Dating site

[Serenitynow]

Do any ladies here use Plenty of Fish for dating ?

 

What do you think about it ?

[sagetalk]

I hope you like getting turned down by girls who you wouldn't even ask out face to face. As long as you're ok with that, go for it. There are very few really hot girls on PoF in the 18-27 age range (depends on your location obviously). I can only imagine how bombarded they get. Now if you're shooting for 30+ age range it gets a heck of alot better.

[Serenitynow]

I'm 39. I've been on since last year. I've emailed at least 50 women ( 5 or 6 a month.

 

No one has replied.

 

oh and my area absolutely sucks for pickins.

[debutante]

I have to hide my profile sometimes. It's a little overwhelming to get a ton of emails every other day. Like anything else, you have to pick and choose as best as possible.

[Serenitynow]

what the hell am I supposed to pick and choose from if no one is responding ?

[debutante]

what the hell am I supposed to pick and choose from if no one is responding ?

 

 

You didn't say that was the situation. I was only giving my opinion of the site.

[Serenitynow]

I've emailed at least 50 women ( 5 or 6 a month.)

 

No one has replied.

Do I need to write it in a language you can understand ?

[sagetalk]

I'm 39. I've been on since last year. I've emailed at least 50 women ( 5 or 6 a month.

 

No one has replied.

 

oh and my area absolutely sucks for pickins.

 

I would think Ohio would have a pretty good selection. There is definitely something wrong with your profile if 50 have denied you. What are your opening email like? Your age range is loaded with hot women online.

 

write something like this:

 

"Subject: Nice teeth

 

Hi my names __________, your profile really stood out. I see that you like to go camping. What parts of Ohio do do like to go camping at? You seem like a desirable person from the description in your profile, but I'd like to get to know you better to find out if my assumption is true.

"

 

 

Take everything that is negative out of your profile. Things like:

 

"I'm a really cool guy, but I'm a fatty"

"I'm awesome, but I have bad BO"

"I use to yell at my ex alot, what a tramp"

"I'm a boring person"

"If you don't like bald guys, stay away from me cause I'm a shiner"

"I hate country music"

"I hate _______"

"If you want to message me don't have these qualities ___________"

"I've been hurt in the past"

"I cry alot"

"If you're fat don't message me"

"No kids please!"

"I'm not very manly"

 

 

Only mention positive things and mention the activities that involve going outside that you like to do. Profile pic needs to be 1 face shot, 1 full body shot of you doing something outside or posing with an attractive woman that's just your friend or sister (say so in the photo).

[crimsonmike]

Do I need to write it in a language you can understand ?

 

 

You like to be straight forward on here, so I'll be straight forward with you. Until you learn not to be so negative, you're SOL.

 

I've hooked up with 2 girls I met of POF, and I promise my area is much slimer pickens than anywhere in OH.

[Serenitynow]

I'm not near any metro areas, small suburb of about 40,000 people.

 

Until you learn not to be so negative

I'm not negative in any way when interacting with a potential date. Its the same as turning it off when you dont swear around children

 

definitely something wrong with your profile

I have emailed many women outa state, and most of them said my profile is great, a fresh break from the typical sludge. And I did ask them to please be honest, not sugar coat it, so I do trust what they said.

 

Oh and I get contacted by attractive women 3- 4 hours away once in awhile but thats too far for me to drive.

 

Just dont understand why no local. I think this area literally sucks.

[bac]

Try site OKcupid. Some people like that more.

[BeautifulMan]

I used PoF. I had to hide my profile, kept getting messages from fat chicks or ugly girls and then flame me for reading then deleting.

 

Girls get so many messages from so many different guys, they might not see your message or ignore it for their own self affirmation. The worst part for me is that I've gotten hotter chicks in person and I probably wouldn't talk to her otherwise so it's a little like "You're saying no to me?"

 

I enjoy getting to know the cute girls, pushing their limits and then F-closing them.

 

People say a free site is good to expand your options and a paying site is for serious people but do what you wish.

[USMCHokie]

Try site OKcupid. Some people like that more.

 

 

It's the best site I've ever been on...

[123BeachFan]

Great luck for me on POF. But then again I'm in a major metro area. I've met some quality men on there. I don't like the way the photos get distorted, and the Hide feature isn't fully hidden (just prevents you from coming up on new searches).

 

OKCupid has much better features, but no luck whatsoever in terms of finding someone date worthy. The tests and questionnaires are loads of fun, though.

 

Match.com is chock full of idiots.

 

E-harmony and chemistry cost money and the amount of prescreening you have to go through before you are even allowed to communicate just baffles my mind. Suprised they don't make you disguise your voice when you're finally allowed to call the other person.

