Lysander Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 So recently met a girl who goes/went to my school . We went out and seemed to hit it off well and one thing lead to another and we both agreed that we rushed into things . We kinda got into a disagreement about what we wanted as far as what we wanted. She says she likes me but she's trying to "Figure things out" (seeing other people) . I will admit that I rushed things a little bit too much and she does not like to rush things. she admits that she messed up too(yay not all my fault). We have talked briefly (and by briefly i mean BRIEF because i didn't really know what to say ). She's going through summer classes and transitioning to a new school and new major. Her new school is about an hour away and i know next year is going to be critical year for my future and what I want. As i'm writing this message i'm starting to come to the conclusion that i'm better off leaving this as a friendship. I like her and would love to pursue but she's a pretty girl (she's a fashion model actually) and i know guys are going to be over her. So how do I go about telling her that I want to start over without being all lifetimey and awkward about it? I can't stop thinking about her. But when she said she was trying to figure things out by talking to other people and the fact that she was moving (where the single guys are on the prowl) putting everything in perspective, it kinda threw me in a loop and I basically just had the mentality of "What's the (insert a certain f word) point?" The time we met again she didn't even want to kiss me. After really thinking about it, I realized that I was rushing things and coming on too strong. I haven't heard a thing from her (She may not be interested, after all "She's just not that into you either" clearly states that. I think it's BS but whatever) and I don't want to text her or call her and have her think i'm clobbering her. She's in the process of summer school, getting her life together and moving. The last thing she needs is some man nagging her about when we can hang out. Also I need to make sure my life is on check. I would like to be able to be there for here to take her out and pay for the both of us and not even think about it. But all i could do was thinking about my faults (too careful of a driver, absent-minded etc.) . Another thing I felt is that my singing and career is going to be on the move next year and there are going to be times when I'm not going to be there. Her being as pretty as she is.. I felt like she could eventually hurt me and I don't need that when i'm in the process of auditioning and performing. I just don't have the emotional capacity to handle that. I do like her and I want to pursue. I just don't know how to go about saying this. Sorry.. I'm on a tangent
ConflictedGuy27 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 She says she needs some time to think; I say you give it to her. Just back off the contact for a few weeks and she'll come back on her own. Even if she doesn't, after enough time elapses where you dont talk/text each other you'll have a reason to catch up. I say just back off for a few weeks.
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