Bluedestiny Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I put this under the "infidelity" section....I guess it belongs here. I'm in my 30's and currently going through a divorce. There's a cute guy at my gym that I've gotten to know, and I worked up my nerve to send him an email asking him to go out on a date. (He is getting seperated from his wife) The email started out fine, we were going back and forth. Then he asked me if I wanted to "hook-up". He confessed that he's had 3 "flings" with other women, and that he doesn't want anything serious just a "friends with benefits" situation and if I'm OK with that and that it would be just physical and not emotional and if I'm OK with being "used". I told him I'm not sure I'd want to be used, although I'm not looking for anything serious either and I'm really attracted to him. Help!
hopesndreams Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I told him I'm not sure I'd want to be used, although I'm not looking for anything serious either and I'm really attracted to him. Help! Looks like an opportunity for both of you to get your rocks off and that's about it really. You either go along with it, or you don't, no one is holding a gun to your head. At least he's being honest, kinda, in a way. Would have to know his W's side to know for sure.
bentnotbroken Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 What advice are you looking for? Either you accept his terms or you don't. Personally no amount of attraction could force me to degrade myself by getting involved with a man who cheats. "Getting" separated isn't the same a legally separated.
Snowflower Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I agree...about finding out the wife's side of the separation story. And don't take HIS word for it either... Stick around and read some of the stories here on LS ...about how many AP (affair partners) get involved because their MP (married partner) SAYS they are getting divorced. Usually it turns out that the MP is still living at home and their spouse has no idea that a divorce is in the works - cause it's not! If they are well and truly separated and have had 'the talk' about seeing other people then go with your gut instinct about this.
Fallen Angel Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Honestly I don't think his maritial status has anything to do with it. You have already said you don't want to be used, and that is all he is offering you, regardless of if he is married or single. I say move on, there are plenty of guys who will offer you much more. Let this one go before you get your heart involved.
jthorne Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 (edited) NOBODY has ANY advice for me??????According to the Community Guidelines, if you don't get the answer you want on one board, it is not appropriate to re-post on another one: Cross-posting and duplicate submissions Community members are able to see all new posts in all of the forums. Therefore, we expect that you post an item only once, in the most appropriate forum. New posts or threads with the same content or general message are considered identical. Thread titles It is important that threads are easily identifiable and as such we expect that posters will use descriptive thread titles which refrain from making general comments requesting assistance. We assume that all threads posted on the forum are seeking assistance and consider any requests for assistance within the thread title to be redundant. Edited June 3, 2010 by jthorne
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