terminalmoraine Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I met a 21 year old guy when I was 18 and on holiday in Spain last September. We grew close very quickly. When we returned from the holiday we started dating. Everything was great. He introduced me to his family and christmas time was lovely. He bought me a gorgeous bracelet with a love heart on it. This was my first serious relationship. I discovered he had been in many relationships prior to me (more than ten). I am at University and hold down a part time job work wed-sat so I never had much free time. We live an hours drive from each other and I cant drive. So to see him I would have to get trains for two hours. We saw each other 6-7 times a month. I understand he has a high sex drive and often became frustrated at how little time we spent together. He also had anger issues and when he broke up with me he said he held a knife to his sisters throat last year and that I dont know him at all. One time he grabbed my arm and left a bruise. He also didnt like phonecalls and has few friends. Communication at times felt strained. Not many of my friends liked him because they said I wasn't myself when I was with him. In total we were together nine months. He gave no indication the breack up was coming he became distant one day so I called him and he said he would come down that night. I jumped in the shower and he sent me a text "I cant continue in this relationship I cant give u the love you need, I know you love me but it should be equal thats why its not fair, you deserve someone who makes you truly happy, all the best for your exams coming up, please dont call I communicate best this way". I was so upset. I booked a holiday for him the next month he dropped off £100 for the holiday but he was so cold and couldn't look at me. He was always affectionate with cuddles and I never done anything bad so I dont understand why he was being so cold. He looked as if he was about to cry. I have now been in 3 weeks no contact and not heard nothing from him. Honestly I really believes he loves me (I can tell why would he drive all that way to see me for nearly a year and buy me gifts). Do you think he'll come back when he resolves his issues? Why do you think he broke up with me? I am so confused
ALombard Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Word of advice. Drop it, nothing he does matters. Get those thoughts of WHY? and WHAT IF out of your mind. Move on, trust me I got out of a very long term serious relationship a few weeks ago and once I got those thoughts out of my head and accepted the situation for what it was I was fine.
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