Kris30 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I've been emailing/messaging with a man I found on pof and we had our first telephone conversation last night. It went well overall. He talked on & on a lot (maybe he was nervous so avoiding awkward silences?). Later he texted me and said he enjoyed talking and was sorry he talked so much. I told him he did talk a lot, but it was ok, he had a nice voice (true). Anyway, I think I know why this guy doesn't have a clue when it comes to dating/women. He just got divorced a year ago about 15 years of marriage. He got married at a very young age (17) so he is pretty new to dating. Does my theory sound right? Also, he didn't mention meeting. If he doesn't bring it up in our next conversation should I bring it up?
Dragon1 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I've been emailing/messaging with a man I found on pof and we had our first telephone conversation last night. It went well overall. He talked on & on a lot (maybe he was nervous so avoiding awkward silences?). Later he texted me and said he enjoyed talking and was sorry he talked so much. I told him he did talk a lot, but it was ok, he had a nice voice (true). Anyway, I think I know why this guy doesn't have a clue when it comes to dating/women. He just got divorced a year ago about 15 years of marriage. He got married at a very young age (17) so he is pretty new to dating. Does my theory sound right? Also, he didn't mention meeting. If he doesn't bring it up in our next conversation should I bring it up? Did you like talking to him? Will you like spending time with him? Will you "click" with him? Bring up meeting next time. Some of you want the date offer in the first call and some after a few calls. Clueless on the rules of dating is easy to fix. Give him a break there. Your theory may be right.
veena7 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Maybe he wants to date you but he is unsure how you will react if he asks you. Regards. Veena:)
Author Kris30 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 I guess we really won't know if we click or want to date till we meet... But I did enjoy talking to him
veena7 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Well at least you enjoyed the moment. I am sure it'll get better. Regards. Veena:)
Author Kris30 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 Ok, so I have a question, probably especially for the guys. The thing is he texts me daily. Every morning, once or twice around lunch time, then several times in the evening. I guess this means he's interested...? But I would rather he call and ask me out on a date! I guess I'll just wait till next time he calls me and mention meeting? If he doesn't call again in the next couple days what do I do? I mean if he just keeps texting?
Dragon1 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Ok, so I have a question, probably especially for the guys. The thing is he texts me daily. Every morning, once or twice around lunch time, then several times in the evening. I guess this means he's interested...? But I would rather he call and ask me out on a date! I guess I'll just wait till next time he calls me and mention meeting? If he doesn't call again in the next couple days what do I do? I mean if he just keeps texting? Keep mentioning you can't wait for him to call and how you can't wait to meet in person. Mention this when you text him back. The other option is you can call him. If he doesn't eventually ask you out after you repeatedly mention how you want to meet in person, it's his own fault. No need to rush things, but if he still hasn't set up a date within say a week, you may have to put him on the back burner.
phineas Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 Keep mentioning you can't wait for him to call and how you can't wait to meet in person. Mention this when you text him back. The other option is you can call him. If he doesn't eventually ask you out after you repeatedly mention how you want to meet in person, it's his own fault. No need to rush things, but if he still hasn't set up a date within say a week, you may have to put him on the back burner. see, the bolded to me just screams attention whore. I've had women drop hints like this on me all the time & then blow me off when I asked them out. I would wonder why they would drop hints instead of just ask me to do something. Your 2nd option is better. The guy is obviously gun-shy. Just ask him. I find it baffling how some women will let a potentially good guy slip away because they insist on following archaic dateing rituals. (he must ask her)
Dragon1 Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 see, the bolded to me just screams attention whore. I've had women drop hints like this on me all the time & then blow me off when I asked them out. I would wonder why they would drop hints instead of just ask me to do something. Your 2nd option is better. The guy is obviously gun-shy. Just ask him. I find it baffling how some women will let a potentially good guy slip away because they insist on following archaic dateing rituals. (he must ask her) Most women expect the guy to ask her out. That's the way things are. If he does not ask her out after a number of days, she may want to ask him out if she is the type who does that.
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