secret29 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 oh god i feel sick! I'm meant to be going through no contact with my ex who has only recently dumped me but today I had to call him because we have unresolved money decisions to make regarding our holiday we have booked for august, money he owes me and my bond on the flat we had. These things have got to be sorted to i rang him so we can meet, discuss and get them out of the way. but after speaking to him my hands are shaking, i feel upset, scared, emotional and like i'm about to throw up. I was hoping he would say i could meet him today or tomorrow but he said he won't be free from work till friday evening....thats ages away!!! I suggested i just come round to his work when he's on a break but he said he didn't want me at his work. I asked him why and he just said he didn't. I don't get why not? I know there is a girl that has just started working there (exactly the same week he dumped me) and he kissed her last week. she is engaged so he says nothing will happen between them but i kinow they have been flirting and i'm so scared he's sectretly seeing her or something. Is that why he doesn't want me to go to his work? he works in a pub. Why does this have to be so hard? he is just getting on with life so easily and i'm just a mess...a total wreck. I just can't cope anymore.
SadKitty78 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Aaawww...sweetie, you are having post breakup anxiety! I felt that way immediately after as well. I wanted to see him, was always paranoid about whether he had already moved on - everything was just so horrible. I felt like someone punched me in the stomach and wanted to vomit and sometimes couldn't even breathe! It's natural because someone who was such a huge part of your life is now gone. You are now struggling with them being no longer a part of your life so you cling to whatever you can, but you have to remember, IT IS OVER! You two are broken up for a reason. No contact, as cliched as it sounds, really is the best and only way to heal. Trust me! I know it's hard, I mean, look at me, at almost 2 months on, I'm still struggling with it, and even went back once (I saw you commented on my thread which I responded to), so just stay strong, and don't try and hide your emotions, just feel it, but also accept the fact that it's over and work on moving on!
Scarlett513 Posted June 1, 2010 Posted June 1, 2010 Deal with the money thing and then avoid avoid avoid. I know it sounds childish but it's what I wish I had done. It's so much easier just to not know what's going on with them, to put them out of your head, and take any idea of reconciliation off the table. I'm so sorry you're hurting. I think all of us here know how you're feeling. It gets better, I promise.
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