ryanrabl Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 So my ex-gf and I have been hanging out a lot lately.We broke up more than a year ago because of the long distance relationship we had while we were in college (i have graduated now..she has a year left).I go to school in UCLA and she attends a college in Boston.We broke up and she quickly found somebody within 2-3 months.Anyways,we both are home for the summer and have been hanging out a lot lately.She still has a boyfriend and i asked her if its ok that we hang out and she says that her current boyfriend doesn't really care.She considers me her best friend and I really do love her,she is an amazing girl and an even better friend.We really do have a special bond that we share and do care about each other.Whenever we have problems in our life (whether its about her boyfriend or about my personal problems) we always console each other.We have gone to the movie theaters,we have grabbed lunch and we are probably going to go kayaking and clubbing soon.We are going to take a road trip soon as well..but my question is this-is it wrong for me to continue hanging out with her?We have so much fun together and just have great chemistry (and yes, she has been very faithful to her man ). Both her and I think we will one day end up with each other because we are best friends and because our relationship could not be topped (she continuously tells me how amazing of a boyfriend I was).We haven't let go of each other and continue to keep each other in our lives.I just want to know what this "situation" is and If im doing something wrong.
Cracker Jack Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Nah, you're not doing anything wrong. You're ex, however, is. She's stringing along the poor fellow; but if he really is fine with you guys hanging out, then it probably doesn't really matter, anyway.
Mimolicious Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I highly doubt her BF is all chirpy about how the two of you are all bff's! You are not doing anything wrong and she is not doing anything wrong (yet). I actually think that is a better approach to remain close 'friends' if you guys really think that you are each others future. This way your relationship may not be tainted. JUST FRIENDS- not friends with benefits. Maybe this is not your time to be in a romantic relationship with each other and if it's meant to be the time will come. Just keep the friendship clean. You don't want to turn it into a roller coaster. She should not have a BF for the time being though. Then again, who knows what her BF is doing. LOL!
Author ryanrabl Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 Thank you so much!I think you are absolutely right
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