Lastseenhere Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Ok guys im gonna recap real quick... My ex cheated on me back in november.. we tried to work it out but she eventually left me regardless. She cheated on me with my best friend, therefore I lost all of my closest friends... heart breaking story can be found here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=211009 At the end of the thread I say how happy I am and ive been dating other people. True story, but for some reason the past month ive been thinking about her almost every day. Because of this break up ive lost ALOT and i mean ALOT of my friends. All my friends still hang out with her and him on a regular basis and very rarely contact me anymore. Ive been dating the same girl for about 3 months now, me and my ex broke up about 6 months or so ago... The girl im seeing now is amazing, she worships the ground I walk on and I do everything for her. My friends say "This is the first time ive ever seen you happy".. But why do I keep thinking about my ex? ((RECAP) we dated for 5 years and were engaged prior to her cheating)) I guess it doesnt help that when I do talk to some other friends they tend to tell me whats going on in her life.. Usually its them telling me how miserable she is and how her boyfriend ****ed her over. Dont get me wrong it feels great to hear that, but I think about her more often when stuff like that comes up. What do I do to stop thinking about her? I dont want to ruin what I have either.. I mean, im a busy person too, I work full time im now going back to school full time and have had a gym membership since our break up (and am now in the best shape of my life!) Any input would be appreciated- thanks!
ADF Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 What you're going through sounds pretty normal to me. Any time you split with someone, even if under ugly circumstances, you are bound to feel ambivelant for a long time afterwards. You wavrer between missing her and hating her. She can leave your mind for long periods then reappear unexpectedly for no clear reason. It sounds like you've moved on with your life, or are starting to. I would focus on that.
Darren Steez Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Leave your ex behind and totally focus on your new girl. Those so called friends that left you are not such good friends aren't they? You might be a little tentative about committing yourself fully to someone in light that you've been cheated on, but roll the dice and be happy with this new girl. At the end of the day it's your happiness that matters..and if it helps, your ex is screwing someone else now, and because she's a cheater she'll never be as secure and happy as she wants to because her relationship is based on dishonesty. Think of it as cleaning out the useless people in your life. Be happy dude!
Reality Drip Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 It sounds like you'd take her back in a heartbeat which is pretty sad considering you were engaged and she proved she wasn't ready. That's very strange that your circle of friends stayed on her side. Perhaps they weren't quality friends or were hoping some of that stray ass would flow their way. I mean, who leaves their guy friend for the ex gal? Be happy they're gone. Hang tight, stay the course with the new girl and let time push the memories out of your head about your ex. Move forward. Progress. Go. Fight. Win.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 17, 2010 Posted June 17, 2010 Dude, the only thing that'll fix it is TIME. It doesn't matter that you're in a new relationship -- it's only been seven months. Your heartbreak will heal at its own speed, and there's nothing you can do to speed it up. In my case, I'd been with XW for 11 years, married for seven. It took me two and a half years to put it behind me emotionally. Don't beat yourself up about it -- you'll have ups and downs but the trend will be overall positive. Just do whatever you can to not let it infect your new relationship.
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