[sagetalk]

Oh and I get contacted by attractive women 3- 4 hours away once in awhile but thats too far for me to drive.

 

Just dont understand why no local. I think this area literally sucks.

 

Unbelievable! You're saying your area sucks for girls (so does mine) but you're turning down attractive girls?!? Are you nuts? Go out with them. Three or four hours, who cares? They are messaging you, that means their interest is already high, you're job is almost done! If an attractive girl 3 hours away messaged me, distance wouldn't even be a factor. Come on, you're killing yourself.

[OpenGL]

All dating sites are virtually the same.

 

Below average and fatties get 100's of emails a day

Above average men get no replies

 

Being a tall 9/10 or 10/10 male is the only way to get any amount of success on any dating site.

 

Being very lucky or being very rich sometimes helps.

 

I actually found a great article about internet dating in general that basically proves how much of a sham it is, ESPECIALLY paid sites. Online dating is actually in decline (membership/profits/market share). I predict that online dating as a big business will cease to exist in 10 years or so (when virtually all men figure out its a sham and stop paying for sht that doesnt work, which is ALREADY happening).

 

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/04/07/why-you-should-never-pay-for-online-dating/

 

GREAT read.

[Green]

Nothing beats the real world. You have to go out there and be bold. Romantic, and ask women out. Show them good times out and about. KISS them

[Serenitynow]

If an attractive girl 3 hours away messaged me, distance wouldn't even be a factor. Come on, you're killing yourself.

 

Thats because I want a relationship, for how many months am I supposed to drive back and forth for hours to see her ?

 

You are a typical guy that likes the distance because that allows you freedom for more hookups.

 

Most people that enjoy long distance relationships are in it just for the sex but the long distance gives them the excuse to fend off any normal relationship.

[veena7]

Hi:

 

I have come to learn that a lot of fake profiles are there on such sites.

 

Regards.

 

Veena:)

[brainygirl]

I use POF and have met some guys from it. The thing distorts pictures so badly that I am honestly suprized to hear people complain about ugly women messaging them - how can you tell from a low quality thumbnail? (Although men who complain about being single and about ugly women and fat girls contacting them in the same breath deserve what they get in my book).

 

Its like any other dating pool, some losers looking to get laid, some people looking for relationships, and a lot of nut cases.

 

I also use OKcupid, its more scientific with all the questions and tests and you can make a journal and compare your answers to things to other peoples. The site is more fun, but I've had less luck meeting people on there than with POF. I suspect its because my POF profile has different pictures on it and if I got ambitious and put up different stuff the profile would bet more hits.

 

But attitude goes a long way. I wont respond to someone who's profile is full of bad mouthings about women. No negative EX talk, no list of no this and no thats. Even if the girls reading it fit your list, they aren't interested in someone who comes off as shallow and rude.

 

And your in your late 30s and don't want any one with kids or who is over weight or might have baggage? How do you get to that age without baggage of your own? Two big huge red flags as far as I'm concerned right there.

[Morals]

I use POF and have met some guys from it. The thing distorts pictures so badly that I am honestly suprized to hear people complain about ugly women messaging them - how can you tell from a low quality thumbnail? (Although men who complain about being single and about ugly women and fat girls contacting them in the same breath deserve what they get in my book).

 

I use POF and OKcupid. To me POF is the "myspace" of dating sites. While OKCupid is the Facebook. Meaning, I've had more "fake" profiles, and I've come across more half-assed profiles in POF. POF just has a lackluster audience in my opinion. OKcupid seems to draw in a more serious crowd.

 

I would like to mention that, women here are constantly saying they shouldn't "settle" but it's ok for the guy to "settle"? Bit of a double standard don't you think? I have to agree, I've gone on 3 "dates". I get about 1-2 messages a week from each site (POF/OKCUPID). I'm not bad looking, but alot of the people that message me just really don't attract me physically, or they don't have the personality type I'm looking for. It's a bit harsh to think that guys can't be picky just like women.

 

But attitude goes a long way. I wont respond to someone who's profile is full of bad mouthings about women. No negative EX talk, no list of no this and no thats. Even if the girls reading it fit your list, they aren't interested in someone who comes off as shallow and rude.

 

I agree, negatives are a no-no. I will say this much, too many profiles have the overly-happy tone in them. Being yourself is the most important thing.

 

And your in your late 30s and don't want any one with kids or who is over

weight or might have baggage? How do you get to that age without baggage of your own? Two big huge red flags as far as I'm concerned right there.

 

I don't see how this is a red flag. To me a person who is 26 or younger that has kids is more of a red flag. It shows they didn't have the restraint or foresight to not get pregnant at an early age. A guy in his mid-late 30's that doesn't have kids or a relationship is AT WORST...overly cautious. Which is not bad by a long shot.

