I have a little issue with a girl im talking to!

[dmueller9834]

So before I talked to this girl I seen her at our campus rec center several times. This was in the last part of 2009. Then I didn't see her since. I tired online dating and I searched within my area and her profile came up. She I messaged her and we started messaging back and forth. I drove to her town and took her out to dinner, everything seemed to go good during our date. I noticed some things that kind of worried me:

 

1) she stirred her water class with her straw and she looked down while she talked to me (sometimes)

 

2) She wound her hair around her finger while talking to me but then she looked down at times while talking to me

 

3) I asked alot of questions about herself

 

4) I wore a green shirt and she complimented me on how my eyes match the shirt very well (i kind of LOL'd inside)

 

5) Her hug at the end didn't seem very "lasting" or "true"

 

6) I am personal training her and I told her to send me her email and she did like 1 1/2 hr after our dinner date

 

7) This date happened on a wednesday, and i didn't talk to her again until saturday, when I told her to call me after she got of work and she didn't. She texted me the next morning saying she was sorry. and that was early sunday morning, now I haven't talked to her since. I told her to call me like monday and she never did and now she NEVER texts me back (This thing with her not texting or calling just happened out of the blue!)

 

8) Before we met up she was SUPER EXCITED she said about going out and stuff. Now all of a sudden she just won't return my texts and I called her yesterday and left a voice mail and she didn't call back:/

 

All advice and input are both greatly welcomed!!!

 

Thanks,

 

Devin M

[crimsonmike]

I'm not the best at this, but I just got through dealing with an issue like this.

 

Normally if a chic is playing with her hair while talking to you, that's a VERY good sign. Looking down is not really a bad sign. Look off to the sides is.

 

The girl I'm talking to now doesn't half return my texts and just about won't call me. However, when I do get in touch with her she's obviously extremely into me. They like to be chased. They can't help it. I don't even think they realize they are doing it half the time.

 

I'd give her a few days and, if she hasn't contacted you, give her one more call. If she doesn't respond, I'd move on. I'm sure some people will tell you not to chase her and how pathetic it is, but if I'd done that I wouldn't be talking to the girl I am now.

Edited June 2, 2010 by crimsonmike

[dmueller9834]

I'm not the best at this, but I just got through dealing with an issue like this.

 

Normally if a chic is playing with her hair while talking to you, that's a VERY good sign. Looking down is not really a bad sign. Look off to the sides is.

 

The girl I'm talking to now doesn't half return my texts and just about won't call me. However, when I do get in touch with her she's obviously extremely into me. They like to be chased. They can't help it. I don't even think they realize they are doing it half the time.

 

I'd give her a few days and, if she hasn't contacted you, give her one more call. If she doesn't respond, I'd move on. I'm sure some people will tell you not to chase her and how pathetic it is, but if I'd done that I wouldn't be talking to the girl I am now.

 

Thanks man, I just didn't know why like "POOF" all of a sudden she doesn't return my texts or calls. She told me that she wanted to hangout again and that she really enjoyed dinner and what not. I give it a couple days and then call her back and go from there.

[jamal]

Dude, this whole thing about her playing with her hair and stirring her water is actually a good thing. In fact it is just a sign that she was a nervous wreck and didnt wanna blow anything with the guy she likes (you).

 

I would say call her again but not immediately. I would say call around Friday. This has 2 advantages.

1)It gives her time to anticipate your call therefore showing that you are not desperate.

2)It is a perfect day to come up with a weekend outing suggestion

[dmueller9834]

Dude, this whole thing about her playing with her hair and stirring her water is actually a good thing. In fact it is just a sign that she was a nervous wreck and didnt wanna blow anything with the guy she likes (you).

 

I would say call her again but not immediately. I would say call around Friday. This has 2 advantages.

1)It gives her time to anticipate your call therefore showing that you are not desperate.

2)It is a perfect day to come up with a weekend outing suggestion

 

Ok thanks, I just didn't know if the stoppage of communication was a bad thing, since it happened just out of the blue. I hope she likes me cause I really like her so far!!

[crimsonmike]

Ok thanks, I just didn't know if the stoppage of communication was a bad thing, since it happened just out of the blue. I hope she likes me cause I really like her so far!!

 

They LOVE to be chased. It's not just human females. To give an example (and show what a redneck I am) when hunting deer in the rut, does who are in heat and ready to breed will run from bucks. They will run and run. The poor guy will chase and chase, fight other bucks, and chase some more. His tongue will be hanging out his mouth. He'll have battle scars. Most of them don't eat or drink much during this time. Just before the poor buck falls over dead, the doe stops running. Then he finnally gets some (unless I shoot him first. )

[dmueller9834]

I just hope she is still interested, I don't want to be thinking that she is interested in case she is not interested. Like she use to text me ALL THE TIME and no out of the blue she just stopped. I called her yesterday (tuesday) and she NEVER called me back.