jack5100nv Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I lived the nice life. Got good grades in high school, got into a good college, got my master's degree, respected women, never did drugs, and am very nice to women and guess what no women want to date me. I have been dating for past 2 years vigorously. 3 to 4 women every month. I will be lucky if I get a third date. I open doors for the girl and all the shabang, and nothing. Well every girl I have been mean to and treated badly wants to be with me. I have a friend who has good body, muscles, and no education at all. He works at Ace hardware. He is a jerk as well. He sleeps with a different women every weekend. Women throw themselves at him. One time he went to Vegas and a women bought him a $150 drink, wow. So the conclusion is, all you have to do to get women is have a good body, have good looks and be a jerk, that's it.
Pyro Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I'll pass on those types of women and save myself for the quality ones.
alphamale Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 One time he went to Vegas and a women bought him a $150 drink, wow. that must have been quite a drink So the conclusion is, all you have to do to get women is have a good body, have good looks and be a jerk, that's it. well you don't have to be a jerk all the time, just some of the time
Author jack5100nv Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 I'll pass on those types of women and save myself for the quality ones. Well in that case there aren't any quality women in the world. If there were, I would have a gf.
Pyro Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Well in that case there aren't any quality women in the world. If there were, I would have a gf. oh there are plenty. I have one and I didn't have to be a jerk to do it.
alphamale Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Well every girl I have been mean to and treated badly wants to be with me. well just treat more chicks badly
Author jack5100nv Posted June 4, 2010 Author Posted June 4, 2010 that must have been quite a drink well you don't have to be a jerk all the time, just some of the time Alphamale, your advice is always pretty good. Can you give me a advice on this thread? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t233554/
alphamale Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Alphamale, your advice is always pretty good. Can you give me a advice on this thread? see post #7
crimsonmike Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 While the OP is an overexageration, it never ceases to amaze me how so many women react so negatively to a confident, obviously non desperate man who treats them well. At least 75% of the women I've not treated very well continued to call me well after it was obviously over.
somedude81 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Jerks have the confidence to do what nice guys don't. They are a jerk because they don't care what people think of them.
Pyro Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 While the OP is an overexageration, it never ceases to amaze me how so many women react so negatively to a confident, obviously non desperate man who treats them well. At least 75% of the women I've not treated very well continued to call me well after it was obviously over. and for me I have never treated girls I was interested in badly and I have had plenty of success. Some women like the drama/being treated badly and others don't play BS games like that.
crimsonmike Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Jerks have the confidence to do what nice guys don't. They are a jerk because they don't care what people think of them. I don't think that's it. I have a DGAF attitude, but I do try to treat women well. Not always, but most of the time.
EmeraldHeart Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I like a guy that listens to me. I will be very upfront about what I want/need and expect and ask that he does the same. It makes no difference to me if he holds the door open, pays for dinner, etc. I am interested in a man that has a good sense of humor and is a good listener.
TouchedByViolet Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I am beating a dead horse by posting here but I feel your frustration. Some women have an irrational attraction to men who treat them badly. I have noticed that these women talk about the bad guy in such a way that says "I could never do better than him". Naturally I think to myself wtf? while the girl is totally enamored by the a-hole. An important note to add here is that even if a girl is susceptible to this kind of treatment she will NEVER admit to it.
Green Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I lived the nice life. Got good grades in high school, got into a good college, got my master's degree, respected women, never did drugs, and am very nice to women and guess what no women want to date me. This is what I gussed you were going to say. I have been dating for past 2 years vigorously. 3 to 4 women every month. I will be lucky if I get a third date. I open doors for the girl and all the shabang, and nothing. Dating vigorously for 2 years is an odd way of describing dates with 3 to 4 women a month. I can only assume you meet the majority or all of these women online and that is probably a big part of the problem. Don't people normaly say I'd be lucky to get a 2nd date? Thats why I find it interesting you said "I will be lucky if I get a third date" to me implies you usualy get second dates... Opening doors for girls is "nice" and I have no idea what the shabang is but if its anything like opening doors I really don't know what you expect. If you want a girl to like you, the you need to A) have fun B) have fun with her by KISSING... Do you have fun on your dates? Do you Kiss any of these women on these dates? Well every girl I have been mean to and treated badly wants to be with me. I have a friend who has good body, muscles, and no education at all. He works at Ace hardware. He is a jerk as well. He sleeps with a different women every weekend. Women throw themselves at him. One time he went to Vegas and a women bought him a $150 drink, wow. So the conclusion is, all you have to do to get women is have a good body, have good looks and be a jerk, that's it. Well then at a minimum you could work out and get in shape. And I can't argue with you that I see a lot of bums getting women... BUTtttttttt the quality of those women don't even compare with the hotties you'll meet when you go to college and get a nice career. Just answer my questions honestly. 1) are you meeting most or all the women you date online? 2) Do you TRY to kiss any or most of the women you go on dates with? 3) Are you trying to have fun? Because if you are having fun that is your best chance of your date having fun. 4) Do you go in with unrealistic expectation? Ex. opening a door for a girl means she owes you something. Meeting girls in the real world like a pretty girl you meet at the beach, or supermarke ect.. is the best way to go. You have to TRY TO KISS the girl on the first date. You have to have FUN with it.
sagetalk Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 So the conclusion is, all you have to do to get women is have a good body, have good looks and be a jerk, that's it. Yes, if you are those three things you will get laid like crazy. Is that what you are after? Or do you want a real relationship. Those are two very different things. Dumb girls will sleep with jerks until the end of time, but the best ones want confident guys that treat them well (but not too well). Lose the attitude that you deserve a woman, and get the attitude that you want one really bad.
USMCHokie Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 and for me I have never treated girls I was interested in badly and I have had plenty of success. Some women like the drama/being treated badly and others don't play BS games like that. I'm with Pyro on this one. If a girl doesn't appreciate me for being a good guy, then there's plenty of others who will. I don't need to waste my time with a nutjob.
Serenitynow Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 An important note to add here is that even if a girl is susceptible to this kind of treatment she will NEVER admit to it. I was going to post this but TouchedByViolet beat me to it. I have found over the years, that women tend to not be so honest in forums or real life. I will chat online or in person with women and talk to them about playing games when dating, guess what EVERY one of them tells me " yea a lot of women do that but I dont " So theoretically, if I eventually talk to every women in this country, all of them will say they dont play games. Why do most women stand up for other women,(even when they know they are covering up) but guys seem very quick to give a non biased answer, no matter what sex is involved ? . . .
Lakeside_runner Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Lose the attitude that you deserve a woman, and get the attitude that you want one really bad. Neither is good. Put yourself rather in the mindset that you'd like to share your life with someone. It sounds like you have something to offer. Be happy with yourself and on your own and look for someone to share this happiness with while sharing their happiness as well.
somedude81 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Yes, if you are those three things you will get laid like crazy. Is that what you are after? Or do you want a real relationship. Those are two very different things. Dumb girls will sleep with jerks until the end of time, but the best ones want confident guys that treat them well (but not too well). Lose the attitude that you deserve a woman, and get the attitude that you want one really bad. The one thing not to forget is that the guys who get laid like crazy also end up being super confident. It's a chicken and the egg thing. Did he become confident because he got laid, or get laid because he is confident?
sally4sara Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Well in that case there aren't any quality women in the world. If there were, I would have a gf. Maybe you're not the quality of guy you think you are? Maybe you have personality dysmorphia? I find this to be true of most of the guys with your complaint and opinion of how to correct it. See I support fellows like you not getting any female love. Breed y'all out I say if only to up the IQ level of the gene pool. Damn! this site has seriously been going down the tubes! There are fewer and fewer shining stars to be found in the jaded abyss these days.
phineas Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I've known women who KNEW the guy they started dating was a "player type". Their exact words. And yet they fell for the guy & were surprised 8 months in when he fell off the face of the earth or was cheating on them or just plain dumped them. All the while he treated them like crap. Then they do it again with another "player type" Why? well, he was hot, knew how to entertain them & the sex was good is usually what I hear.
Lakeside_runner Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 The one thing not to forget is that the guys who get laid like crazy also end up being super confident. It's a chicken and the egg thing. Did he become confident because he got laid, or get laid because he is confident? This is the wrong type of confidence though. It's usually not backed up by any other life accomplishments but having a lot of poontag. They very often end up being overly confident, reaching a d-bag/macho level. There are other, much healthier, ways of gaining confidence. Different things work for different people. I found endurance racing works wonders for me. I personally prefer to be the kind-hearted guy who walks with a slight but very confident smile, knowing that he "rules" the 25 yards surrounding him and having a meaningful relationship that goes somewhere, than being a honcho d-bag who fornicates with different women every week.
somedude81 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 This is the wrong type of confidence though. It's usually not backed up by any other life accomplishments but having a lot of poontag. They very often end up being overly confident, reaching a d-bag/macho level. There are other, much healthier, ways of gaining confidence. Different things work for different people. I found endurance racing works wonders for me. I personally prefer to be the kind-hearted guy who walks with a slight but very confident smile, knowing that he "rules" the 25 yards surrounding him and having a meaningful relationship that goes somewhere, than being a honcho d-bag who fornicates with different women every week. Wrong type of confidence? What does that mean? Then you go on to say that men who get confidence because they get a lot of 'poontag' end up being overly confident. How is that possibly a bad thing? I'm pretty sure that the reason I have very low confidence is because I never get laid. Nothing that I do really brings me any confidence because in the end I'm still not getting what I value most. If I had a choice between being unconfident, or being an overconfident d-bag who fornicates with different women every week, the answer is so obvious that the question is ridiculous.
Recommended Posts