counterman Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 So, I've been talking to girls and just yesterday I got a girl's number. I flirted with her and it was fun. I am really feeling comfortable about the approach and it is fun but, afterwards, I feel nothing. I do not want to lead anyone on. However, I think she's interested and I think a few others are but, to be honest, I just don't feel that excitement, that feeling that makes me want to see her again. They are cute or pretty but I don't seem to be THAT attracted to them. Should I still go on dates with them just to see how it goes and if I still don't feel anything then there's no second date? Or, should I just leave it... and not do anything. It's just been happening this past week, like nothing get's me going.
DanielMadr Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 (edited) So, I've been talking to girls and just yesterday I got a girl's number. I flirted with her and it was fun. I am really feeling comfortable about the approach and it is fun but, afterwards, I feel nothing. I do not want to lead anyone on. However, I think she's interested and I think a few others are but, to be honest, I just don't feel that excitement, that feeling that makes me want to see her again. They are cute or pretty but I don't seem to be THAT attracted to them. Should I still go on dates with them just to see how it goes and if I still don't feel anything then there's no second date? Or, should I just leave it... and not do anything. It's just been happening this past week, like nothing get's me going. When you are anxious about leading someone on I would recommend you to eject. Because when you feel nothing now there is little chance it will improve. And basically you won't have the drive with them. Even when a girl loves you, you need to take the lead - responsibility. Now you will be just "dating" and lingering there with no goal in mind. And therefore you will be leading them on. The problem is...when you keep seeing them, they will fall in love with you...because of your slight disinterest and it will get harder and harder to eject. My rule> Do not date what you wouldn't f@k. And do not f@k what you wouldn't date. Since you don't want to date them really, I'd consider not f@aking them. Is it ONS situation? No? Then eject, because they want from you relationship which you can't give. Edited June 4, 2010 by DanielMadr
Author counterman Posted June 6, 2010 Author Posted June 6, 2010 Good advice. I just don't see anything happening at all. I don't want to waste anyone's time as well. Part of me thinks it is just me being devoid of emotions but I guess I am just not attracted to them. It's a sick, empty feeling.
mixwell Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 So, I've been talking to girls and just yesterday I got a girl's number. I flirted with her and it was fun. I am really feeling comfortable about the approach and it is fun but, afterwards, I feel nothing. I do not want to lead anyone on. However, I think she's interested and I think a few others are but, to be honest, I just don't feel that excitement, that feeling that makes me want to see her again. They are cute or pretty but I don't seem to be THAT attracted to them. Should I still go on dates with them just to see how it goes and if I still don't feel anything then there's no second date? Or, should I just leave it... and not do anything. It's just been happening this past week, like nothing get's me going. I'm going to jump to conclusions here when I saw that looks wise she probably isn't HOT in your view.. I have talked and hooked up etc with chicks that I never got that interested vibe in.. I always thought "yah she's cool and fun to talk to" but I never found myself intrigued in that person and honestly if you get that feeling right off the bat you should probably not persue it any further unless it is under the condition that you're only looking to get laid to be honest because even if you date her etc you will never have that joy and feeling like you cannot wait to talk to her/see her etc.. I've done it before and I have led chicks on with the intention just to get laid but I never had that intriguing feeling about them nor did I care if I ever stopped suddenly talking to them..
Author counterman Posted June 9, 2010 Author Posted June 9, 2010 Yeah, I did not find her hot. Some just seem as though there is really nothing more to them. Like, it is one-dimensional. These are the girls that I feel that if I am too aggressive, they would be scared, whereas I want a girl who can flirt back and can banter. I wouldn't lead them on just to get laid though. Guess I'll just leave it at that...
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