highly unlikely however.
SarahRose Posted June 15, 2010 Posted June 15, 2010 Well I don't call because our phone conversations are generally less productive than our ones via other media. Be it msn/yahoo, e-mail, voice chat, video chat, we're both more comfortable and relaxed on other methods. Wish me luck as I'm supposed to talk to her tomorrow to see if she still wants me to go up. At this point it's highly unlikely however. I think that is telling you all you need to know right there. It id much easier to play games and have pretend relationships in text that it is over the phone.
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