randomname Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 My ex gf left me in January because I lied and she couldnt trust me anymore (I won't go into any further detail about this, but it wasn't cheating - I told a series of big lies to hide something). Anyway I pleaded and begged but she was so angry, so she left me and told me to never contact her again. We were together 2 years. Recently she emailed me to ask to speak on the phone and I replied and gave her my mobile number which she had deleted. On the phone she told me she still loved me and cried a lot. She said she thought about me every day and still had very strong feelings for me but we couldn't get back together because she hadn't gotten over my deceit. I calmy asked if that meant we could never getting back together and she said she won't close her mind to the possibility. I said really? And she said yes, she really won't close her mind to it in the future. We spoke more and then she said she has missed me a lot. Bearing in mind she broke off all contact with me for 5 months and hadn't been in touch, I said I don't know if I can believe that. she interupted and swore loudly at me and hung up the phone. I texted her afterwards to ask why she hung up and of course I am going to doubt her missing me a lot when she hasn't been in touch for so many months and after the things she said in january. I told her I missed her too, as I had on the phone. She didn't reply to the text and that was 1 week ago. Should I just leave her be? Or should I send a follow up text? I don't know why she got so mad about me doubting her missing me? The only contact we had in those months was when I emailed her in feb and she told me she had met someone else and was getting married which I found out the other week was a lie constructed to hurt me. I love her so much and think about her every day still. We have both remained single in the months since separating. We dated for 2 years and are both early twenties. Advice or thoughts??
Ilovecake Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I don't know why she got so mad about me doubting her missing me? Definitely leave her alone. It sound like she wanted you to beg and plead and when you didn’t she got mad. She called you after 5 months because something happened and she was feeling bad about herself, she needed an ego boost and knew you would be an easy target for that. She knows she should not be with you and probably felt guilty about calling so she took it out on you and made it look like you said something wrong.
Author randomname Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 Thanks for the input. I remained calm during the phone call and am pleased with how I composed myself except for the end where I'm not certain if I messed up. She said on the phone we would be in occasional contact now but that was before she got mad. Did she over-react? Anyone else have opinions on my original post? Thanks so much. Have very few people I can discuss with this.
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