thatguy100 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I will keep most of the relationship details out, but me and my ex dated for a total of 1.5 years. First time we broke up was due to me just not being able to deal with what was going on in my life. My grandfather had a massive heart attack and was in the hospital for 3 weeks, my aunt became ill. My ex girlfriend was just hanging around her best friend more then me, and well then I went into a depression. For about 5 months, once I got out of it and me and my ex started to talk again and well we fell for each other once again. We dated only for 1.5 months, and during this time we agreed we both messed up with our first try and well thought our second try would be better. We both went to a club and enjoyed it. She asked if she could dance with other guys and that i would be given full permission to dance with any other girl I choose. I thought it would be fine so I said sure, I didn't realize how hurt I would get by seeing my (ex)girlfriend dance with another guy. So I confronted her told her about how i felt and she then turned and said well it is who I am and I am not going to change any time soon. So that was the moment where I knew the relationship was done, that I could not feel the drive to continue on wards. She said when she broke up with me that she didn't love me anymore and that she saw her self settling down with a guy like me, but not to get my hopes up that we would be together again anytime soon. She then about 4 weeks after we broke up she said that I shouldn't have let a guy come in and take her away from me. (These two things were said when I found out she had a new boy friend and I said I knew that she had a new boy friend). Now fast forward to present date, we talk on a regular basis. We go to lunch and even plan stuff out to hang around. Like some of the stuff I find I may get her boy friend mad at her for or me for. Such as lunch or going for walks. I just want an opinion on the situation.
northstar1 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Do you have any feelings for you ex still? Do you hope you get back together and by spending time together she'll want to come back? And if she tells you details about her bf will it bother you? If you answer yes to any of these honestly, then no you can't be friends now. Be honest about why you want to be friends with your ex. Many are not and say they 'want them in their lives because they care about them'. Then a month later they are devastated when their ex tells them about how happy they are with their new partner.
random122 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I will keep most of the relationship details out, but me and my ex dated for a total of 1.5 years. First time we broke up was due to me just not being able to deal with what was going on in my life. My grandfather had a massive heart attack and was in the hospital for 3 weeks, my aunt became ill. My ex girlfriend was just hanging around her best friend more then me, and well then I went into a depression. For about 5 months, once I got out of it and me and my ex started to talk again and well we fell for each other once again. We dated only for 1.5 months, and during this time we agreed we both messed up with our first try and well thought our second try would be better. We both went to a club and enjoyed it. She asked if she could dance with other guys and that i would be given full permission to dance with any other girl I choose. I thought it would be fine so I said sure, I didn't realize how hurt I would get by seeing my (ex)girlfriend dance with another guy. So I confronted her told her about how i felt and she then turned and said well it is who I am and I am not going to change any time soon. So that was the moment where I knew the relationship was done, that I could not feel the drive to continue on wards. She said when she broke up with me that she didn't love me anymore and that she saw her self settling down with a guy like me, but not to get my hopes up that we would be together again anytime soon. She then about 4 weeks after we broke up she said that I shouldn't have let a guy come in and take her away from me. (These two things were said when I found out she had a new boy friend and I said I knew that she had a new boy friend). Now fast forward to present date, we talk on a regular basis. We go to lunch and even plan stuff out to hang around. Like some of the stuff I find I may get her boy friend mad at her for or me for. Such as lunch or going for walks. I just want an opinion on the situation. She really doesn't sound like a keeper. She wants to dance with other guys (ok i guess), basically says you're Mr. Right but not Mr. Right Now (run), and then starts this up again while she has a new boyfriend... It's not like you were unavailable when she decided to go with her current boyfriend. She just sounds like she's not serious... this is especially the case if you let her know you needed her after your father's heart attack and she still wasn't there.
Yamaha Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 I wouldn't want her as a friend. What does she do to enhance your friendship? Are you paying for these lunches?
Author thatguy100 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Posted June 1, 2010 I don't know, I have been trying to figure it out. I guess its someone to talk to I guess? Honestly all my friends that I have bring something to the table and well her we have yet to see, these meetings are just preliminary so we feel each other out. I don't pay for her lunches, honestly its her boy friends job. I don't do anything that I wouldn't want my girlfriend doing with another guy.
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