elletothemoon Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 My boyfriend and I have been together for four months. An old friend who I happened to have dated came to town about a month ago, and I didn't end up seeing him but told my boyfriend about it anyway, in a conversational tone. This set off what has been a month-long nightmare of jealousy; every time a friend brings up the past (whether or not another guy is mentioned) even as far back as high school (I've just finished college, my boyfriend is 28) he gets anxious and quiet, sometimes leaving the room, and feels the need to talk to me about it later. He quit facebook because he's afraid he'll see pictures of me from the past, possibly with other guys. He's a very intellegent guy and this beginning to scare me. I played the field but was never promiscuous, no one-night-stands but a few short relationships. He's had two serious relationships before me. This seems to be driving him insane. Any advice would be welcome.
stace79 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 On first glance, this does seem pretty irrational. You need to ask him directly about it one day when you have some time to talk. If he is indeed jealous of "your entire past," there's probably not much hope for him. I mean, you've only been together four months and he's already behaving this way? Seems pretty immature. Maybe he should move to the midwest and find a nice girl with no previous boyfriends.
jnj express Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 You don't need this kind of bull in your life---everyone has a past--- Sounds like this is not someone you wanna be with----he is gonna cause you grief everytime you even look at someone in the future. You been with this 4 months, not even a serious situation, yet he is going off the deep end, about you just talking to other men----fly away from this guy as fast as you can
ADF Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 My advice to is dump this guy asap. I know that sounds harsh, but hear me out. Maniacal jealousy is a sure sign of controlling behavior, and men who are controlling are also usually abusive. You may not have seen this side of your BF's personality yet, but I bet you will.
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