 

Funny how a 26-yr old girl with an 8 year old daughter isn't considered a red flag by most (Read: That means she got pregnant at 18). But a guy in his mid 30's without kids is....

 

Oh life and it's little ironies.

[brainygirl]

I use POF and OKcupid. To me POF is the "myspace" of dating sites. While OKCupid is the Facebook. Meaning, I've had more "fake" profiles, and I've come across more half-assed profiles in POF. POF just has a lackluster audience in my opinion. OKcupid seems to draw in a more serious crowd.

 

I would like to mention that, women here are constantly saying they shouldn't "settle" but it's ok for the guy to "settle"? Bit of a double standard don't you think? I have to agree, I've gone on 3 "dates". I get about 1-2 messages a week from each site (POF/OKCUPID). I'm not bad looking, but alot of the people that message me just really don't attract me physically, or they don't have the personality type I'm looking for. It's a bit harsh to think that guys can't be picky just like women.

 

 

 

I agree, negatives are a no-no. I will say this much, too many profiles have the overly-happy tone in them. Being yourself is the most important thing.

 

 

 

I don't see how this is a red flag. To me a person who is 26 or younger that has kids is more of a red flag. It shows they didn't have the restraint or foresight to not get pregnant at an early age. A guy in his mid-late 30's that doesn't have kids or a relationship is AT WORST...overly cautious. Which is not bad by a long shot.

 

Funny how a 26-yr old girl with an 8 year old daughter isn't considered a red flag by most (Read: That means she got pregnant at 18). But a guy in his mid 30's without kids is....

 

Oh life and it's little ironies.

 

Yeah, I've seen the same picture of the same guy on two very different profiles for POF. Needless to say, I didn't contact him.

 

I think there is such a thing as being too critical. With the profiles you practically can get a complete life story and its very different from getting to know someone. So I tend to be less picky with online profiles, but if the guy gives me bad vibes or is rude in person, I'm done.

 

I had a kid when I was 17, I also graduated high school, college and have two master's degrees. I definitely think that having lkids is seen as a liability when dating, but I am more likely to be forgiving of past mistakes if they have their crap together now, than someone with a long list of no nos and I don't wants.

[DollWelch]

Funny how a 26-yr old girl with an 8 year old daughter isn't considered a red flag by most (Read: That means she got pregnant at 18). But a guy in his mid 30's without kids is....

Now, this is ironic !

 

The truth is, a 26 year old woman with an 8 year old daughter is not considered a red flag. Why? Because plenty of men would rather date her, than date a 35 (+) year old woman that's past her peak, and has her life set in stone.

 

The older women are usually the ones that are seen as red flags. "Why haven't you met a man yet at your (35) age yet?" - "No good ones left!" - "Excuses! Excuses! Excuses!" is what men hear.

[bella16]

After my last relationship being as awful as it was I gave up and said I wouldn't date for a longggg time. Well I heard about POF and decided what the heck and made a profile...this was a month ago btw. Well only 2 days into having this profile, I was getting messages from men almost every minute. None sparked my interest.. I am picky but jeez I didn't know I was that picky. With the way my luck has been with guys, I guess I have no choice but to be picky. So I got a message from a verrrry goodlooking guy who is my age, who lives 20 minutes from my area. We talked a couple days on POF, then added eachother on facebook, then exchanged phone numbers.

 

We texted and talked over the phone for days. We talked about everything...I havent even met the guy in person, yet it felt like we knew eachother for years. It was the weirdest thing. So we set up a date that next week. He came over to my place to pick me up for our date, he met my roomate and I showed him our house. Our date went perfect. It was an instant connection. It was like we really knew eachother for years. Neither of us were nervous or shy...I've never had that kind of connection with anyone I've dated, let alone someone on Plenty of Fish!! I just wanna say, he is now my boyfriend. I've met his family, he met mine and we met eachothers closest friends and I couldn't be happier. One day I almost gave up and wanted to delete my profile, then the next this guy comes out of nowhere and now we are in a relationship all thanks to that dating site! We have been inseperable since we met, and I finally am happy again. I know its just the beginning, but we are so comfortable around eachother its really shocking to me because I've never been with someone who is as caring as this man is with me. He gives me his undivided attention and wants to be with me all the time when me and him arent working (which is something im not used to).

 

There are people out there for us, you just have to give it a chance. I did and now I couldnt feel more lucky and be more happy that I did!

Edited June 3, 2010 by bella16

[OpenGL]

So I got a message from a verrrry goodlooking guy who is my age, who lives 20 minutes from my area. We talked a couple days on POF, then added eachother on facebook, then exchanged phone numbers.

 

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: