Ladies: What's the most you will do with your looks to attract men?

[Stung]

On a regular day I shower, and hopefully my toddler keeps from having a meltdown long enough for me to shave my legs and underarms, too. I use a special cleanser on my skin. I shampoo, condition, and towel-dry, then rub some leave-in conditioning cream through my hair. If I want it straight I brush it wet, if I want it curly I let it air-dry then brush it. Then I put on moisturizer with a light coverage tint and a 30 or 45 SPF, tinted lip balm, put on my glasses, and throw on some stud earrings, jeans or yoga pants, Converse hi-tops and a t-shirt and bra.

 

But I am at home with kids all day and I work part-time mostly in the evenings, remotely, with clients who only see me once a month and don't give a damn what I look like, and my husband prefers a more natural look. I keep my nails trimmed very short and rarely wear polish anymore because I so rarely have enough me-time to do my nails.

 

On a high-maintenance day:

 

-shower, skin cleanser, exfoliate, shave and Nair

-shampoo, condition, towel-dry, apply leave-in conditioner, brush, finger-scrunch curls, apply mousse

-moisturizer and clear lip balm and allover body lotion, usually shea butter

-pale mineral powder to even out skin tone

-pluck and shape brows

-eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, nude lipgloss

-manicure, pedicure

-out comes the jewelry box

-dressier, more expensive clothes, natural fibers (silk, cashmere, wool, leather, etc.) usually emphasizing my rack . I rarely wear heels anymore but will on occasion; I'm six feet in my stockings so most people find that heels make me rather imposing. I love the ballet flats trend.

 

My one regular indulgence these days is my hair. I have a serious mane and I like to keep it well-shaped so I don't have to mess with it too much day-to-day, and I keep the colors interesting. I do drop a couple hundred at the salon every time I go.

[MrNate]

I don't think the sole purpose of this forum is for people who can't attract or keep someone.

 

I've never had a problem attracting or keeping men. I had various boyfriends throughout high school. I then married in my early 20s and spent 20 years as a trophy wife. Then divorced and I wasn't divorced but a few months when I met my current husband. So no, I have no problem at all.

 

I like this forum for the social aspect of it.

 

It still strikes me as odd, but it does make sense I guess.

[Eeyore79]

I primp and preen myself a lot, but I don't do it just to attract men; I do it for myself. I feel confident when I feel attractive; I enjoy looking nice and taking pride in myself.

[SarahRose]

I primp and preen myself a lot, but I don't do it just to attract men; I do it for myself. I feel confident when I feel attractive; I enjoy looking nice and taking pride in myself.

 

Yeah I mostly do what I do for myself now and for my husband.

 

I'm married and not looking to attract other men.

[kiss_andmakeup]

I consider most of the things I do to boost my appearance as being for me, or for my profession, rather than "to attract the opposite sex." My boyfriend thinks I look the most beautiful with my hair and a ponytail and no makeup on, in tight but old, crappy, and faded jeans and a tank top. If I only lived by his standards for attractiveness I would never look very put-together.

 

I love doing my hair and makeup. I'm a cosmetologist by profession so getting ready is my "play time." Most days I do a basic pin-up kind of look with natural face makeup, pale eyeshadow, and winged black liquid liner. Once or twice a week I'll do really smokey or really bright colours on the eyes just for fun.

 

I don't wash my hair every day but when I do it takes me about 20 minutes to blowdry it.

 

I do work out 5 to 6 days a week, mostly for myself. I like the energy boost it gives me and in general I am a happy and more lively person when I'm on a regular exercise regimen.

 

I'm very pale and don't invest in tanning or artificial tanning methods as others have listed...however this creates other caveats in that I use very expensive sunscreen (la roche posay) on a daily basis to protect my skin, and that sometimes I have to compensate for my pale-ness by making sure I select proper makeup and clothing shades so as not to look washed out.

 

My morning routine on a daily basis is about 40 minutes including a leisurely shower. Slightly more if I have to blowdry my hair. I think that's not too bad considering I'm usually voted "best dressed" at my workplace!

[zebracolors]

I actually don't do as much as I could, in that I don't really wear make up That has to be because my mother did not either, so I did not gain much wisdom in that area. About the only time I ever wore any was in high school, and even then only eye shadow. that didn't last long. It really didn't seem to matter in college though, I had 2 boyfriends briefly during those years despite that.

 

These days, I still don't wear makeup. I really just make sure my hair is neat, but I do make sure my skin is clean, ex foliated, and not too dry. Of course right now I don't need to attract any guy, because I have a man in my heart:o My clothes style however, thats a different story, something I could use help with probably.....

[spookie]

When I'm really trying, which only happens about once a month, I will shower, blowdry and straighten my hair, and spend about 15 minutes making my face look flawless. These nights, I'm dressing up mainly for the fun, a little bit to fit in with the girls, and also becuase I like the jaw-drop reaction I get from my bf when I look really hot. (He eats the dolled-up thing right up, though I don't go over the top.)

 

Normally, I am running late so I don't do anything with my hair, and I only wear mascara for makeup.

 

I'm too lazy to keep up with nails/ feet/ the rest of the girly details. I work out and eat right but that's mainly to feel good, not to attract men.

[Mme. Chaucer]

 

WOMEN are their own worst enemies. All the stuff they are listing is done ONLY to gain an advantage over the other women in the room.

 

 

This might be true in some cases, but I'm here to tell you that in mine, it absolutely is not. I'm in a committed relationship and not interested in attracting any men; I live on a farm and rarely find myself in a room with other well dressed women, and I STILL have my lingerie fetish and (never tell my boyfriend please - he practically has no sense of smell) over $1,000.00 worth of fragrance in my dressing room. I LOVE make up and glamor, and sometimes I get a bit blue that my lifestyle no longer really warrants any of that ... so I just go for it, for myself.

