USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Quick question that came to mind today...ladies, what do you do if a guy asks for your number but you're not interested and don't really want to hear from him again...? Do you: (A) Say "No, I'd rather not give you my number" (B) Give him silly excuse why you can't give it to him © Give him your number and hope he doesn't call you (D) Give him your number and ignore any of his calls (E) Give him a fake number (F) Other The only reason I ask is that I was at a going away luncheon thing today, and there was this intern who I'd never met who was leaving to go to a different office in the building. I talked to her for a bit during the lunch and then asked for her number as we all were about to leave. She gave me her number, but afterwards, I felt like I had put her in an awkward spot...and I almost felt bad... Started wondering whether she just gave it to me with no interest in hopes that I'd lose the number or just not call her... Any thoughts...?
Star Gazer Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 When I was single, if I didn't want to give my number, I just didn't. If he was a weirdo/gross guy, I'd just flat out tell him I wasn't interested. If he was a nice/attractive guy, but I just wasn't interested, I'd tell him that I had a boyfriend. In other words, if you got her number and it turns out to be a REAL number, then she's probably interested...
MrNate Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Option 'f'. Ex: "Ah, jeez, look at the time. I have to go water my cat!":eek: ha.
somedude81 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 One choice you forgot is "Ask for his number instead."
Author USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 One choice you forgot is "Ask for his number instead." Ooooh, this is a good one...
SilentVoice Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 One choice you forgot is "Ask for his number instead." Yep this what I usually do. "OH ,I have to go(add some bull**** excuse) , give me your number." But guys now will give the number and ask you to call them on the spot. Sigh That is why I have google voice...That straight to voice mail is God
Knittress Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 C,D,E... I'm kinda shy and STILL trying to adjust to this weird 'single' thing. I usually just try and duck out of the conversation before it escalates to that point. Sometimes I'm not quick enough though.
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I always found that when I was younger and the women were too that they gave up the number because they didn't know what else to do and the older I got and so did the women they had learned to say Thanks but " I'm not interested", Something experience taught them. So if she was young then she may have given up the number because she felt that was the best way out.. Call her and see....
Author USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 So if she was young then she may have given up the number because she felt that was the best way out.. Yea, she's about a year out of college, so that's why I felt like she did the only thing she could think of when I put her on the spot like that...but it wasn't like I cold asked her...we ended up sitting next to each other at the restaurant, so we had a pretty good conversation...I asked questions, she asked questions...she seemed genuinely interested in talking to me...a few times I unintentionally cut her off when another co-worker asked me something...but I figured I'd ask for her number after lunch...she said sure, but I didn't get her number right away...so then I walked her out to her car afterwards and helped carry all her going away crap, since it was on the way to my car, and before I left, she reminded me to get her number... So yea...who knows.
TaraMaiden Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Well, can I have your number? Oh sure.... it's in the directory..... Well, what's your name...? Oh, that's in the directory too....!
Author USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 Well, can I have your number? Oh sure.... it's in the directory..... Well, what's your name...? Oh, that's in the directory too....! Hahah, nice. I like this one...
yume Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Give a fake. Can't be bothered expending the energy saying no and risking their persistence ("why not?") and so on...
Author USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 just call her for Pete's sake I will take this directive into consideration...
Trimmer Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Started wondering whether she just gave it to me with no interest in hopes that I'd lose the number or just not call her... ...so then I walked her out to her car afterwards and helped carry all her going away crap, since it was on the way to my car, and before I left, she reminded me to get her number... All I can say is, if she had the opportunity to just let it drop by doing nothing, and instead she actually reminded you to get her number, well, I don't see how you could think you pressured her into giving it up. In other words, your list of "how to avoid giving out your number" might well include: (F) let it drop if he doesn't remember to ask for it again; but would definitely NOT include (F) if he doesn't ask for it again, remind him to get it.
