WintersNightTraveler Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Lately I've been pretty apathetic about dating. It's the first time this has happened to me. I'm reasonably experienced. During my entire twenties I always either had a very serious girlfriend, or was dating people casually and sexually. I wasn't ever a real lothario but things weren't difficult either. I just turned thirty. I was seeing someone for about five months recently. I liked her and we had fun, but I knew it wasn't going towards marriage or committment for me. I wasn't seeing anyone else, although I didn't feel exclusive. I actually wasn't sure how she felt about things, and then one night she said I love you which kind of cleared that up. It wasn't a bad scene that night or anything - I was immediately honest with her that I didn't feel the same way, and she spent the night, and a few days later at dinner I broke it off. I'm actually pretty happy about that, it was doing the right thing, rather than just stringing her along for the sex. Since then (about two months) I just haven't had any motivation romantically. I went on a couple of dates, and they seemed to go fine, but I could tell I was just acting on habit. Saying things I knew would seem funny, being gregarious, confident, but I really didn't give a sh*t. I'm burnt out on the inevitable nonsense and game playing that goes along with casual dating, and also that last girl has left me a bit uneasy I think. It's not the first time I dated someone who felt more strongly about me than I did about her and it's not a very pleasant experience. For unknown reasons I seem to be dealing with the lack of sex more easily than I used to as well. I guess I'm just kind of rambling a bit. Wondering if anyone else has had this kind of burn out, and if so how it went for them.
Shakz Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Oh yeah, I can relate, but remember, burnout is cyclical. I'm in a burn-out phase right now; couldn't care less about romance or sex. My advice would be: take a break, reassess your values (now that you've entered your 30's) and, with any luck, you will be ready to take the next step, which is entering into a meaningful and mutually satisfactory relationship.
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