SF210 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Hey I'm 20 years old and I'm a sophmore in my local community college. This past semester I felt like school wasn't taking me anywhere and I was just doing this because its what everybody does after high school, goes to college. I failed 3 out of 5 classes and resulted in my GPA dropping from a 3.6 to a 2.1. I feel very guilty because my parents paid for my classes and I wasted their hard earned money. I feel like Im living a pre determined life. I have great friends and family but I feel like I have no one to talk to. My parents dont understand me and I feel disconnected from them. My brother is 25 and is addicted to painkillers and does nothing with his life and my parents are blind and in denial. I cant talk to my parents about anything. They treat me like a child and are always on top of me because of my brothers decisions and not being a responsible adult. My parents are constantly throwing me money, asking me how my finances are, how my grades are, constantly calling me and just treating me like I cant handle myself. My mother is always telling me occupations I sould consider and bought me a career guide book. More importantly Iv made the decision to enlist into the Marine Corp. I am not going back to college next semester. I want to do something worthwhile with my life and push myself to my limits. I dont know how to bring this up to my parents and I feel like they arent going to support me. Im tired of living in New Jersey and living a life that my parents want me to live. I do love my parents I just feel like I do not have a connection with them. Im very lonely but not depressed. I feel stuck I want to take the next step and enlist but I dont know how to bring this up. I feel like its just going to upset my mother and bring a lot of confusion. My parents are very closed and simple minded and I just dont know what to do.
Green Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 If you think like you are being controlled now just wait until you join the Marines. It will bring that feeling that life is not in your control to a entire new level. If being in the marines is an actual dream then I say go ahead. But if your real dream is to be a scientist... or a stand up comedian.... or to train dolphins or what ever then I say you do that instead. Personaly I think you are making a big mistake, but its your choice. Isn't there a way that you can enlist in the marines now... finish college before entering ... and then enter as some kind of Oficer??? wouldn't that be much better idea?
Author SF210 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 its not the fact that I'm being controlled, Its being treated like a child and having no way of escaping it. My parents don't believe in my abilities to accomplish anything and it hurts. I can finish school and attend OCS (Officer Candidate School) but that would require me to do at least another 2 years of school to get my BA. I only have 40 credits as it is. I would much rather enlist now being im young and have no commitment to anyone or anything.
Dreamwalker Posted June 4, 2010 Posted June 4, 2010 I think if you really thrive to go to the US Marines go for it ! But I tend to agree with Green on the fact that you should do it only if it is a real dream. Concerning your passion, have you think about what you really want to do ? If tomorrow you have the possibility to do anything for a job, what will it be ? I think that by finding the information, and focusing your action on it, you will soon find your life really more appealing. When we do what our heart really wants to do, then we tend to meet success and we tend to "glow". Maybe by seeing you very happy doing what you like your parents will treat you in a different way; or maybe not. But it is your life. Today their vision is blocked by their fears and their past experiences. It is sad but ultimately it is their problem not yours. You should not choose a career because of the challenges of their life path. Find your own power and design your life as you really want. At the end, only you can really know what makes you happy ^^. Whatever your choice, hope you will be very happy and find great pleasures in the next adventures of the coming years ;-)
Author SF210 Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Its something I have been thinking about for as long as I have been in college im not using it as an escape to get away from my problems. I want the challenge, I want the title, I want to be the best the u.s military has to offer. Its just hard to throw everything away that is familiar to me. But I believe with the sacrifices I make I will get much more in return.
Dreamwalker Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 As it seems a real dream of yours then go for it! It is normal to be scared or to have difficulties in making it happen. Maybe you could work steps by steps. For example you could ask for some documentation or meet some recruiters from the Marines. I know that in France people use to go to the Army offices to ask a lot of questions. It will give you a boost for sure. Concerning the parents it is always very difficult to stand up and tell them that it is YOUR life and that you will make some choices that they won't understand. I work a lot with archetypes and as I say on my website, it is very useful to compare your challenge with the one of a heroe of yours. Maybe you could think about how that heroe would react if he was in the same situation than you ? What will he do ?
skydiveaddict Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Its something I have been thinking about for as long as I have been in college im not using it as an escape to get away from my problems. I want the challenge, I want the title, I want to be the best the u.s military has to offer. Its just hard to throw everything away that is familiar to me. But I believe with the sacrifices I make I will get much more in return. Very good move on your part. good luck.
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