jthorne Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 i want to thank everyone for their unbiased opinions and i appreciate the brutal honesty....met up with the MW last night for dinner and let me tell you....if it couldnt get any more convoluted......discussing how she is an adventurous person in the bedroom-how she would and wouldnt do certain things("i draw the line"-now mind you-dont know if it means with hubby or transgressions-either way-not for me to ask)....then as we are leaving...discussing making me a drink sometime with a new machine she just got....can't go to either one's house.....discussed about making dinner.....said we'd have to find somewhere(doesn't want to do a hotel room because of our "new friendship"???ok.....what would your hubby say to that(he STILL does not know of me)....then,she gives me a "birthday kiss"-we both had the same bday....as many LSers have said on here-what would your spouse think if you saw them doing that to someone else?but i tell you though..the sexual tension was soo thick....jesus.....thoughts,opinions,would like them all....and one question...can the MW have re-emerging sexual feelings for her A partner even though she is sending mixed emotional and physical feelings..like she is?I don't see any mixed signals. I don't know why you do. She's toying with you plain and simple. Ever heard the terms "tease" and "flirt"? She does it because she likes to. And you do too. What's the problem here?!?!? Can't figure out why she won't let you back in her panties?
Author shawnm789 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 I don't see any mixed signals. I don't know why you do. She's toying with you plain and simple. Ever heard the terms "tease" and "flirt"? She does it because she likes to. And you do too. What's the problem here?!?!? Can't figure out why she won't let you back in her panties? jt-thanks for always being so refreshingly and brutally honest.....youre right....we both like the attention and its fun for both of us.....simple as that....if she ever let me back in her panties thatd be pretty interesting.....
Fight4Me Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 califnan-well stated....and for me....its difficult because i sometime finding myself being obsessive over the fact that shes having another PA or EA with another man...but i ask myself this-if she were my wife/girlfriend could i trust her?absolutely not....and the fact her husband is completely clueless on this shows that she has no regard for her marriage at all..... As opposed to you? my wife pretty much damages my ego instead of pumping it up....all about her.... As opposed to you? ..and i probably have done more with her/for her in a year thank her hubb y has done during their marriage(10 years)..... Maybe if you put half the work into your own wife/marriage, you wouldn't be so obsessed over someone else's. So far, everything I've read from you reveals an incredible fixation on yourself, which actually translates to insecurity. The OW knows she can string you along because of it. It honestly doesn't sound like she has any feelings for you other than amusement.
Author shawnm789 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 As opposed to you? As opposed to you? Maybe if you put half the work into your own wife/marriage, you wouldn't be so obsessed over someone else's. So far, everything I've read from you reveals an incredible fixation on yourself, which actually translates to insecurity. The OW knows she can string you along because of it. It honestly doesn't sound like she has any feelings for you other than amusement. here's the thing-i have been..really,really have been....but its tough when you are trying to get your own wife to do things with you,be intimate,share details about whats going on for bills,etc....and i do not have a fixation on myself or an egotistical side.....you know-she probably is stringing me along and i am too much of a sucker to realize it....and its insulting to think of another human being using someone like that..in any regard.
ladydesigner Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 here's the thing-i have been..really,really have been....but its tough when you are trying to get your own wife to do things with you,be intimate,share details about whats going on for bills,etc....and i do not have a fixation on myself or an egotistical side.....you know-she probably is stringing me along and i am too much of a sucker to realize it....and its insulting to think of another human being using someone like that..in any regard. I agree. That is why I went through an immense amount of anger towards my XOM. We had both agreed to "fooling around" in the beginning but ended up falling for each other. In the end, when he ended the A, he pretty much stated that he was sorry if he led me on... blah blah blah... why tell someone you love them if you know you are using them:mad: My XOM was the first to admit strong feelings, the first to say he loved me, and the first to end it. He stayed with his girlfriend of 5 years and I am staying in my M. Guard your heart especially if you feel like she is stringing you along. It's probably best to just end it now. The longer this goes on the harder it gets to end and get over things.
Author shawnm789 Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 I agree. That is why I went through an immense amount of anger towards my XOM. We had both agreed to "fooling around" in the beginning but ended up falling for each other. In the end, when he ended the A, he pretty much stated that he was sorry if he led me on... blah blah blah... why tell someone you love them if you know you are using them:mad: My XOM was the first to admit strong feelings, the first to say he loved me, and the first to end it. He stayed with his girlfriend of 5 years and I am staying in my M. Guard your heart especially if you feel like she is stringing you along. It's probably best to just end it now. The longer this goes on the harder it gets to end and get over things. what i have decided on is to let it be what i will.....she is not leaving her family nor am i-and thats how its gonna be....she can live her life as positive or as negative as she wants-no matter what....and if she chooses the latter....her hubby will have something to say about it.....same with how i conduct myself and how my wife would react....
bittersweet memories Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 ..and i probably have done more with her/for her in a year thank her hubb y has done during their marriage(10 years)..... hahaha..you would like to think that. Doubt it though.
lilagirl Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 Shawn, I believe she is missing the endorphins of a relationship. her happy marriage may be one of comfort, although I really don`t know... its fun, and exciting and a change from being a wife and mother. I don`t think it is about "cake eating" as i don`t believe in that line of thinking. I just think she is at a crossroads or even a slump in her marriage... not enough to want to leave, but enough to not feel fullfilled all the time...Which IMO is a natural marriage... cant all be intense love. Life happens. When she is with you - life stops. Thats a nice distraction, regardless if you are "happy". You are playing with fire though. Once real feelings get involved, and it sounds like they are coming with her increased communication, you will both have some very tough decisions to make. Good Luck
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