 

I'm sure you know how some little girls (some boys as well!) love to play dress-up. I was one of them, and I guess I still am now that I'm old and a half.

[Green]

This thread made me think of http://quotes.whyfame.com/files/2010/02/heidi.jpg

 

Heidi Montag

[sweetjasmine]

BTW, don't be mad at men because we don't wear makeup. You're the ones who want to look better than we do.

 

I'm not "mad at men because [you] don't wear makeup.". I'm irritated by the implication that women should be expected to wear makeup to cover up their imperfections. The assumption is that women's imperfections are unacceptable and must be concealed, whereas men's imperfections don't require that kind of treatment.

 

I wear makeup sometimes because I like it. There was a time when I hated it and never touched it. I only wore it when I absolutely had to, and I didn't like it. If someone had said to me, "Well, you have a blemish here, and a little one there, so I want you to put on makeup because I don't want to see your imperfections," I'd have told him or her to go f- themselves.

[Cracker Jack]

I really like this topic.

 

It's why women are so great.

[dressing up]

When guys say they prefer natural it means they don't want to see this, this or this and haven forbid this. All we care is that we want you to look natural, while covering your imperfections.

 

 

 

This is hilarious. But good to know.

 

Because I was about to say on this thread that if guys want au naturel, they may have to accept that there won't be that many girls to go around. There are girls who look great without anything on their face or have to do any upkeep but they are the minority.

 

I hate to have a lot of gunk on my face but I appreciate some makeup to accentuate whatever I have.

[iheartlavalamps]

Obvious hygenic stuff.

 

If it's one of those "I want to look good" days. . .

 

-eye make up so my brown eyes aren't quite so dull.

-i'll put mousse in my hair, to fluff it up a little bit.

-any anything with a v-neck or tank top that's going to make the boobs pop in the most classy way possible, and make my belly look less like a belly and more like i'm just curvy (lol)

 

oh, and now that I'm with a guy who likes to feel on my legs, I shave them pretty much EVERY day.

 

but past that, I don't do much of anything. It's just not that important to me, as long as hygiene is met.

[bac]

 

Here's mine:

 

1. Cleanse, exfoliate, shave, brush teeth, deodorant (the most obvious things).

2. Hair: straighten it. If it's already straight, I just finger-comb and fluff it.

3. Face:make up

4. Clothes: Matching bra and panties (because you never know ), a cute dress that shows off either my legs or cleavage, high heels.

 

I do all those things. It takes me 1 1/2 hrs to get ready to a relatively new date. During the time I spend time on relaxation, meditation and brainwash of myself.

 

But, the hardest thing is being hungry all your life in order to be slim.

Because of that I have the following experiences: counting calories, dissatisfaction, hunger, physical weakness, sad mood, irritation.

[EmeraldHeart]

I shave several times a week.

 

I straighten my hair every day. I do not like my frizzy, naturally wavy hair.

 

I wear foundation, blush, and chapstick.

 

I use body lotion. I do not use any type of perfume because I am very sensitive to scents.

 

I am a minimalist. I used to go all out and the older I get (I am 35) the more comfortable I have become with myself and if people, not just men, aren't interested in knowing be because of my looks, to hell with them. I am a very casual person and the way I look and dress reflects that.

[Mac91]

wow you girls sure go through alot to look all prettied up, I'm impressed lol...

[You Go Girl]

I was an urban girl for awhile. Now I'm going back to the country. When I was urban, I bought plastic clothing yikes.

Now I will throw it all away and I'll have to buy a new wardrobe. I don't know what I was thinking.

Was i thinking?

[Ruby Slippers]

lol do you women just sign on these forums to brag about who gets more attention?

 

But honestly, I do wonder, it seems like many (just about all) of you women really don't have problems when it comes to attracting/keeping men. So why the need to be on a forum such as this?

It's not bragging. I don't know anyone here personally and never will, so that would have entirely no purpose. But numbers give information. I found it interesting.

 

I've never had a problem attracting or keeping men. I've been in relationships with pretty quality guys steadily with few pauses my entire dating life, and I've always been the one to break up (except once, when a guy I'd been wavering on staying with for a long time finally ripped the band-aid off for me). This is the longest I've not been in a serious relationship ever (a year and a half).

 

But I have not yet met a man who was a good fit for the long haul -- well, I did, but he had this crazy family who kept interfering, and that was driving us both nuts. I came here to learn more about men and how they think, in hopes of learning to choose better in the future. It's certainly been an eyeful, and depressing in many ways, but I must admit I've learned a lot.

Edited June 6, 2010 by Ruby Slippers

[MrNate]

It's not bragging. I don't know anyone here personally and never will, so that would have entirely no purpose. But numbers give information. I found it interesting.

 

I've never had a problem attracting or keeping men. I've been in relationships with pretty quality guys steadily with few pauses my entire dating life, and I've always been the one to break up (except once, when a guy I'd been wavering on staying with for a long time finally ripped the band-aid off for me). This is the longest I've not been in a serious relationship ever (a year and a half).

 

But I have not yet met a man who was a good fit for the long haul -- well, I did, but he had this crazy family who kept interfering, and that was driving us both nuts. I came here to learn more about men and how they think, in hopes of learning to choose better in the future. It's certainly been an eyeful, and depressing in many ways, but I must admit I've learned a lot.

 

Hm, very informative. Makes plenty of sense over here.

[threebyfate]

Right now, I'd be happy to just see my toes much less touch them so beyond a shower, exfoliating, conditioning and moisturizing, barely any make up and ugly maternity clothing, I'm done!