Brady_to_Moss Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 How many of you have only picked based on looks? On a scale of 1 to Giselle..i am about a 5..not that great at all which i believe is where the problems start...if a guy can feed you some BS lines and such and hes a 10..will you walk off with him rather than a 5 who isn't the best looking but can actually talk to you without shivering?
teanoranges Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 depends.. I don't really find typical 9s or 10s to be my type.. but if I don't know the person and he's like a 7 or 8 and I feel up to flirting, I'll start flirting based on looks. if we're talking and he's really cool and nice.. that's usually added some points on the attractive level... .. ... not that I even judge on a scale, but I figured I'd talk your-speak. haha. This coming from a 6-7 girl.. sooo I couldn't tell you what the 9s and 10s judge upon.
Eeyore79 Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 If a guy was really handsome, I'd expect him to be unfaithful because of the sheer number of options he must have, and it would turn me off a little. Handsome guys make me feel a little insecure; you're much more secure with a less attractive guy because he's less likely to stray. But I tend to think of personality and intellect as being much more important than looks anyway... as long as he's acceptable looking then other factors take precedence...
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 like most men go for good looking women, most women go for good looking men. thats just the way it is. the good looking man can be poor, unemployed and a drug addict and he'll still get chicks.
legallyblonde289 Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 How many of you have only picked based on looks? On a scale of 1 to Giselle..i am about a 5..not that great at all which i believe is where the problems start...if a guy can feed you some BS lines and such and hes a 10..will you walk off with him rather than a 5 who isn't the best looking but can actually talk to you without shivering? looks are pretty far down the list for me, im usually into guys who are moderately attractive but are fun to be around and can make me laugh.
Pfiend101 Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 like most men go for good looking women, most women go for good looking men. thats just the way it is. the good looking man can be poor, unemployed and a drug addict and he'll still get chicks. Yup I see women all the time date these jobless losers. Who have absolutely nothing going for them besides their looks.
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Yup I see women all the time date these jobless losers. Who have absolutely nothing going for them besides their looks. indeed .
teanoranges Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 hmmmm, this is tough because of course looks is the only thing you can judge on someone you haven't talked to... sooo if I were to "Pick" a guy to 'woo, I would have to base it on looks? (or reputation/other's opinions) but if I were to know this gentleman beforehand or if HE started the woo-ing first... then other factors will come into play... definitely more important than looks. Felt I needed to elaborate because I felt like I seemed like a jerk stating all those numbers previously... I don't translate my thoughts well. But I do want to note that not all unattractive guys have such shiny wonderful personalities.. as I'm sure not all attractive guys are douchebags.
brainygirl Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I can't speak for others, but the guy I currently see, I thought he was kinda homely when I first met him. He's more attractive to me now because I know him better. That being said, I've decline dates from men who were VERY unattractive to me.
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 That being said, I've decline dates from men who were VERY unattractive to me. well i would hope so brainygirl
OpenGL Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Every woman picks men primary for looks. Nearly every woman on this forum will deny it.
Serenitynow Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Many women will look at a guy, and think ahead of how he will be judged by her girlfriends. Well at least decent looking, social girls, trashy girls are usually just lucky to get any crumbs left over
alphamale Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Every woman picks men primary for looks. Nearly every woman on this forum will deny it. indeed OpenGL, ask any guy who was fat and didn't get any dates and then lost a lot of weight and had chicks all over him
Ruby Slippers Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Here's how I rate the most important factors to me: 1. Compassion/warmth/passion for life 2. Strong values and ethics that are compatible with mine 3. Intelligence, intellectual curiosity 4. Free-thinking mind and creative soul 5. Looks
Jersey Shortie Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I've been turned on by very good looking men. I've been turned off by very good looking men. I've been turned on by average or even not stereotypically good looking men and I've been turned off by average or even non stereotypically good looking men. What have I learned from this? For me, that chemistry and attraction doesn't equal looks.
Woggle Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Do you really expect honesty when you ask a question like this?
alphamale Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 For me, that chemistry and attraction doesn't equal looks. ahh but that is where you're wrong JS....chemistry and attraction DO equal looks to a certain extent.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 ahh but that is where you're wrong JS....chemistry and attraction DO equal looks to a certain extent. This is different for different people. I've had "hot" boyfriends who were idiots and I didn't feel much for at all, and I've dated nerdier, more average-looking guys who were brilliant and free thinking who totally made me swoon. Appearance alone does almost nothing for me. I can get why people are turned on by the person, but just a nice package doesn't light my fire at all. And I realize I'm in the minority here. When I go out with my friends, they immediately scan the room for the best-looking guys and flock to them. And then later complain that they are *******s.
alphamale Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Here's how I rate the most important factors to me: 1. Compassion/warmth/passion for life 2. Strong values and ethics that are compatible with mine 3. Intelligence, intellectual curiosity 4. Free-thinking mind and creative soul 5. Looks well RS I would say its more like: Money/ResourcesLooks/Physical attributesConfidenceSexual PerformanceIntellect/Personality
Ruby Slippers Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 well RS I would say its more like: Money/ResourcesLooks/Physical attributesConfidenceSexual PerformanceIntellect/Personality Maybe for other people. Not for me. Most of the points on your list fall into a lower tier of importance for me. Sexual performance and confidence are encompassed by passion.
Chrome Barracuda Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 like most men go for good looking women, most women go for good looking men. thats just the way it is. the good looking man can be poor, unemployed and a drug addict and he'll still get chicks. Yep, girls love guys with swagger too. he could be a jerk but as long as he looks good, but then again looks arent everything.
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I picked my guy for a couple of reasons: the way he looks at me with his incredibly sexy 'bedroom' eyes, the way his skin smells, how he makes me laugh, how sensual he is in general, etc. He is not the sort of guy that women would look at and think 'wow, he is hot', and he can be a bit of a prick to people at work sometimes. He is not muscular or tall, nor is he insanely rich. He is about my height and a tiny bit overweight, but he's mine and I love him. I feel safe, warm, sexy and wanted when I'm laying in his arms, and he feels the same way when he is in mine. He is amazing in bed as well. I'd take him over "looks" (tall, model-looks, muscles, rich) any day. When he asked me to marry him, I didn't hesitate to say 'YES'.
Woggle Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 From what I have seen Alpha's list tends to be the most accurate.
teanoranges Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 I'm curious... how many women find it attractive when a guy likes to tell you that all women go after looks, money, etc? and blatantly says you are lying if you say differently? I don't think I'd be attracted to that kind of a guy. but.... of course, if he was handsome and rich I might make an exception.
Author Brady_to_Moss Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 Something else i should add...money is a HUGE factor i think. My mother works at a private golf course and the people there are loaded. I see men that are about a 2 or a 3 on a 1-10 with a drop dead 10...and when you see this and that he/she is driving a range rover or a Benz AMG...you know she married for money...you just know..i think money is rated more than looks actually. I remember about 4 months ago there was a poll in the Boston Herald that stated that 43% of women that married...were influenced by money is some way..only 19% of men said this...women do marry for money from what i see and read...thats why i am trying to get rich lol
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