bigsby2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 .. and your GF responds all :D :) like nothing is wrong, what do you do? Any time I try to bring up something serious she laughs it off. Even if I go as far to say "this isn't working" it's met by her ignoring it then telling me how great her day was.
TaraMaiden Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 It's a defence mechanism, by the sound of it.... laughing it off and ignoring your comments doesn't necessarily mean that she's not taking you seriously. It might mean that she thinks, if she addresses the issues or listens to you, it will jeopardize everything.... The next time she laughs if off,challenge her. Why does she think it's funny? Are you a laughing matter? is nothing you say going to be taken seriously? Is she quite happy to brush this all under the carpet until she leaves you no option but to walk away? Is that what she wants? You need to be a bit cross with her. and tell her - through your actions - that her attitude is unsettling, annoying and could be a deal-breaker.....
brainygirl Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 sounds like she isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are. It could also be anxiety, some people have trouble facing unpleasant situations and will change the subject or ignore the issue. Have you tried talking face to face, and telling her specifically what's bothering you?
Author bigsby2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 Well we are apart for a little bit so no face to face. I had another thread that went into more detail and basically I was told what I thought I would be told - walk away. Hurts being with her, hurts being without her. I can't find it in me to do it.
brainygirl Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Well we are apart for a little bit so no face to face. I had another thread that went into more detail and basically I was told what I thought I would be told - walk away. Hurts being with her, hurts being without her. I can't find it in me to do it. Hurt now but will give you the opportunity to seek a healthier situation which will be better for you in the long run. Sometimes it has to be done.
CandyGirlXO Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Hurt now but will give you the opportunity to seek a healthier situation which will be better for you in the long run. Sometimes it has to be done. Agree here. I've been there done that. It took me a long time and it was definitely extremely difficult. I got out of a 3 year toxic relationship but sickly he was my best friend and it tore me up to see him cry. I hate even thinking about it...STILL
OceanTropic Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 It could be one of two things. A) She really doesn't care, and if it gets worse, she won't mind if you break up with her, she doesn't seem to be trying to resolve any issues. or B) She is afraid to touch the subject, fearful that it might hurt the relationship, so she tries to act like everything is okay. She is trying to be laid-back and outgoing and try to let things brush over...roll over... whats the expression? Well you know what I mean
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