Tricia23 Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I was dating a guy for about 1 year, we moved in together and things were good, or so they seemed. To make a long story short, he ended up walking out on me in January of 2010. He wanted to be single and see if the grass was greener on the other side. It took me a long time to recover from that, and where I am now, I'm pretty much over that relationship. I was single for about 4 months, until I recently met a new guy. At first I was very very hesitant to open up, and it caused issues, because he really liked me, and I was being mean, and not opening up like I should. So I decided to let myself be vunerable and open up. As of right now, its been 3 months for us. We are completely on the fast track, as he calls it. We already have deep feelings for one another, we've met each others family, and are moving super fast. I dont mind it, but it seems that I am always trying to find a reason to fight with him. We've gotten into 2 major fights, and it was pretty bad. I always seem to cause the problems. He has his issues, and he does things that arent right, and I think thats because he hasn't been in a relationship for 6 years, but then again I dont know. Why do i seem to cause problems, and fights? I dont see why I do that. I seem to be self distructing any relationship I get into. If I dont stop I really will end up alone, and I truly dont want that. Any advice? Any idea why I seem to cause problems? Am I not wanting myself to be happy, and I am causing problems that I dont even know I'm causing? I love him very much, and I have very deep feelings for him. I dont want to loose him. I'm just a huge mess. Please help!!
Cracker Jack Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I don't think you "don't" want to be happy--I just think your ex did serious damage to you emotionally, and you can't handle the idea of things simply continuing to go well because you've been down this path before, and it ended badly. The best I can say is enjoy your relationship as it is right now. If you love him as much as you believe, you wouldn't allow your past difficulties create resentment with a totally new guy who's never gave you any reason to.
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