zakkattack Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Broke up with my ex a month ago because we were arguing all the time. She was treating me like crap and i snapped and we ended it. So i have avoided contact with her since to sort my head out. Now we were meant to be going to DOWNLOAD (rock festival) together... I had a moment of weakness today and looked at her facebook, and she is now going with a bunch of guys. They were already in here friends list but she didn't speak to them the whole 2 years i was with her. But now she's going with them. Damn it hurts. Note that she has never hung out with her guy friends because she had slept with a lot of them and fallen out with all her exes. I know shes bad for me but knowing she'l be there with another guy so close to the breakup kills me
BetterOffWithoutYou Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 of course it's going to hurt like hell!!! i am so sorry you have to go through this. usually when someone moves on so quickly it's to numb the pain of the loss. she is most likely hurt and trying to pretend she's not by surrounding herself with men. its sad that she has to use guys to feel good about herself... this is not the type of person you want to share your life with! it's going to be hard but you will get through it. i hope you can stay away from her FB too... it's only going to cause you pain. try to be as good to yourself as you can! once you heal from this you will be a better, smarter, stronger person and she will be the one missing out!
sandiego Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 of course it's going to hurt like hell!!! i am so sorry you have to go through this. usually when someone moves on so quickly it's to numb the pain of the loss. she is most likely hurt and trying to pretend she's not by surrounding herself with men. its sad that she has to use guys to feel good about herself... this is not the type of person you want to share your life with! Betteroffwithout you...thanks for this. This describes my ex to a T. She is never happy alone, always sad and depressed..then the minute she starts hanging out with another guy, miraculously, her life is "going great"! I know it's needy and immature (my ex was quite a bit younger), probably not healthy. It helps me to remember this. Thanks again, SD
BetterOffWithoutYou Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Betteroffwithout you...thanks for this. This describes my ex to a T. She is never happy alone, always sad and depressed..then the minute she starts hanging out with another guy, miraculously, her life is "going great"! I know it's needy and immature (my ex was quite a bit younger), probably not healthy. It helps me to remember this. Thanks again, SD no problem SD! it is sad that people have to depend on attention to have self esteem. unfortunately it happens VERY often with young women, especially teens. i used to feel this way for parts of my youth but once i recognized the behavior issue i worked very hard to change it. now i love me more than ever before. the problem is that most people don't look at themselves and try to improve, just like your ex. just remember she will probably continue this behavior for the rest of her life... you are much better off with out someone so insecure and lacking self love. there are women out there who do love themselves and have maturity, eventually you will find one who is just right for you! until then keep reminding yourself of the negative aspects of your ex if you start to miss her. keeping yourself present in the reality that you miss who you thought she was instead of the real her will help you stay strong! good luck
sandiego Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 ... you are much better off with out someone so insecure and lacking self love. there are women out there who do love themselves and have maturity, eventually you will find one who is just right for you! That will be a great day! It's interesting how just reading your posts/advice help me to feel better. Thanks again:) I work from home and tend to feel cooped up...it's during this time my mind starts to wander and I can fall into a funk. Fresh air, good advice, and getting out with friends and family sure help.. Thanks again for your support....it's very much appreciated:) SD
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