Eeyore79 Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 If I was taken, obviously I'd tell any guy who asked for my number that I have a bf. If I was single, then my response would vary depending on the situation. I would just tell some random guy that I have a bf, because he couldn't possibly find out that I don't. If the guy was a friend of a friend, or somehow able to find out about my single status, then I'd just say I don't think it's a good idea to give him my number; I'm not really interested in dating anyone at the moment and I feel it's best to be honest about that. Perhaps that's a little dishonest, because it's a variation on the "it's not you, it's me" line. If I give a guy my number, I am definitely interested! Unless we are very clearly just friends, giving him my number shows I am interested in dating. In fact I'd probably call him on the spot, so I'd have his number too
Green Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Quick question that came to mind today...ladies, what do you do if a guy asks for your number but you're not interested and don't really want to hear from him again...? Do you: (A) Say "No, I'd rather not give you my number" (B) Give him silly excuse why you can't give it to him © Give him your number and hope he doesn't call you (D) Give him your number and ignore any of his calls (E) Give him a fake number (F) Other (A) is rare... more likely to get "I don't give out my number" (B) I think this silly excuse thing could have summed up ur "(F)" they say stuff like "I don't have a phone number or email is way better" ect. In fact sugesting they give you their email or something is common © Haha I've often felt they do this, they don't have the balls to say no so they just give their number out. (D) I would say this relates back to © but then again some times they give out the number and then later on have regrets so they ignore the calls because they are flakey The only reason I ask is that I was at a going away luncheon thing today, and there was this intern who I'd never met who was leaving to go to a different office in the building. I talked to her for a bit during the lunch and then asked for her number as we all were about to leave. She gave me her number, but afterwards, I felt like I had put her in an awkward spot...and I almost felt bad... Started wondering whether she just gave it to me with no interest in hopes that I'd lose the number or just not call her... Any thoughts...? Yeah my thoughts are GO FOR IT! Who cares if she doesn't really like you and just gave you her number because she didn't have the balls to say no. By that same line of logic she really might go out on dates with you ect. because she doesn't have the balls to say no and that will give you an OPORTUNITY to WIN her over. Face time is half the battle. Seriously though you should have asked her out! Then got the number as contact info for the date... and then you wouldn't be in this situation. "I'd enjoy taking you to this great place to eat tonight" then whether she says "yes" or "no I'm busy, or just nah" you still ask for the number anyway... that way you atleast know that she knows what she is getting herself into. I say you call her tommorow after noon like around 12 and see if she wants to get lunch. Tell them to add me on FB instead. hmmm is that why you have so many male facebook friends?
Author USMCHokie Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 If I give a guy my number, I am definitely interested! Unless we are very clearly just friends, giving him my number shows I am interested in dating. In fact I'd probably call him on the spot, so I'd have his number too Yay. Green, looking back, I agree...I should have established that I wanted to take her out on the spot when I got her number...I'm totally with you on the do-or-die mentality...taking action is the only way to go...a lot of guys on LS and in general would do well to follow that approach to life...
Serenitynow Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 A few months from now, I can post a question "do you play games when not interested or tell the guy straight up" And all these women that said they give fake numbers/excuse will say they dont play games, they arent like that they are always upfront with guys . . .
Green Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Yay. Green, looking back, I agree...I should have established that I wanted to take her out on the spot when I got her number...I'm totally with you on the do-or-die mentality...taking action is the only way to go...a lot of guys on LS and in general would do well to follow that approach to life... Well you have her contact info. Use it to ask her out. I once friend requested this "girl" on facebook... then when she didn't accept the request I sent her a msg "why didn't you accept my request" and to my suprise she answered "Oh I only have close friends who I speak to regularly no offense" I was like "You have over a 100 people there is no way most of those people are close friends who you speak to regularly" Some times you just have to make people uncomfortable for your own entertainment. I say as long as your doing something you can be proud of then don't second guess yourself. Most women don't enjoy being hit on which includes giving out their number... but plenty of love connections happen where the GIRL was like " I didn't like him at first, I didn't even want to give him my number ect... but then it all worked out and now he is the love of my life" If you like her the wear her down by not giving up even if you sense some hesitation on her part
iheartlavalamps Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I just tell them I don't give out my number. Well, now I tell them that I have a boyfriend, but you get my drift.
izzi Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 if a girl doesnt want you to have her # then 9 out of 10, you aint gettin it..more so these days when girls are more forward and upfront not scared to speak theyre minds..
luname84 Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I am with other posts on this one. If a guy i don't want asks for my # I say " why don't you give me your number, and i'll call you". see if you come up with an excuse as to why you don't want to give it, some guys will be cool and understand, but most will not drop the matter. They'll make things awkward by saying " oh that's a lie" "why not i'm a cool guy" and not go away. so to avoid the whole thing, just ask for his and never call.
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