mrdelmonte Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Hi guys and gals. I'm in a bit of a predicament..... I've been happily (mostly) married for just over a year, my wife and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years. I'm 30 and she is 38. I do love her very much but we aren't as close as we used to be. The last six months or so have been very strained, we've moved house twice and she was made redundant, I am self-employed. Finding work has been difficult for both of us. I joined an amateur dramatics group not far from home about 5 months ago. It gets me out of the house and helps me escape the daily grind. I've met many new people and made some wonderful friends, one in particular. As a matter of fact, I am playing opposite her in the theatre and we have to share a kiss on stage. I've gotten to know her very well over the last few months and we've often joked about snogging each other's faces off, etc, etc. We actually shared our first kiss a fortnight ago in private. We couldn't stop at one kiss though and ended up kissing for over an hour. Ever since we have stolen a kiss or a hug or a cuddle every chance we've had. Whenever we are apart I feel like there is something missing and she feels the same. We both find it difficult to restrain ourselves. I feel about her everything that I feel for my wife only much more so. I can't even bring myself to make love to my wife any more because I cannot stop thinking about this other woman, I just keep handing out the tired excuse. It's not even a simple case of leaving my wife for this other woman. She is stuck in a relationship of 6 years. Her fiance is suffering from depression and her financial status doesn't give her a hope of leaving the family home. I too am in a similar financial position, although not quite so bad. Oh, and she is 18 years older than me too. Anyway, she wants us to spend a night or weekend together soon. I can't think of anything I want more. I definitely need some time away from home, the tension is driving me crazy. What do I do? I'm stuck with one hell of a moral dilemma
JustJoe Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 OP, there is no moral dilemma here. Simply a matter of either choosing to fulfill your marriage vows, or not. If you cheat on your wife then you essentually have no morality. All of your reasons to cheat, your feelings for this OW, etc, are merely excuses to cheat, and have no moral weight. Either do the right thing or don't, but don't try to call it anything other than what it is. Cheating.
123BeachFan Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 You're in an affair and cheating on your wife. Simple as that. You need to decide to either repair your marriage, or get out of it. But get out of the marriage first before you decide to start sleeping with (or swapping spit with) a new woman.
crimsonmike Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 op, there is no moral dilemma here. Simply a matter of either choosing to fulfill your marriage vows, or not. If you cheat on your wife then you essentually have no morality. All of your reasons to cheat, your feelings for this ow, etc, are merely excuses to cheat, and have no moral weight. Either do the right thing or don't, but don't try to call it anything other than what it is. Cheating. +1........
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