marmaliade Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 My previous story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t195804/. In short, the guy DID come back after few months and said he is ready for commitment, we started being in long distance relationship, he met my family, everyone knew that he's gonna engage in the end of june and we'll get married in the end of september. We used to visit each other, but distnce was doing it's own thing. That's why we couldnt wait to start living together... The situation. Something like 3 weeks ago, we had an arguement, it was about his family, i was tired and didn't react properly and it was money situation. anyways. We didnt talk for few days, than he called me back and agressively said that is i want to be his wife I HAVE to do this this and that. He also started blaming me for everything, disrespecting and so on. The final straw was shen he said I ruined his life, I asked him to control himself, he didn't so I hung up. He didn't talk with me for a week. Then he called and said that we dont fit each other (he consulted with other people), he feels bad and so on and we should break up. He started blaming me for things that didnt happen, he said he doesnt believe I'll be a good wife for him. He said he wants to break up, but misses and loves me too much. I said I want to work it out. He started backing away. I told him if he wants just to blame me, then there's no point in doing anything. In the end he said he'll give me alist about things he doesn't like and if I'LL MAKE HIM BELIEVE I SEE THOSE THINGS LIKE HE DOES, then he'll think about second chance. Afterwards he told me to talk to his brother's wife, but i doubted that she could tell me something new and make me see a situation in different kind of way, he flipped out again. So now, he said he's not coming at the end of the month, when he had to propose and instead he went to see his friend abroad (i think he spent the money of the engagement ring on that trip). The day before i asked him to explain what's going on (are we over/should I wait). He ignored me and later just wrote me that he wants to clear his head from me. The other thing is that he deleted me from everywhere (facebook, skype and so on). and a firend of mine said that she saw on his profile written that he's looking for someone (I don't know if it's a "joke" or serious"). What should I do? I didnt contact him for more than a week already. I feel pretty hurt, that he talked to other people instead of me and everything was ok till the last second and he made it clear that he put his family and friends first (We palnned to buy a dog for our home, in the end he said that he never wanted it and would give the money to his brother, though i said I would buy it with my own money). Any comments are welcome...
KafkasLastWords Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 I know this hurts and it is probably hard for you to see things clearly, but don't you think you deserve better than someone that can actually talk to you like that? I mean what would it be like after a couple years of marriage? He seems completely unreasonable, controlling and immature from what you've described. It is easier to want to stay with someone you have invested so much time and emotion with but easier doesn't mean better... I hope this works out for you in the best way possible.
Author marmaliade Posted June 3, 2010 Author Posted June 3, 2010 I hope this works out for you in the best way possible. Thank you for nice words, i am still confussed inside. But anyways thank you for your reply. Read your story... How do you feel? Anything new with the guy. Im really sorry for your breakup
sugarmomma Posted June 3, 2010 Posted June 3, 2010 see your signature. he is very immature and neither of you are ready for commitment. Do not contact him since he just wants you to kiss his azz.
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