bolase Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 (edited) I posted a longer version of this in the friends forum, but would love any advice from anyone, similar experiences or just...advice..I don't know what to do. I have this friend. We've been each others' female rock since we moved to the same town together 3 years ago, lived together (with others) for the last year. But she tends to get very jealous whenever something happens between me and any guys. She has been single since I've known her, not out of lack of interest from guys, but she is very insecure especially about her body image. The only guy she has seriously liked in this time is one who has a girlfriend (but still flirts with her and blatantly likes her, making it really hard on her). Even though she's doing 'better' than me in some ways, very successful workwise etc while I'm still studying, she can't seem to be happy for me when things go right, or even want to listen to me talk about a guy, even though she'll listen to other girlfriends about their love interests. This really upsets and frankly annoys me - if she's interested in our friendship she should listen to my love issues right? I always listen to hers and love to, same with any of my close friends. Recently (6 weeks) I started seeing a guy who is a mutual friend. He actually used to like her, although in a sexual or romantic way I'm not sure, when we all first met, and aftr that she rejected him a bunch of times and makes fun of him sometimes. Anyway that passed, and 3 years down the line theres been this spark ignite between the guy and I. She threw a fit when I told her we were dating, saying she didn't want to know about it, and that she was jealous because he used to have a crush on her. She admitted that its nothing ot do with her and she understands Im just following my heart, but still got upset. Last night I said 'can I talk to you about (x) now?' at which she got really defensive, asking why? saying 'why dont you go out with him then? I told her she'd asked me not to talk about it, but she's important to me, as is he, and i wanted ot be open as it was now official. She went quiet, and later said 'just one thing, can you please never bring him over, the thought of you two having sex is gross' etc. I said ''never..?!" and she said, well eventually..She said she doesn't like him, and I reminded her that she rejected him. Whats worse, I always feel like I have something to make up to her, and I find myself being super nice to her, and not pulling her up on anything she does. thoughts? Edited June 2, 2010 by bolase
kassy Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Sometimes friends need to be broken up with - this is one of those times.
Author bolase Posted June 2, 2010 Author Posted June 2, 2010 I am scared to do that as we have so many mutual friends - very nearly every friend in this town..of course, there are plenty I'm closer to, or vice versa..but she and I also live together. What should I say? I know I need to get out of this living situation but I feel like we should talk before we part ways...i'm getting so angry that she thinks she can treat me like that..and sad
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