romer Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 When I first posted here I could barely get out of bed in the morning. My ex was on my mind constantly, and it was torturing me. I didn't feel any hope, cried constantly, lost 15 pounds, basically walking around on auto-pilot. We'd been together 16 months, and I truly believed that he loved me. He was my best friend, and we'd been through so much together, his sister and my mother both died...we were there for each other. When he decided to end things, I was utterly devastated. I found this website, and the healing began. I decided to forgive him, and in doing so all of the weight came off of my shoulders. I talked to him, and got the closure that I needed. It's now 3 months later, and I can honestly say that I am almost back to normal. He is not on my mind most of the time...and when he his, it's not for long. I feel hopeful about my future, and I am happy right now, for the most part. So, if you are the one who needs to forgive, then just do it. It will free you.
USMCHokie Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 This is great to hear, Romer. Like we tell everyone, it's just a matter of time...some take longer, some take shorter...but in the end we all move on...
Cantcope Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Thanks for posting! Did you go NC immediately? I don't know the exact date that I would consider the exact break up date, but I guess it's close to 2 months for me, however I'm back at Day 0 of NC. I don't think it will be too much longer for me though. Feeling pretty good, though it may just be an up day. Congratulations to you on your success!!!!!
Author romer Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 We had NC up until about 3 weeks ago. When he broke up with me, he seemed to be really sorry about it, and I just pushed him completely away because I was so angry and hurt. As time went by, the hurt became less an less, until eventually I felt I could forgive him. I sent him an email basically saying that there are no hard feelings, hope he's happy, etc. He texted me that night saying he got the email, and was sorry for everything. We talked that night for about an hour. I know that we are over, and I've accepted it. I have no false hopes about us reconciling, because I know it's not going to happen. So, I am moving on.
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